I cannot take your 'respect ace people' in fandoms seriously when you are in same breath imply that you see a specific half of ace people not real/valid. Someone explores their experience of being an ace and you claim it to be an erasure because it's not how YOU see aceness.

You can want a very specific asexual experience to be portrayed more, you have your right to it. But then you just basically demean others' experience? You moralize your preferences and judge others by theirs and then frame it as 'I just want to complain'? No, you straight up say other asexuals who have different experience and different desires than yours are bigots and aphobes by your words.