well… rafa was right about saying some people might be okay with the secret and some people might hate it 😬 lazy writing aside and how they wiped a chunk of season 1 aside, im a bit let down about carlos’ insistence on total transparency with tk while not giving him the same back thats kind of my only hiccup with this.

im not actually surprised about the carlos-iris storyline cuz his coming out was the first big thing we learned about him, it nearly fractured his relationship with tk and possibly drove away past partners and overall he was just harbouring a lot of pain about his parents’ reaction to it. he also became more complex as a person cuz we saw 3 seasons of tk’s character growth and handling his addiction and past trauma and now carlos’ past is surfacing. people have their own past traumas and experiences and the being in a relationship is understanding how to make that work and how can you support each other and where to draw a line y’know?

and idk if im trying to give too many excuses or trying to make this make sense 😭 but iris was gone right after season 1 and so was michelle and it might’ve seemed like carlos didn’t have to worry about her anymore? and combining that with his surprise about tk coming back to him after their big post farmers market fight, i dont think he ever thought his relationship with tk or any person for that matter would ever get to this point so why bother sharing. cuz he should’ve explained why his parents dont know about tk but he didn’t so in my head it sort of checks out.

that being said, lavender marriages are a thing, gay people getting married to save face is a thing and so is this health benefits situation like i know people within my peer circle who married a gay friend to help them out while both continuing to date separate people 🤷🏽

especially if carlos was young when he made that decision, that sheer panic of coming out to parents and being on shaky ground and feeling like its only a matter of time or one misstep before the rug gets pulled out from under your feet and you’re cut off from the family. and he’s latino who probably grew up very integrated in the extended family and loves them enough to want them in his life. that what i make of this, just my two cents.

anyone who’s upset are completely entitled to that of course it is lazy and it feels like it backtracks all the progress made and i get why people might feel like they lost a little bit of love for the character.. i let out one big sigh when i saw the scene lol but im glad they’re not dragging this out and its a one episode thing cuz i dont think i can handle more of it.