Just saw someone post in the anders main tag a list of his 'red flags' among which are that he is self deprecating/insecure in the relationship, that he 'talks about politics all the time' and that he has no personal friends. Like I very much understand it not being the romance for you, you don't HAVE to do it! But do realize that the people who are into it are into it precisely because he doesn't change as a character completely for your sake if you romance him lmao