okay so i talked about being trans in menzo many moons ago and how the nydallas fared but ive thought about it more cause of course its more complex than what i wrote originally (this is what happens when you dive deeper into the fixation. you start retconning headcanons)

initally transitioning in menzo is incredibly difficult, not in the sense that magic items/rituals that change your body are barred from you (assuming you have the money for them, of course), but socially there's a lot of scrutiny and violence to avoid/overcome. Minisstra had to work twice as hard, be twice as brutal and fanatic just to prove her womanhood in her early adulthood. Iphis was frequently violently punished for dressing masculine, and his harassment only stopped when he had Minnie's protection.

even then, they only earned tolerance in Menzo because they fall into gender roles good enough. like, aside from their reputations being "anyone who misgenders me loses their head", there comes a point where most people realize despite their personal views, Iphis looks and acts like a male should, so being the only person calling him a female will just make them look crazy (same applies to Minnie in the other direction)

so yeah. thats the short of being openly trans in menzo; you only earn respect by overperfoming gender and showing people what happens when they fuck with you