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nexyra · 3 years

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RWBY's Love Language - Part 2

Hello friend ! I'm back at it with a second part and whatever character I can think of ! (Among which best boy Oscar because he deserves it, and also more adults)

Let's go !

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Oscar Pine

So ! While I love Oscar with my whole heart, honestly guessing his Love Language is no easy feat. One thing for sure : touch isn't is thing even if it's how everyone else chose to communicate their love.

I saw a post a while back detailing how Oscar is always putting his hands up as a barrier when he's scared or uncomfortable and that makes me cry a little instead but it's true TT. Anyway...

In the latest volumes we've got quite a bit of comforting Oscar-talks but I have to wonder how much of that is due to Ozpin's influence really. As a result I've decided to settle on... Acts of Service or Quality Time ! This is based on a few details : when people are upset with him in one shape or form, Oscar was always very eager to prove himself useful, give some aspect of concrete help (such as cooking a Casserole, ringing any bell ?). Plus I imagine that's the exact brand of help his Aunt would have needed most on a farm. Added to that, he always seems fairly happy to be included, be with the others no matter what's going on. Training ? Yay ! A movie with Jaune & Weiss ? Smiling puppy look. Fancy party ? Shenanigans together ! So yea, I love seeing my boy loved and hugged but please everyone settle for the loving he's most comfortable with <3

“She made a choice! A choice to put others before herself! So do I.”

“Oh, uh, yeah. I thought you guys would appreciate a hot meal after... spending all day looking for me, apparently.”

“No, it's okay. These past few days, I've been scared of the same things you were. I don't know how much longer I'm going to be... me. But I did some thinking, and I do know that I want to do everything I can to help with whatever time I have left.”

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Ozpin

For our favorite immortal wizard aka not quite dead Headmaster... I think the answer is rather obvious. When you're so careful with your words, but also so fiercely devoted to humanity, Words of Affirmation is a must. Ozpin constantly does his best to calm, to reassure. He's good at controlling the conversation and getting people where he wants... Except he more often than not use it to make them think and help them reach an healing ore motivating conclusion. This man is so insisten on giving and cultivating hope, so painfully aware of just how much words can change... There's no doubt in my mind that it's through these very same words that he tries to fight the darkness in others' mind, even when they don't want to let themselves be persuaded. And with some help from the farmboi, Ozpin is gaining in honesty and earnestness. And that can only help in giving comfort.

But to be honest... If you offer him a hug I doubt he'd refuse, and he definitely deserves one. Also therapy. For Oscar too. Everyone in therapy 2k21.

“Ruby. I've made more mistakes than any man, woman, and child on this planet. But at this moment I would not consider your appointment to leader to be one of them. Do you?”

“It's not every day that friends are able to come together like this. Time has a way of testing our bonds, but it's nights like these that can help keep them stronger than ever. Nights like these are ones we'll never forget.”

“Don't worry, Mr. Arc. Your journey is far from over, and the same might be said for all of you. Unlocking your Semblance isn't the end. It can still grow and evolve. Providing you are willing to put in the work, who knows what could happen?”

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Emerald Sustrai

Now here I'm gonna go ahead and say that the way Emerald has been taught to express her love and the way SHE would rather preffered to be loved most likely do not align. At the side of someone like Cinder, and even Mercury who isn't exactly the most emotionally vulnerable person; the only brand of love that gets an easy pass is Acts of Service, and that's probably what Emerald is the most used to. I can go on a mission with you. I can help. We go right back to the "I can be useful" mentality and I'm not sure she's been shown any other way honestly. Let's be real though : if someone offered a hug or some gentle words ? She'd probably pout & fuss but I hardly doubt she'd object.

“I don't care about Salem! But I owe Cinder everything. You want to fight her that bad? Be my guest.”

“I just... Cinder was the only family I ever had. She cared about me, taught me things... But without her here, I don't know if what we're doing--”

“I've been working on my Semblance. I can help. I won't tell anybody.”

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Pyrrha Nikos

What's with everyone and dedicating their whole love toward just helping their teammates anyway they can ?! Stop ! But any way, you guessed it. I'm pretty sure one of Pyrrha's top way of showing love is Acts of Service, and nothing means quite as much to her as Quality Time. For someone who's been put on a pedestal and has a hard time relating to people; both touch and words can be a bit awkward. But if they're wrapped up neatly in a training session or semblance explanations ? Well that's already a more familiar area. Pyrrha gives her whole to her friends and those she cares about. And in exchange, if anyone can simply... be there and spend time with her... May it be at the ball or simply sitting in the courtyard... I'm sure our girl would be delighted.

“Jaune, you know if you ever need help, you can just ask.”

“I'm constantly surrounded by love and praise; but when you're placed on a pedestal like that for so long, you become separated from the people that put you there in the first place. But thanks to you, I've made friendships that will last a lifetime.”

“I'll do it. If you believe this will help humanity, then I will become your Fall Maiden.”

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Qrow Branwen

If I say Gift Giving for the corvid, is someone gonna hit me ? Come on it's fun ! Okay, more seriously... I think this kind of love conversation is kind of a necessity for Qrow. With a semblance such as Bad Luck, making everything complicated... Qrow tries to keep his distance from those he cares about. And since he's an emotionally repressed (but caring) asshole on top of it... Well that kinda narrows down his option. You know what DOESN'T put anyone at risk but can still bring smiles on their face ? GIFTS. Shiny things, souvenirs from his missions all over the world to give to 2 smol nieces. Sounds safe right ? That said, as any good emotionally unavailable character in this show, I gotta say Qrow probably has a thing for helping out and making himself useful in relation to Oz, Tai or the rest of the inner circle. So you know what that means *whisper* Acts of Service.

That said ! When it comes to receiving some love back... Qrow probably likes everything he doesn't allow himself to have. Soft touches, loving & comforting words, spending time with a friend without his semblance making everything complicated... We know that's all he wants.

“You idiot. I know you didn't do this.”

“Look, pal, I'm not sure who you are, but you need to leave my niece alone.”

“No one wanted me... I was cursed... I gave my life to you because you gave me a place in this world... I thought I was finally doing some good...”

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Clover Ebi

And among our newbies (and gone too soon) friends we have Clover ! Clover was a very good contrast to our dusty old crow but also a great help. Kind-hearted, perceptive and honest; he knew just how to put Qrow's self-loathing in his place and push him to give himself some credit. He always had a nice word or a joke for everyone, and visibly the rock of the Ace Ops : an expert a keeping the moral up and the mood companiable. Evidently, Words of Affirmation was his expertise. Had things gone differently, I'm sure we'd have had time for many more earnest and helpful conversations with this teal-eyed fisherman.

“It's a good thing they had someone to look up to and get them through it. Not everyone is so lucky.”

“I meant deflect a compliment. Those kids wouldn't be where they are without you. You've had more of an effect on them than you realize.”

“We don't have to fight, friend.”

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Winter Schnee

And today in the "emotionally unavailable" category we have... Winter Schnee ! TALK ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS PEOPLE ! Just - I would say look at Ruby but even she doesn't talk about her bad vibes... Nor does any of the "Words of Affirmation" peeps. Honestly what's wrong with y'all people ? Anyway Winter cares so much. Is it hidden behind professionalism and a stern *big sister* demeanour ? Sure. But it doesn't negate just how much she loves her closed ones. She's fiercely loyal, and even if she doesn't let her personal feelings get in the way of her duty and doing what needs to be done, no one is allowed to say she doesn't care. Countrary to Weiss, Winter doesn't seem as good nor as aware of the love that exists in simply *being* with people. Rather, she's dutiful and ready to help any way she can when given the chance. You guessed it, yet another Acts of Service kind of love... Maybe I'm doing this wrong XD. I'm on the fence about Words of Affirmation as well. Despite her standoffish looks, Winter has always been very open & reassuring during her discussions with Penny. But she's more stern when it comes to Weiss so I dunno x)

“I don't recall asking about your ranking, I'm asking how you've been. Are you eating properly? Have you taken up any hobbies? Are you making new friends?”

“You've grown up a bit, haven't you? You're not the little girl clinging to the family name anymore.”

“You can't just buy trust like everything else! You have to earn it!”

And that's it for Part 2 ! I might do some other characters if people suggest some but I don't have a pressing need to right now. I have many ideas of songs to apply to various characters however so that's prob what my next posts will consist of (or fun templates)

If anyone has tips to create RWBY gifs or links to download the eps in good quality I'll take it ! Good day everyone !

#rwby #oscar pine #emerald sustrai #ozpin #winter schnee #qrow branwen #clover ebi #pyrrha nikos #love language #fair game #love langauges

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epicwriting · 3 years

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Good and evil in me; dealing with friends...?

The greatest good and evil that I have, both reside in the same place; my mind. My body isn't my greatest possession. Anything external to my body isn't either. I don't even own it. I'm just entrusted with these things. So what is the greatest thing I borrowed? I think it's my common sense, or the ability to distinguish. I borrowed it from god, just like every human. But why write about something so positive? Nobody cares about me praising myself into the sky right?

Because god also entrusted me we a great amount of anxiety, and the tendency to be depressed from time to time. He even lend me so much anxiety that it interferes with every aspect of my life; professional, relational and social. I therefore call it the greatest evil in me, because it interferes with duties that I think I have to the common good. I've asked god to take my anxiety back from me, but he doesn't work that way. I guess I have to use the greatest thing he gave me then, my common sense.

The medical road...

I've had therapy but it didn't completely root it out. And what's not eradicated entirely tends to grow stronger and becomes more solid over time... I've even been given the option to take medication, but I have my uncertainties about that. At first, it were mainly the side-effects that made me doubt. Now it's rather the very effect that medication might have on me that worries me.

What does medication for anxiety and depression tend to do? I think they make you more calm, but also less sensitive. It's mainly that last part that I have a problem with. If it gets rid of the anxiety in me, then doesn't it also affect my common sense? Doesn't it just take the greatest evil, but also the greatest good from me? If the greatest good I have is what I am, wouldn't I then become a different person?

But I don't want to be a different person. That is the last thing I want. Therefore it's also the last solution I'd go for. I've been dealing with anxieties my whole life and I'm not in a hurry. Every second of my life counts, but I'm not wasting them... Because I'm not running away from my problems, but I'm facing them.

Or the real road...

Perhaps I need a change of scene. Perhaps I need to shake things up, get out of my routine, move somewhere else... Not as a holiday, but as a new beginning. Old, rusted habits are difficult to change if you stay in the same place. Wherever we go, we always bring ourselves. However, our environment always whispers a certain message to us. It seems that in the west, or at least where I live, my environment is trying to tell me that I'm inadequate and need to improve. The 'difficulty level' as I like to call it, is high in my perception.

I will not elaborate too much on this because that's a topic on it's own. But let's say some people describe living in the west as a 'rat race'. This can of course be an underlying cause for anxiety to those who are prone to it.

Speaking of being prone to it; I probably am. This gives me more reason to think of my environment if it has some sort of correlation with anxiety. From experience, I know that there are other, often poorer parts of the world, where the people respond differently to you. In some places this difference is positive.

I think it boils down to the fact that in other places, people might have a different life-philosophy. Sometimes even very different from the place you originate from. In certain places, they might have a more positive or approving attitude towards you, without any effort from your part.

Whether they actually should think highly of me I don't know. But as long as my intentions are pure, what's the problem? I think I can be a better human being if my anxieties are less. And that would be my motivation to try living elsewhere.

The choice

Coming back to my question as to what I should do. I think I could give things a try in a different part of the world. I'm less than 30 years old and I think I am in good enough shape to endure some stress that will definitely come along with this. I don't think I'm on the verge of insanity, nor have I already lost my mind, so a direct treatment with medication isn't a direct necessity.

I hope you enjoyed this rather personal story about my internal thinking process. Of course I do not know for certain whether I will pull through with moving abroad. We never know what happens in the future. Certain events can make us choose differently than we thought, and that's OK. I think it's OK to have a plan for the future, but we must always remember we live in the now. We must only act at the moment when the stars align and it becomes clear what we should do at this very moment.

Disclaimer

This story is very much about myself; I'm aware of that. But I would have written it even if I didn't have a way to publish it. Writing this helped me to structure my thoughts and to consolidate them. Perhaps it is interesting for the reader as an example of a critical internal thinking process regarding big challenges in life.

#writing #creative writing #philosophy #stoicism

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