So im watching this playlist of a bunch of youtubers reviewing the last decade of goodreads awards winner by genre because i love people rightfully shitting on goodreads but like? One of the ones i watched was romance because yeah obviously and the woman who reviewed was like really into the romance genre and im geniunely not trying to be a cunt but i dont understand how someone can be geniunely into the romance genre like!!!! You like books where nothing fucking happens? And a lot of her criticisms were like there wasnt enough romance because it was just a subplot or there was too much stuff from other genres and like.....yeah? You have to like you cant carry an entire book on one relationship like sure thats an opinion because i literally dont understand romance books but like????? Like idk im not trying to be a cunt but like WHAT is appealing about a pure romance book???

Why are so so against aces? Do you not think it's a valid sexual orientation? I'm sorry to bother you :(

its no problem, sorry for the late reply. i am not against aces. im gonna put this under a cut bc it got SUPER long, sorry

first off, aces are valid or whatever but i see it as a modifier to an existing orientation, not an orientation by itself (aka saying u are just asexual makes no sense. saying u are an asexual lesbian does make sense)

im really worn out mentally right now so im sorry if this is rude. i would just like to be clear about my opinions. i am an exclusionist, so i dont think cishet aces/aros are lgbt. i also dont think people who dont like anyone (ace/aro?? idk) are lgbt. lgbt is not a fun exclusive club and i dont understand why cishet aces want to be oppressed so badly. lgbt people are literally dying.

i also dislike the split attraction model thing bc it fucked me up a few years ago. i dont like how kids (~13-15 yr olds on this site) are being influenced into coming up with a label describing the sexual attraction they feel and publicly stating it. these kids are doing nothing wrong and there is no need at all to bully them i just think theres a problem with the adults who think this is acceptable and not gross. i understand that ace/aro is a meaningful part of peoples identities but it makes me uncomfortable when people “headcanon” a young character as ace, especially if the kid is lgbt or lgbt coded(? idk if thats the right term lol)

i have seen many instances of cishet ace people being extremely homophobic on this site - using the word “allosexual”, using the q slur often (sometimes even as an umbrella term which i DONT agree with), making lgbt/racism issues all about them, stealing lgbt terms, etc etc etc. thus, please understand why i am wary of cishet aces on this site. its really so disgusting. i specifically remember when the pulse shooting happened a year ago and i was sobbing and terrified and on this site to find more info and to calm myself down i saw ace people somehow managing to make it about them and even having the nerve to condemn gay clubs. yes i know that was a run on sentence im sry

its also frustrating for me when people say “ace people are lgbt!! what else would the a in lgbtqiap++++ stand for!!!!” because if an a is even included, which it doesnt have to be, it stands for ally. to me, and i think in a historical sense, an ally is a person who is gay/bi/trans but isnt able to come out. i could be wrong on the historical thing. also im pretty sure some homophobe coined the whole “ace stands for asexual” thing

obviously if you are gay/bi/trans and ace you are lgbt. its just not because you are ace. it is because you are trans and/or experience same gender attraction. that makes sense, right?

i know ive been posting a lot of discourse lately and its because its pride month and i just want cishet aces to let our community have one fucking month lmao. sorry that its long and please let me know if you need me to elaborate on anything. i can assure you that i love my ace mutuals and i have nothing against ace people in general.