So, first off, this is not an attempt to kink shame (dubcon and noncon are great!) but I do keep seeing a thing in fics (I do NOT see this irl in kink spaces nearly as often) where like. A character will interrupt the flow of the scene to check consent

And I don't mean in an "are we still green?" Or "what's your color?" kind of way, but I mean. The author has tagged the fic and indicated via prose and/or author notes that they are doing their Due Diligence to make sure this fic is Righteously Consensual from top to bottom, No Question About It

And a character will ask for full sexual consent either directly or indirectly or renegotiate the boundaries of the kinks being practiced AFTER the sex acts have already begun.

Here's the thing: horny brain isn't great at making decisions! irl in kink spaces, there's often a lot of emphasis on negotiating BEFORE the scene begins, perhaps even with a space between negotiation and the scene if it's with a new/unfamiliar partner (maybe it's a few minutes while things are set up, maybe the partners negotiate a day or more in advance! It depends!), and not changing the parameters of the scene after someone is already horny or god forbid already in subspace.

Again, these are perfectly fine rules to break in fiction, when the author is aware of it (most characters are not going to be fully familiar with safe, sane, consensual practices and the traffic light system, nor would we want them to be!) but I'm increasingly finding fics where the author DOESN'T seem aware, which takes a normal fic (in-character, with reasonable but perhaps even somewhat dubious practices, which the author isn't emphasizing or preaching about) into Red Flag Territory (a character, OOC, yanking me out of the scene to behave like a PSA about consent instead of conforming to the horny tone of the scene, and perpetuating unsafe practices anyway)

If you are writing a master manipulator or someone who wants to have a gotcha, you totally said it was okay on a character they are trying to bone (which is well in the realm of non/dubcon) that's fine! This PSA is not aimed at you. But if you are trying to write someone who Cares Strongly About Consent, then perhaps be more aware of when is an appropriate time to escalate the situation (sexually speaking) or ask for consent!

Any men out there wanna pretend to be my bf to get my parents off my case about marriage? I am so so serious right now.

i do think its kinda funny when i see someone in the year of our lord 2024 talk about vocal synth music like its all gone downhill since like 2010 because like dont get me wrong i love a good niconicodouga-ass 2008 ass vocaloid joint BUT also like. the past couple years have had the most fascinatingly creative and expressive uses of vocal synthesizers ive ever heard in my life DJFSKHJDFS dont write it all off just yet!!

girl i just got into a mild twitter dispute bc someone was calling rosemary negligent abuse, and when i asked how thats even remotely true they were like 'i dont understand how you cant see it if you read the comic' and proceeded to give me zero examples.

i shouldnt have to even say this, but a teenage girl is not responsible for someone elses alcoholism, and mishandling it is not fucking abuse, holy shit. i think maybe that person just had some negative memories w rosemary and let it ruin the ship for them, but im not about to let someone call a traumatized teenage girl abusive because she doesnt act like a therapist or something

idek if thats why they think its abusive, bc they never gave me an answer, and the last time they responded they immediately privated so i have no clue what they even said.

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one of the twitter user's name is literally "beaujes" so yeah there's a definite overlap there lol

i've thankfully seen very little of the discourse on there but i wouldn't be surprised if it's the same few folks stirring shit up

oh oh yes, anon, I am so aware of exactly that person and this specific circle of folks. tbh I'm not actually sure how many of them where around during c2 (some recognizable accounts for sure, but not all of them), and even if they weren't there for it while it was live, they've inherited a lot of the tone of discourse. so I'm not surprised that the talking points have remained quite similar, but I am disappointed to be bombarded with these repetitious, inane, and frankly cruel lines of dialogue that always show up whenever I open twitter

ngl it’s embarrassing for rabid booktok fans to push the Wennbergs into making statements about “please stop sexually harassing Alex on our personal/family posts” because what the ACTUAL fuck is happening??

Booktok, stay the fuck out of hockey spaces if you can’t conduct yourself like reasonable human beings. This is unhinged, nasty, sexually-abusive behaviour and ya’ll better get into some serious therapy and stop shoving your gross wet dreams onto the lives of professional athletes and their WIVES AND CHILDREN.

There’s a difference between saying someone is hot and screaming what kind of lewd acts you want them to perform on you WHILE they are working on the ice or as his wife posts a photo of their ACTUAL INFANT.

WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU??????

this passage from the rq article really stood out to me

I'm gonna try and tackle some drafts today but bc of some nonsense I saw I twitter say it with me folks: Zhongli is the man he is today because of the many friends he's made and the many losses that have eroded him over his life and he was not solely influenced by one dead dust chick.

no hate to all the bonrin in aoex fandom but I desperately need like 28yo rin who accidentally became a smoker bc lighting cigarettes with his flames was cool when he was 17 being like the black sheep of the order and sticking his nose in where it isn't meant to be bc he never outgrew his anger at the world that scorned him but by God is he gonna look for other part demon kids and shelter them where he can and give them a future. and let's assume Yukio went evil. Just for some fun ok is that such a crime

i swear i have tmnt opinions yall are not ready for

on another note im so fuckin miserable

i can’t believe there’s a “n*zis are still human too” post floating around my dash tonight.

like wtf

One of my biggest pet peeves: being told I can’t complain about summer heat because we have a long winter season. Not everyone likes the heat. A lot of people (including me!) struggle in heat.

“Oh, would you rather it be -30?”

Honestly? Yes! At least I can sleep and not feel like I’m going to throw up when it’s cold. Both heat and cold extremes suck, but it annoys the shit out of me when people actively tell me I shouldn’t dislike heat. I like cool to mildly warm weather, but people here act like if you don’t worship the sun in summer, there’s something wrong with you.

Which, considering our average temp for most of the year is well under 15C, you’d think they’d understand why unacclimatized people might not like a sudden huge spike in temperature, especially since plenty of us have no AC.

I'm sorry to tell you the 313 tat is ostensibly because he.... is an Eminem stan...

dear anon can i please return this cursed knowledge! currently dragging my hands down my face thank you so much!

the 3-1-3 tat in question, in case anyone else wanted to suffer :)))))

Chronic pain really got me going to bed before it’s even dark out (also my little pink unicorn lights Millie got me look so cool in the second pic)