When you tell people they shouldn’t want to fantasize sexually about children their #1 argument is almost always that they don’t see how it’s any different from violent or dark fiction like horror villains or first person shooters or torture dungeon bondage smut, and that’s fucking stupid because a child is a normal everyday kind of extremely vulnerable person that an adult can hurt literally just by touching once. None of that horror or extreme fetish stuff can be that easily applied to real life just anywhere, you can always find a consenting adult happy to larp it with you, and when you do find a consenting adult to larp sexy slasher monsters then you’re still just eroticizing an inanimate scenario and props rather than eroticizing the concept of children. Imagine someone training their brain to think just “children,” period, are a sexy idea and believing that’s no worse than being into handcuffs or spooky murder movies.

Shoutout to all the hosts who thought arguing with the guys in your head was a normal way of “thinking about things” 😭

If you’d actually listen to trans men, you’d know every single one of us has said “transandrophobia is a mix of misogyny and transphobia”. We’ve been saying it from the start. We are fully aware it involves misogyny!!!

It’s medical misogyny and medical sexism, it’s social misogyny and sexism, etc etc.

But that’s not all!

Transandrophobia also involves how much society hates it when afab people act masculine. Butch women deal with this all the time. Little kids labeled as tomboys deal with it. Society really hates masculine afab people.

But wait, there’s more!

Transandrophobia ALSO involves how much society hates men who are men in the “wrong way”.

And one more thing!

Transandrophobia ALSO involves homophobia, because whether the trans man is straight or not, society views him as a woman. That means he’s treated as either a lesbian (though some trans men do identify as lesbians), or a straight woman, either way erasing his true identity.

And all of that is transandrophobia.

It’s not just transphobia. It’s not just misogyny. It’s not just those things separately. It is an interaction of those things that cause transmasc people to be uniquely abused by society - and a lot of that abuse is invisible, or shoved under “just misogyny” or “just transphobia”. But it’s not.

And - importantly - it does not imply that transmascs are “more oppressed” that other trans people, or that other trans people “oppress” trans men. That’s not how intersectionality works.

IM NOT READYYYYYY

Remember when the media said “greedflation” was a fringe theory?

Now looking back, it’s undeniable.

WHY CAN'T I BOOP MYSELF

Everyone else seems to be able to. It doesn't show up a boop button for me on my own profile.

Pin for survivors

If you super boop me and i dont super boop back, i promise its just cause im on mobile

The queer community is full of hurt people.

This can lead to a knee-jerk reaction when we hear someone else say "I am hurt". We look at them and say "shut up, you're not as hurt as me because you have X privilege".

This leads to femme afab queers being told "you can pass and hide as cishet, you're not as hurt as queer women who look queer, you're just complying with the patriarchy's ideals for beauty, you're hurting the queer community, you're anti feminist."

It leads to masc afab people, whether trans men or nonbinary or genderqueer etc, being told everything from "you're not as hurt, you can pass as a cis man" to "you have no desire to transition, you still look like a girl, shut up".

It leads to trans amab people who are nonbinary or genderqueer or agender etc, who still dress or look "masculine", being told that they are "unsafe" for queer spaces, that they don't belong at a "women and nonbinary meeting", that they are "basically just cis men trying to escape accountability".

It leads to asexuals being told "you don't even feel sexual attraction, the thing we're ostracized for! how could you possibly be oppressed? You're just straight and a prude" and aromantics being told "you're just straight and like casual sex, get over yourself" and both being told "you're just a cishet who wants to steal resources".

I have heard every single kind of queer person say "I have been harmed and ostracized by the queer community". Lesbians, gay men, bisexuals and mspec people, trans people, aroace people - every single one of us has expressed feeling ostracized by our own community.

On the plus side, this means you're not alone. Your group isn't the only one facing this. You have allies!! Other queer people who have gone through what you've gone through!

We need queer unity. We need to stop attacking each other. If you feel the urge to say "shut up, my group has been hurt MORE", go take a walk. Remember that every single one of us has been hurt.

pov you're an empath

Making Coffee

So this is an ongoing debate in my house - the order of things when making a cup of coffee - spurred by fellow Tumblr @hotjuliachild-inthecity's unreasonable partner who puts the milk in before the cereal....

Box 01: This system is collectively a lesbian! Box 02: This alter is a lesbian! Box 03: This headmate is a lesbian! Box 04: This sysmate is a lesbian! Box 05: This part is a lesbian! Box 06: This user is a lesbian! Box 07: These users are a lesbian!

( free to use w/o credit, though it is appreciated! :) ) read our dni before interacting

What order do you take pills in?

oh my god. just got amazing fucking news. a bunch of things aligned perfectly and i will be GETTING A CUSTOM RIGID LIGHTWEIGHT WHEELCHAIR! I"M GETTING A QUICKIE QRI!!!! literally so fucking happy like i don't even have the words this is going to enable me to get back so so much and just so many more things and hopefully slow down the progression of some of my symptoms and just. i'm already spending so much time stuck in bed with worsening symptoms and falling and seizures and everything it's just. i'm literally so so so so so fucking happy and SO so grateful for the people making this possible.

anyway. have a few questions for any mutuals who are wheelchair users about measurements. most of the measurements have been taken, but there were some stuff they were leaving up to me so i wanted to get some feedback/ they were bad at explaining and i want to just double check that all the measurements were taken down right.

can anyone explain/provide resources on the difference between the front seat height measurement and the rear seat height measurement? right now rear seat measurement is 15" and front seat measurement is 17"--is the two inch difference reasonable/what is the reason for the difference? how does the height of my seat cushion play into what the final measurements for seat height should be?

what are the pros and cons of different frame angles? the person said anything from 75 degrees to 85 degrees would be good options but didn't explain the differences between the frame angles.

pros and cons of different size caster wheels? the person recommended 5" wheels but didn't explain why.

pros and cons of different center of gravity? the person measuring recommend 1.5" but didn't explain why.

for context about my mobility and what i'm looking for: i have pretty good upper body and core strength, no significant posture issues. pretty bad POTS, significant post exertional malaise, other issues with leg weakness, tremors, balance, seizures, neurological issues that currently make me a pretty significant fall risk. but i am still ambulatory, although it's pretty limited. will need to use chair outside the house and on public transit--navigating a lot of different types of sidewalks, lots of different hills, plenty of curbs with no curb cuts. so main things i'm looking for are a chair that's easy to navigate, turn, something I can learn to do wheelies in bc i will need that skill to navigate the city. etc.

if anyone has any advice or any resources for wheelchair measurement would be VERY appreciated bc i just want to double check everything and make sure it makes sense before the chair is ordered.

Transfem to Transmasc solitary must exist as much as any trans solidarity must exist.

Protect my boys.

anyways tboys we are doing our secret handshake and I am not approaching you with a preconceived expectation of transmisogyny