A person's character is more important than their charm.

Integrity: They uphold moral principles and honesty.

Self-awareness: Their ability to recognize their emotions, thoughts, and values.

Kindness: Show empathy and consideration towards other people.

Vulnerability: Is open about weaknesses and emotions.

A sense of humor: They can find humor in situations and share joy.

Playfulness: They are fun and playful.

Accountability: They take responsibility for their actions and behavior.

Generosity: They willingly giving time, resources, or attention to others.

What else would you add?

You know what I love? Discipline. Do you know what I admire? People who handle their lives properly. Because I know that takes a lot. Did you get that high paying job and didn't buy an expensive car with your first paycheck? That shit is hard. Do you want to have s** but abstain yourself and don't just sleep with anyone? That shit is hard. Did you stay in shape during the holidays? That shit is hard. I love people being disciplined, handling their finances wisely, controlling themselves and discerning what is actually good for them. You can get offended or you can get better. Your choice. 🖤

Kuany Atem photographed by Marina Vengut for Vogue Spain December 2023 issue, styled by Ana Murillas

Get to know yourself 🩰

the key to confidence is knowing yourself and what you want. so here are some tips for you to start embracing and knowing yourself ♡

find your "aesthetics" or start presenting yourself the way you would like to.

there are a lot of styles you could get inspo from, and feel the best in. I want you to not put yourself in one box of an aesthetic like "I like coquette, so I will forever wear things like it". sure! you can do it if you feel like this is the style that suits you most, but if you feel like expressing yourself more than in one go for it! there is no way you have to pressure yourself to fit in one category just because people or you won’t be "confused". you are you by wearing pink dolly dresses with grey hoodies and cargo pants.

find hobbies and stand strong by them

try many different things which you will enjoy. books, movies, knitting, writing, journaling, self care and the list goes on. do not listen to anyone saying that it’s "weird" or "doesn’t suit you". this is what will make you , you! never let go of beautiful things that make you happy. even if you like collecting dolls at the age of 16 (like me) and society tells you it’s child’s hobby, so be it. hobbies do not have an age range bc with the same logic they could say "knitting if for grandmas".

journal

find some promts on pinterest and write , write , write

start being comfortable with yourself or when you’re alone

realize that you are that person who’s funny , charming, smart, INTERESTING. a lot of us are uncomfortable with being alone and have the need to always meet someone. now don’t get me wrong, you have to meet people! do not by any means isolate yourself but forcing yourself to meet just because you don’t like being all alone is wrong. Imagine going on dates where you go to YOUR favorite restaurant, order YOUR favorite food, buy YOURSELF the prettiest flowers. why don’t you like being with yourself if you and your body knows all your favorite things , and offer a lot than anybody could ? my advice for you to is go out on single dates , sit in your home and read a book, or even in silence just with yourself. and you will realize a lot more about yourself. trust me you’re going to love it <3

set goals and make promises to yourself , work on them

these are essential things that will help you trust yourself more. I want you to remember that everything in your life is success. even if it’s not "perfect" it’s yours! and that’s what should matter the most. keep growing and teaching yourself.

- ♡

Naomi by Jean-Marie Périer, 1996

sparkly jewelry, french tip nails, long wispy lashes, pink lip gloss, hoop earrings are all such girly details and i love looking like a modern day princess

Soft and pretty.

🏷️ fatima

Cancer Zodiac mood board

Normalize being your own lover first. Speaking love into your skin cells. Slow bathing your body with reverence. Handling your hair gently with care. Consciously saying kind things about yourself. Mindfully cultivating a beautiful expansive mind and thoughtful heart. Own your need for good rest and exercise. Take care to regulate your nervous system. These are natural beauty tips that will improve your physical appearance. Your efforts will become more visible with time, especially the older you get. Your unique physical features become more enhanced from being infused more with love, softness, sweetness, reverence, grace, and gratitude over the years. It's never too late to start normalizing new ways of interacting with yourself, your actual cells. Start today. Begin where you are. You loving yourself changes the energy of your internal waters-- how you look, feel, taste, sound, and the quality of life around you. Hating yourself, hating the body you were born with, as modeled by this world, does the same. In other words, fall in love with yourself your own image.--India Ame'ye, Author

Zeudi Araya in "Giallo napoletano" (dir. Sergio Corbucci - 1979).

"bLaCK wOmEN wILl sAvE uS!"

Black Women:

“Beauty Must Suffer” by Karon Davis at Salon 94

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