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Why Do I Cross-Dress

This is the question asked by almost everyone of us in the trans-gendered world. Many wives also want to know 'Why does my husband cross-dress'.

Over the last few years , I have researched this topic, and read everything I could get my hands on. I also have collected thousands of Survey results from TV's, CD's, TS's, She-Males, and others. Through all of this, I've come up with a few conclusions.

Actually, as I wrote this, it appears I have more than a 'few' conclusions. Therefore, if you're a wife make sure you're comfortable, and if your like me, make sure you're properly dressed, before continuing.

This article deals with Transvestism / Cross-dressing (TV/CD), not Transsexualism (TS). There is a VERY big difference, and the reasons for cross-dressing are completely different. I am a TV, not a TS, so I can only speak of what I know. If you are uncertain as to what you or your husband are, please read our article on Transgender Labels located here, which will provoke some thinking.

We must deal with facts, and not the MANY myths portrayed regarding cross-dressing. We already have an article which explains some common myths, and if you haven't read it, I suggest you read it before going any further. It's called TV Facts, and is located here.

Not all TV's & CD's cross-dress for the same reasons. There are many common threads, but it is VITALLY important to understand you or your husbands particular interests. You should sit down and think about preparing something similar to the article I wrote about my personal interests & fantasies, located here.

There are MILLIONS of men who cross-dress, and yet, are very few REAL LIFE articles or accounts of what makes us tick. We owe it to ourselves, and our wives, to research & attempt to understand why we are this way. NOTHING is more relevant than our own personal insights & true stories. I urge all of us that read this, to attempt something similar.

Last, but not least, I want to state a fact. THERE IS NO CURE FOR TRANSVESTISM. If you're reading this article in an attempt to magically find the answer to your problem (or cure your husband), I'm sorry to be the one to tell you, it's not here .... It's not anywhere. The only 'cure' for transvestism, is LEARNING TO COPE. Fact, not myth.

Since I am a TV, and not all TV's cross-dress for the same reasons, it is important to get an understanding of my perspective, i.e., where I'm coming from.

One of the best works I've seen on distinguishing differences among cross-dressers, came from Mrs. Silk. While I'm not in 100% agreement with everything she says, I am very impressed by her and the wonderful work she's doing. Mrs. Silk had published an article in her magazine, and on the free side of her website (before it became a pay site), called The Cross-dressing Spectrum. I have requested permission to re-publish the article, but have had no response, yet. I can not publish the article, but I will tell you where I fall in the spectrum, which will help you understand me and my perspective, a little better.

I am ORANGE, and a more accurate description of my interests would be: 'A man who has a love of all the silky fabrics and often prefers sexy styles of clothes, who requires not only the underwear but top clothes (Pink Satin French Maid's Outfit, Petticoats, Corsets, Stockings, Garters, High Heels, etc.). He is "turned on" by the thought or actuality of wearing ladies clothes, and prefers to be "forced" to dress in this way. He also requires full make-up, wig, a femme name and so on. Doing so heightens his sexual excitement with or without a partner, and the sexual side is very strong'. That is not an exact quote, but a modified version which more accurately describes my own preferences.

I believe there are at least 5 major categories of causes involved in cross-dressing, and each category has multiple factors. I think it is important to understand the individual categories & factors, then we can actually discuss WHY we cross-dress. I have listed these in this order for a particular reason; each factor will weigh upon the particular direction (Crossdressing Spectrum Color) generated by category #5 (Experience). I do not think cross-dressing desires arise from or because of any 1 particular category or factor, except in extreme cases. Rather, I believe the interaction of all categories is involved, and directs the final outcome. I would like to say that these factors are all separate, but that is not true. As I wrote this, it became increasingly difficult to keep something isolated to 1 category. I guess I shouldn't feel too bad, if it was simple, the experts would be able to cure us, huh?

1) Genetics

DNA - I believe, just a theory, that there is some genetic factor which makes some people more susceptible to cross-dressing, than others. Science has just recently (one generation) discovered that there is actually a reason for TransSexuals. We know that males have XY chromosomes, and females have YY chromosomes. Therefore, EVERY male contains the female Y chromosomes !!! TS's have actually been found to be male, with YY chromosomes, i.e., they were literally a woman trapped in a man's body !!! (I know this is an over simplification of the facts, but it accurately describes the crux of the issue). Not until science could measure & analyze this information, did we actually KNOW this existed. I believe that as science digs deeper into human DNA, they will discover something associated to transvestism just as they have with TS's.

My Family - Take my family for an example. My parents had many children, and all were girls, except me. I am the ONLY boy, and I have many sisters. This becomes important in category #5 (Childhood), but it could also hold a clue to a genetic factor, as yet undiscovered. I have never been tested, but I'm sure I have XY chromosomes, but is there something else we don't know, yet? We know the theory that one sperm makes you male or female is inaccurate. Actually, all embryo start female and IF the proper elements are provided, the embryo DEVELOPS into male. Who says that development is like a light switch, on/off or male/female. Could it be more like a dimmer switch, more male, more female? As I stated, just a theory.

2) Sexuality

Heterosexual - Many TVs & CDs have a very difficult time with their sexuality and transvestism/crossdressing, I know I certainly did !!! Properly categorized, I am a heterosexual transvestite; i.e., I am ONLY attracted to women, no matter what I am wearing. Can you imagine what my mind is telling me when I am dressed in pink silk panties, and my manhood is trying to tear through them? Does that make me gay, i.e., a homosexual ? The answer is NO. If it makes no rational sense to me, how can I possibly explain it to someone else, or expect someone else to understand ? I have never been able to accurately convey the meaning of this psychological explanation of transvestism, so I will cut & paste it here:

A transvestite is, usually, a heterosexual male having a periodic or episodic, sometimes fetishistic, urge to dress in opposite sex clothing. The feminine apparel apparently reinforces the male gender-identity and may intensify male sexual satisfaction. The subconscious mind, apparently, associates dressing in opposite sex apparel with women as sex objects and their own formative male sexual drive; it became imprinted with the same mechanisms which form other fetishes such as the shoe fetish, the panty fetish, the leg fetish, the breast fetish or a fetish for other parts of the female body. A transvestic fetish is intensified by virtue of the fact that, by actually wearing the fetish items (of feminine apparel) the transvestite (tv) is in intimate proximity of, and contact, with the objects. He, often, derives sensual pleasure from the feminine quality of the fabrics; he is reminded of his REAL sex object (the female body) through the simulation of the outward presence of a woman, and he can take satisfaction in the dissemblance of knowing he is REALLY a man under the feminine finery.

Is that a mouthful or what ? However, there is a GREAT deal of truth to that paragraph, at least I know it hits the nail on the head for me !

Homosexuality - Did you know that the percentage of homosexual transvestites is LOWER than the percentage of homosexual 'normal' men ?!?! How can that be possible ? How can men, who WANT to be dressed enfemme, NOT be homosexual, or at least be more homosexual than 'normal' guys !? It baffles the mind ! Or does it ? Unfortunately, I know much more about transvestism than homosexuality, because I suffer from one and not the other. If it were the other way around, guess what I'd be writing about ? However, as a TV, let me tell you why I think most TV's are heterosexual. Many people have reported that while dressed, the CD/TV becomes more submissive, more loving, tender, feminine. I STRONGLY agree with this. I also know how I feel about women. They fascinate me; they are exotic, mysterious, beautiful, to be admired, ... goddesses. FACT - TV's ADORE WOMEN !!!

Sex Drive - This could relate back to genetics, however, I think sexuality is it's own category. I have read that, in the 'early years' of crossdressing, sexual arousal was prominent, but, in the later years, that transformed into other feelings and the sexual arousal diminished. I have also received fe-mail from 70+ year old TV's that assure me this is not the truth! Who is right ? Simply put, BOTH. A person's sex drive is NOT determined by transvestism! {My lovely wife, Mistress Marie, would probably faint, if not ROAR with laughter, if she heard me say that !!!} Why ??? Because I am one of those people who have a VERY high sex drive, and my Transvestism multiplies that by 100 !!! (Fetish is next ...) So, when Mrs. Silk created the Crossdressing Spectrum, sexual arousal plays a dominant part for the red & orange areas, and diminishes towards the other end of the spectrum. Sex drive is not the ONLY factor involved here, but it IS a factor. The fact of the matter is, some people naturally have a higher sex drive than others, with or without the involvement of crossdressing.

Arousal - I do not crossdress for sexual arousal (Again, Mistress Marie laughter in the background) however, I can not crossdress without becoming aroused, nor would I ever crossdress unless my arousal could be addressed ... i.e., no chastity devices !!! Prolonged arousal, i.e., extended time putting on makeup, dressing, corset lacing, maid chores, etc., are VERY desirable, but sexual relief is required in the end. It sounds odd, but it's the truth. In discussions with Mistress Marie, I first felt guilt over the amount of sexual arousal created by crossdressing, but she said something that inspired me. She said that most women would LOVE to know what single thing they could do to instantly arouse their husband, and she now knows what that is with me. Believe me ... even the proverbial 'not tonight honey, I have a headache' is NO match for silk, satin, and forced feminisation to a tv/cd !!!

Fetish - I use to say that my transvestism was a fetish .... and I probably still think that. However, I heard something on TV (television) that made me think. The person stated that a fetish was ONLY if you couldn't achieve orgasm by any other means. That concerned me, and probably concerns our wives. Let me explain my personal experiences .... don't laugh too much. Fact - I do NOT need to be Cheri` or even think about Cheri` to be sexually aroused or have an orgasm (or more). So ... if the above definition of FETISH is correct, than my crossdressing desires are not a fetish. However, the definition above points out a VERY clear point, the object of my desire is the female body (My wife & Mistress). However, in one particular incident, I was being dressed, made-up, perfumed, etc. in excess of 4 hours ..... from the first minute .... my manhood was at FULL attention !!! Never touched .... except by silk panties !!! This is why Mistress Marie would laugh .... crossdressing is not required for sexual arousement, but there is NOTHING that excites me more. So ... is that a fetish ?

3) Society / Culture

Women Are Allowed To CrossDress - Agree or Disagree ? Be careful of your answer .... since I'm from America, this may not apply to other countries. This is going to be difficult, without overlapping into experience, however, let me give it a shot. In my lifetime / generation .... women's rights in America have changed DRAMATICALLY !!! To give a little more perspective, let me tell you a little about my mom. My mom was a housewife, always wore dresses or skirts, always wore heels, stockings or pantyhose, my dad was the exclusive breadwinner of the family, etc.. To be evasive, a generation is considered 40 years, and I'm not there yet ... so you do the math. Now, you tell me, have the rights for American woman changed since before 1959 ? Anyone in their right mind knows this as a FACT. So .... how does that relate to crossdressing you ask .... Let's see .... please forgive me for being silly here ...

Women can wear blue jeans .... but men can't wear skirts ...

Women can wear tennis shoes .... but men can't wear high heels ...

Women can be CEO's .... but men can't be housewives (Domestic Engineers) ...

Women can wear Hanes cotton briefs .... but men can't wear Victoria's Secret Satin Panties ...

Women can wear tuxedoes ... but men can't wear Wedding Dresses ...

Women can wear their hair short & sassy ..... but men can't wear long hair unless they're ULTRA MACHO

Women can do commercials wearing their husbands dress shirt, and it's cute ... but men can't do the same wearing his wife's dresses ...

Women can wear shoulder pads ... but men can't wear bras ...

OK .... so I'm getting a little ridiculous .... I'm a TV .... what do you expect ? I've seen & read articles that make this THE #1 reason for the crossdressing phenomenon .... but I do not agree. I do think that women, in today's America, are allowed a MUCH greater freedom of clothing than men. Would I go as far to say that women 'crossdress' because they wear jeans instead of skirts .... no .... but would you say that I crossdress because I wear a skirt instead of jeans ... yes. Have you ever asked yourself why that is .... is it because women fought for their civil rights, and us TV's haven't ? Is it because Crossdressing is not about the 'person' as much as it is about 'what society accepts'? Maybe, maybe not ... Maybe society has double standards .... Women should be allowed to do everything a man can do ... BUT men should still be expected to act like REAL men ... you know ... what we saw in the old movies growing up ... Open doors for us, Pursue us, Romance us, Provide for us (if we choose), etc.. I'm not here to start a riot, just to understand this stupid thing I'm stuck with, called transvestism. Ladies, if you were me, or your husband, you would be looking at this thing from a TOTALLY different perspective, I assure you. I once read an article which stated... For every woman willing to burn her bra ... there's a tv waiting to wear it !!! VERY ... VERY ... VERY ... TRUE .... if it's a silk/nylon/lycra, fastens in the back, and I'm stuck in it until Mistress releases me, type!!!

Petticoat Discipline - So ... what's a Mother suppose to do with an unruly boy ? Especially a boy that picks on little girls because they're wearing a 'sissy', frilly dress ? I know, let's teach him a lesson ... let's force him to wear a dress !! That will surely solve the problem ! NOT !!! Do you know that petticoat discipline was considered 'normal' in my mother's generation, and before ? Nowadays it's probably considered child abuse, and rightly so !!! The psychological effects of this 'normal' discipline can effect your child for the rest of his life ! Unfortunately, Women/Mothers, were NEVER told of the side effects of petticoat discipline ... As I have stated in my personal page .... ANY discipline which connects gender to action is WRONG ! A mother may think she is handling the situation in a fair manner, yet, she has NO concept of the damage she is probably creating ! Let's start by stating a fact ..... Women can/do NOT understand what goes through a young boy's mind ... period. OK ... ladies ... you say that's a chauvinistic statement ... you're inaccurate. Let's turn the tables and say a Dad can't understand why his daughter wants to play with dolls instead of football ... am I right or what ? If I were not a young boy myself, I would have NO idea what possessed my son to kick over the neighbor girl's doll house ! Except for the fact that I did it myself as a boy! There is NO rhyme or reason to the mind of a young boy (to his mother) ... fact !

4) Current Situation (Job, Family, Age, Etc.)

(Initially, I was not going to include this as a category, but I changed my mind after more thought. I'm not sure how it will come out, so please be patient.)

Middle Age - Many people report in increase in crossdressing activities in men at middle age. The pressures of life can & do affect us all. For men, middle age can be a very difficult time. It's not the stress that creates the crossdressing, rather, crossdressing is a form of relief from the stress. But if middle age doesn't cause transvestism, then it had to come from someplace else. Usually, there are other factors, which we have discussed, and will discuss in category #5 (Childhood).

A Time Not To CrossDress - Is there a time NOT to crossdress. (Your wife is saying YEAH ... ALWAYS !) I joined the military straight out of High School. (I will not mention the branch of service, because I think that shows a lack of respect, and would tarnish their reputation.) However, oddly enough, for my 4 year tour of duty, I didn't dress up once !!! Why ??? I'm sure there are multiple factors, but I will list a few. First of all, if you've never been in the military, you have NO idea what they can do to you and your life !!! I have seen internet pictures of service men in uniform & dressed up in drag .... and I must say ... that is a VERY bad case of 'lack of judgment'. Second, my life & lifestyle were VERY different. I was 18-22 years old, single, employed, traveled, and basically not a care in the world (except war). However, I did drink, party, and pursue women a LOT ... typical young service man. So maybe I just found another outlet for my transvestic desires, and I was also thinking of my career.

Episodes - Does that mean that thoughts of crossdressing never entered my mind while I was in the military ? Have I stumbled onto the magic cure for transvestism ? No !!! It means I was different, my lifestyle was different, and I dealt with it differently. Remember what the tv description above states, "having a periodic or episodic, sometimes fetishistic, urge to dress". Unfortunately, we can NOT (repeat NOT) control the period or episode frequencies when the crossdressing urge will strike. Example, watching the new movie 'Wild, Wild West' today .... did you see the corsets on those women !?!?!? And that pink dress Salma Hayek was wearing at the end ? I feel an episode coming !!!

Repression - Can transvestism be repressed, i.e., controlled ? Yes. Now ... how many TV/CD's just had a fit ?!?!

Probably most !!! Why ? Because transvestism and crossdressing are with you (and me) to stay !!! FACT. Yes, it can be repressed for periods of time. However, that doesn't mean you're cured, and I can assure you ... it will return. When it does, and it will, it's going to come back with a vengeance and make up for lost time !!! FACT. I think it would be ASTOUNDING if we added up all the money we TV & CD's waste on our binge & purges !!! I have thrown away multiple copies of Forced Womanhood, at $15 apiece (and the original issues), in a fit of purging !!! I've thrown away Satin Maid's Outfits, Wigs, Panties, Stockings, etc.. Why ??? Now all the TV's say duuuuhhhh ... because the guilt & shame welled up to the point that I couldn't take it anymore and VOWED to rid myself of this terrible disease called transvestism !!! How long did/does it last ? We all know that each purge lasts a different length of time .. sometimes days, months, or even years ...consider all the factors involved !!! You throw everything away, and get laid off work the next day ... how long would you last ?

Marriage - Classic mistake. Not marriage in itself, but many TV/CD's think when they get married, that it will help them repress their crossdressing desires. After all, you now have a lovely, beautiful wife; i.e., the object of your desires. Then why do the crossdressing desires still exist ? Not only that, but does she have to leave her lingerie all over the place ? If you didn't discuss your crossdressing desires before marriage, I can almost assure you that your 'episodes' will be increased due to the close proximity of her things. And doesn't that make it even more appealing ... SHE wore that ... SHE looked so beautiful in that ... and now HER panties are on the bathroom floor and she's not home. Am I wrong ?

Resources - When I first was curious about crossdressing, what resources did I have available? Well, I was about 6-7 years old, with several sisters. My resources consisted of my sisters wardrobe, period. As I grew up, and so did they, my resources stayed the same until I moved out. Once out on my own, I had my own apartment & income, but what things did I have for crossdressing? How many young, single TV's are going to go shopping for their own lingerie ??? VERY few !!! Nowadays, because of mail order & internet commerce, I'm certain that is changing rapidly. So then, maybe you get married. You now have access to your wife's clothing, but you know none of it fits, and you CAN'T stretch or ruin it !!! Bottom line, a crossdresser's resources are scarce until a certain time in life. I think that time, is now for me. I am happily married, my wife was forewarned about my transvestism before marriage, she decided to accept & participate as Mistress Marie. So now what ? Well, I am now in a position to experiment with things that I never had the resources to try before !!! THIS IS IMPORTANT !!! I always wanted to try High Heels, but never have been able to. Mistress Marie says buy them, and viola`, I now get to experience a fantasy that I have been harboring for most of my life !!! Do you realize how amazing a feeling that is ? This is a significant factor in my crossdressing currently. I am at a point where I can try a corset, maid's outfit, petticoats, wig, etc.; all types of things which I have never been in a position to do. This 'point' in my life, has caused an increased desire to explore my transvestism.

5) Previous Experience (Childhood, Etc.)

(Now ... we get down to the heart of the matter !!! I have reserved this section for last, even though MOST would argue it should be first. However, if this were the ONLY cause of transvestism, it wouldn't be incurable or as complicated as it is !!!)

TS vs TV - TransSexuals (true TS's), conditions arise from a genetic cause, not psychological. However, Transvestism (Crossdressing), is not genetic (maybe a theorized factor), it is MAINLY a psychological issue, and at one time considered a mental illness. From the several THOUSAND surveys received, an overwhelming percentage have a recallable memory event (or events) from childhood. It is simply amazing how cruel a mother / parent can be to a child. I'm sure most don't intend to be cruel, but some do. Bottom line ... you can NOT discuss transvestism / crossdressing without analyzing your childhood.

Age 5-7 - It is VERY noteworthy that, as children, we seldom have vivid memories before the age of 5, and then, only of major events. A psychologists once told me that, between the age of 5-7, boys develop greatly. If you want to understand your crossdressing behavior and/or causes, take a good look at yourself during those childhood years.

Recallable Memory - I have several surveys where the TV/CD has no recallable memory of the event in question, yet, a friend or relative has told them of the occurrence. Unfortunately, how many of us can ask a friend or relative about this type of issue ? Almost none ! It is my belief that MANY TV/CD's that do not have a vivid childhood memory, were persuaded gradually, or early, so that a marked event does not appear to have occurred. Rule #1 for a hurt child, play down the injury so the child won't panic. If an adult can successfully downplay an incident, it will NOT leave a mark in a child's memory. My point in this factor is simple, just because you can not recall a childhood event, does NOT mean that it didn't occur.

Before Age 5 - I was surfing a web page, from a teenage CD in Germany. This person was a VERY attractive 15-16 year old 'girl'. In reality, it turns out that this person was born male, but the mother wanted a daughter. So, the mother always dressed the little boy in dresses, sent him to private schools as a girl, and gave the boy/girl hormones at the age of puberty. All of this led to what .... a boy that is/was a girl, yet, is/was NOT a transsexual! This is an example of an extreme case, where one factor can/did overwhelm all others. The boy ... girl ... is content & happy, as is the mother. The boy/girl says she was told by a relative that when first put into dresses, he cried for 2-3 days. This occurred ~ 2-3 years of age. After that, it was accepted, not knowing any better, and mom has taken care of everything since. I don't know about you, but I was VERY UPSET upon reading that !!! It's true, not a tv/cd fiction story. In the end, the boy/girl is very attractive & feminine, yet, I would like the mom to be responsible for her cruel & selfish act !!! The boy didn't have a chance.

Parents - As the only boy in a houseful of girls, there is pressure from you parents, probably your Dad. I received an immense amount of pressure from my Father to 'be a man'. As a matter of fact, I think those are the first words my Dad ever said to me. You know the type, i.e., REAL MEN don't cry, REAL MEN don't show their feelings, REAL MEN don't do dishes, etc. Everything revolved around what a REAL MAN should be, and anything less was 'sissyish'. I was to become the epitome of masculinity .... just like my Dad. I often think it was my Father's own insecurities that pushed me so hard to 'be a man'. So obviously, REAL MEN don't become transvestites ... do they ?! Have you ever considered your own definition of a 'REAL MAN'. Maybe my Dad was so imbalanced towards an ideal masculine figure, and that's why I am so imbalanced towards an ideal feminine figure ?? Where is Freud when you need him !!!

Siblings- As the only boy in a houseful of girls, your sisters can be an important influence. I'm thinking of all the surveys I've read which involved a sibling. Either the boy was curious, and was caught by his sister. Or maybe an older, domineering sister using feminization as leverage. The possibilities are endless. In my particular case, my sisters looked up to me as a masculine person. However, the availability of feminine clothing was abundant. therefore, they didn't 'cause' my crossdressing desires, but the easy access to feminine clothing definitely helped it to progress.

6) Summary

Stress Relief - Did you know that many transvestites are successful business men ? Executives, CEO's, Presidents, etc.. Sound weird ? Myth would have us as some pansy, limp wristed, minimum wage, daydreaming individual. So much for myth. I'm an executive who has always had a take charge attitude. It is this attitude which has helped me to succeed in life, and the same attitude that keeps me high strung. Always busy, always thinking, always on the go, etc.. I want to be the best, provide the best for my family, live in a nice home, send my kids to the best schools, buy my wife the best things, etc.. Still sound weird ? One of the key reasons I crossdress, if not THE reason I crossdress, is stress relief. Sound silly? Well, we all deal with stress in different ways. Some people drink, some are physically abusive, some gamble, some seek adrenaline rushes skydiving, etc. .... I crossdress. Sissy Cheri` is the exact opposite of my male identity ... a sissy ! As Cheri`, I am extremely submissive and have no responsibilities, except to please my Mistress, (who is my wife & the woman I Love). The clothing, wig, makeup, etc., are all props which make my male identity disappear. Without the clothing, I wouldn't be able to allow myself to become submissive. Let's be serious, who can be aggressive, assertive, or domineering in pink silk panties and petticoat ? Not me. Without the pink silk panties, I am still me, not Sissy Cheri`. When dressed, I am truly on vacation, mentally, physically, and emotionally !!! But, rather than travel to Fantasy Island for my vacation, I have brought paradise to me in the form of ultra femininity. Remember ... Paradise is a state of mind, not a physical place. And just like a vacation, it is temporary (periodic / episodic). After a short time sissified en-femme, I am relaxed and ready to resume my responsibilities; as Dad, Boss, Husband, etc.. Still sound silly?

Forced Feminization - I have been reading for years regarding the causes of transvestism. One thing that I have read over & over & over again, is that transvestites prefer 'Forced Crossdressing' because it allows guilt transference !!! The theory is that if we are forcibly crossdressed, then our guilt diminishes, because we had no choice in the matter. From our Survey results, let me state a fact ... an overwhelming percentage of us PREFER FORCED FEMINISATION !!! (Myself included ... if not leading the pack !!!). On that I agree with the 'experts' ... however ... I have a different theory as to the real reason we like being forced to dress as women. To some, this may sound so simple, and to others, it may sound profound. Do you know what BDSM means ? Until recently, only S&M were known or heard of, and often as a dark/evil thing. BDSM represents 3 different relationships ... B&D (Bondage & Discipline), D&S (Dominance & Submission), S&M (Sadism & Masochism). Depending on the TV's personal fantasy, it could involve all three categories, yet, I believe that most TV/CD's crossdress based on a D&S relationship (Dominant/Submissive or maybe Dominatrix/Sissy). I will agree with the psychologists, that there is a transference that occurs, however, rather than transferring guilt, I believe it is a power exchange, not unlike a 'normal' D/S session. Again, simply a theory of mine; but I can use myself as an example. I feel guilt over my crossdressing, fact. When Mistress Marie forcibly feminizes me, I LOVE it, yet, I do not feel any less guilt, fact. When we begin, we go through a power shift ... I stop being the 'man' of the house, and she becomes the 'Mistress' of the house. It is a transference of power, a real power shift. True, it involves props, but is that unusual ? My transvestic desires also involve a B&D relationship. The feminine clothing in itself is a type of bondage. The feeling of being 'trapped in silk & satin' is thrilling !

The Clothes Make The Man - Have you ever heard that before ? Of course, we all have. Does it apply to crossdressing ? ABSOLUTELY ! How can I be so sure ? An amazing thing has been stated, several times. When discussing transvestic desires, i.e., I want you to be my Leather clad, whip wielding Mistress & I want to be a silk & satin bound sissy .... an amazing statement seems to be prevalent. How many women have a MUCH easier time dealing with themselves being a Leather clad Mistress as compared to your husband being a sissified french maid ? How many women would state, I'll be your Mistress, but why do you need to be a sissy ? Does the clothing make them feel Dominant, yet the clothing wouldn't make us feel submissive ? Is a Dominatrix more accepted by society than the Sissy French Maid Transvestite ? ABSOLUTELY !!! Again, why is that ? How can the clothing be relevant to one side of the D/s relationship, and not to the other ? As a transvestite, it is required on both sides for the fantasy to be 'real'.

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