there are some internet friends where eventually you start calling them by their real name and then there’s times where its like nah son your name is crispy forever
Me: One day I’m gonna publish this book, and a there will be a whole fandom, and they’re gonna write fanfic and draw fanart, and Netflix will make it into a true TV show adaptation and everyone’s gonna know about it–
okay so I have this idea for a new therapy thing. basically the idea is after an abusive relationship or a combat deployment or anything that might conceivably leave you with PTSD and a loss of ability to reasonably gauge how bad the shit that happened to you actually was, you sit there with a mental health professional for like, a solid 30 to 60 minutes, you tell them short vignettes of your experiences and they respond ONLY by rating how fucked up each one was on a scale from 1 to 10 and then you move on. the objective isn't to reflect deeply on specific experiences but to get a sustained series of reassurances that what you went through was, in fact, That Bad and gradually rebuild your trust in your own present and future ability to judge when what you're going through isn't okay.
currently calling it Rapid Fire Affirmation and Recalibration Therapy (RAP-FART). working title, open to feedback.
Changing my belief system from "this is the hill I'll die on" to "this is the hill I'll kill you on" has done absolute wonders for me 10/10 do recommend
There's 5 things a Christian loves to see in a story: unconditional love, self-sacrifice, and of course, the 3 r's, redemption, reconciliation, and resurrection.
One of the things that allo society did wrong is using the term "sexual needs". These are not needs. Drinking is a need, sleeping is a need, eating, resting and breathing are needs. If you don't do them, you die. Sex is not a need, it is a want (a valid want, don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with wanting sex) and I'm tired of hearing someone has "their needs". It's a gross thing to say that is often used to excuse not just aphobia but also r*pe (especially domestic), cheating and treating women like properties.
For anyone who thinks sex is a need I want to point out that celibate monks are among the healthiest people in the world. They haven't died out yet