Based if true

Australia has a domestic violence crisis 27 women have been murdered this year alone. What makes me angry is talking to other women and them saying that usually men who do this are druggies. It’s like wtf??? ANY man could be a domestic violence perpetrator? Drug using husbands that kill their wives are not the fucking majority they’re not the only ones. Why do people think this? Why do they say that women can tell when someone’s a sociopath? Fuck! Nothing will fucking change while stupid shit like this is believed by women!

I’m just angry and confused and frustrated by people being stupid and believing stupid shit.

I haven’t really talked about the ongoing discussion around the epidemic of domestic violence in Australia, because it’s an issue that’s really close to me for obvious reasons. It can just be difficult to talk about.

But yeah speaking with conservative family members about this has been very difficult. They’re so reluctant to consider it a product of male violence. In their mind it’s a result of drugs or mental illness or whatever other excuse they can come up. Or it’s symptom of “modern societal ills” (my grandma believes this to be some newfound issue rather than a Millenia long problem).

As horrible as the last few weeks have been, I do think meaningful change can be made out of this both at a federal and state level. Whether it be more funding allocated to victims of violence, greater education in school + the workforce, and ultimately a reform of the judicial system.

The case that really hit home was the murderer who was out on bail after being charged with rape and stalking charges against his ex-partner. The fact that I’ve heard this story over and over again for years without any real changes made is horrific. Judges who allow bail for criminals who end up murdering and/or raping women should be at the very least disbarred (if not civilly liable by the victim’s family). I would advocate for criminal liability but I don’t believe that’s just ever happening any time soon.

But yeah if there’s one hope I have of this is much much stricter bail conditions and greater protection of domestic violence victims.

The social change Im desperate for is believing victims without dissecting their stories and blaming them for inconsistencies. And I say this as someone who witnessed a random moderately violent crime a few months ago, even right afterwards your recollection of events is not going to be perfect. And police understand that when taking your witness statement. So when then is that understanding not afforded to domestic/sexual violence victims? Why do they have to perfect memories?

New photo Lana posted.

People's disdain towards mothers is so severe that they fail to understand that Lily's role as a mother in the story isn't significant because she birthed Harry, it's because she PROTECTED HIM. Harry could have been adopted and she would have done the same thing. Her sacrificing herself is an intrinsic part of her story and character– that's what she passes on to Harry. The whole point of the blood thing is that Petunia, who shares Lily's blood, is a terrible mother to Harry (and Dudley) whereas Molly, who shares no blood with him, takes care of him. Narcissa saves him, risking her life to protect her own son. Lily's sacrifice, her act of protection, is what lives on in Harry, when he sacrifices himself to save the world. That's what makes Lily an incredibly important character in the narrative of HP. It's not "reducing" her to motherhood in the biological sense, it's recognising that this act is fundamentally inseparable from her character. Even in an AU where she's not a mother, she will always be a character who would sacrifice herself for her child.

me when i definitely don’t reduce people to their genitals

Another based TikTok woman being 100% right about religion, love the tendency ✊

I find this video essay really interesting. As a Greek person, my issue with their "re-tellings of Ancient Greek myths/legends from a feminist perspective" has never really been about the whole cultural appropriation aspect, but the fact that few of these re-tellings add new dimensions to Ancient Greek female characters. It's less Feminist and more "I didn't have a good original idea." If anything, sometimes they feel like mouthpieces for modern causes/rhetoric, or just so utterly removed from their context, that the names used are essentially a marketing tool.

When we see a terf we block and don’t engage. In theory that’s great - leaves them without an audience, saves us from accidentally helping them recruit.

In practice things are less than optimal. You see some feminism 101 take like “bitch is a slur” and your hackles go up. Go on OP’s blog and there’s a bunch of posts about women’s rights. That could be a red flag - I don’t have all day to vet this person. Better not reblog, just to be safe.

What is the effect on the tumblr ecosystem? Feminist posts with any teeth at all can never go viral in this atmosphere! Any discussion of surrogacy more nuanced than “it is an individual choice” will get no engagement; only the most milquetoast sentiments can prevail.

I don’t have a solution. I just want to point out that the atmosphere of (justified) paranoia has set feminism on this website back 20 years.

Being surrounded by basically nude hypersexualized images of women is bad for women and girls self esteem like this isn’t even an opinion it’s just a fact. It is humiliating for women to watch other women be humiliated

I asked a trans activist which laws were written targeting transgender people by the Nazis and they....told me that was acting in bad faith...why are so many people falling for this!

"Acting in bad faith" when asking them a simple question is one of their favourite responses. "What evidence is there that Louisa May Alcott was a trans man", "Isn't it reductive to portray Joan of Arc as non-binary when she died specifically because she was a woman", "Why should the fight for women's reproductive rights include trans women if they can't get pregnant" - No matter how straight-forward the question is, they'll always accuse you as of being a bad faith actor.

I could be your ibuprofriend :).....or your advillain >:)

hey ao3 can you like give the extra $38k you made from this month’s funds drive to charity

this is how it feels when other women try to tell you that pattern recognition is evil and sinful and you should just be nice and prioritize harmony over the truth

Amber Heard on her birthday April 22, 2024 🎂

it really showcases how quickly young people develop and change when just two years ago, billie eilish did her infamous happier than ever album cycle, which was highly sexualised, blonde Marilyn Monroe style, and she swore up and down that that was her, she was confident about herself, and that she knew what she was doing.

Now for this new album cycle, when talking about her previous era, she says that that wasn't her, she lost who she was and felt like a different person, that everything got to her, she couldn't see herself objectively, and that her first album was so much more of who she is and she wants to return to that girl again.

It took just three years. Which I and anyone can heavily relate to, feeling like you know who you are in the moment, but every single year you look back and feel like that you a year ago was too young to understand, but then the you now will be in the same position in a year.

That's why though I have criticized her, I still feel a ton of empathy for her and her position, and try to support her. She's having to go through that societal grooming we all go through on a much bigger scale and on the public stage.

Fatui Coat Scaramouche, how silly you are

At long last we got to see Scaramouche and Signora in their fatui coats, thank you hoyo TAT

If I could get activists to listen to us about one single thing and nothing else, I would ask them to consider just how many of us perfectly fit the definition of “trans kid” when we were children. I would ask them to listen to those of us who, after getting help with body issues, internalized homophobia and sexual trauma, are now comfortable with the sex we were born as and wouldn’t be happy had we transitioned.

when gender non-conforming people say that we 100% would have believed we were supposed to transition if this movement would have been as big as it is now when we were kids, we fucking mean it. we’re not being dramatic or doing it to make you look bad. it does not come from a place of hatred, it doesn’t come from a place of wanting to deny you your right to bodily autonomy, it doesn’t come from the same place that homophobes come from when they say they think same sex attracted people are broken and should be subjected to electroshock therapy.

it comes from a place of genuine concern, it comes from seeing children and vulnerable young adults who remind us of ourselves being called “trans eggs waiting to crack,” medically transitioning, and then being blamed and ostracized for not knowing it wasn’t the right decision when that path ended up being wrong for them.

if you really want to do right by gay, lesbian, and gender non-conforming kids then you should listen to gay, lesbian, and gender non-conforming adults even if it challenges your worldview. we have the hindsight to know what we needed when we were children, and for most of us, the last thing we would have needed is to be told we’re actually the opposite sex and sold DIY hrt online by random adults.

you can hate our guts and keep sending us graphic murder threats if you want but truthfully the movement you’ve created is full of too much misogyny, too much homophobia, too many hurt people, too many contradictions, and too many unanswered questions to be sustainable. gender abolitionism is the only way forward.