There’s a woman on TikTok who post videos about making her blue collar husband meals. They are not nice meals, and I’m honestly not sure how much is satire either. It’s things like tinned curry with microwaved rice, frozen sausages and chips, steak with tinned potatoes, etc and always with a weird amount of salt, pepper, and oil (which is what most people find a bit grim but to each their own). I’d be willing to bet that the same people who complain about how horrible some of these meals are also say that the cost of living crisis isn’t that bad because all these tinned foods in the shops (the foods they’ve called disgusting) are just so cheap so people should live off of that.

There’s a story on TikTok right now about a woman who moved to become an influencer and is now homeless. She wanted to start a career in influencing, decided to move because she thought it would improve her career, quit her job to do it full time, and then it didn’t work out and now she and her children are homeless. I’d be willing to bet that the same people who are saying that she’s irresponsible for taking that risk without a backup plan also say that you need to take risks in opening your own business or investing on the stock market or even just paying to go back to school to make money/be well off/not live on the poverty line.

People think that things are good (or bad) in theory and will tell people to take advantage of it (or avoid it completely) or take a risk on themselves and even attack people who don’t conform to their perfect ideals and blame them for the situation that they’re in, but when you put it into real world scenarios and make people face the truth and show people what these things can do or look like, they suddenly change their mind about it for that specific scenario and don’t see the cognitive dissonance.

Welcome to another episode of dumb males degrading and sexualizing women because of their own delusional misogynistic mindset.

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‘Equality’ where we recognise men and women are ‘different but equal’ would tell women that the work they do as a housewife is respectable and amazing, then tell them they’re ‘mooching’ off of their exes/baby daddies when they claim alimony and child support.

‘Equality’ where we recognise men and women are ‘different but equal’ would pigeonhole people into different professions based on misogynistic/sexist biases (eg: men are good at maths; women are good at caretaking), not what people are actually good at.

‘Equality’ where we recognise men and women are ‘different but equal’ would have male professions paid more because they provide more complex/scarce skills than female professions (like the job market has already done).

‘Equality’ where we recognise men and women are ‘different but equal’ would lead to women taking on more unpaid labour and the mental load because ‘women are just better at these things’ (which is already what happens to women).

‘Equality’ where we recognise men and women are ‘different but equal’ would keep women out of positions of power and in the home.

‘Equality’ where we recognise men and women are ‘different but equal’ would keep result in women being forced to marry men for financial stability and keep them financially dependent on men.

‘Equality’ where we recognise men and women are ‘different but equal’ would not be equality. It is pretending to value the work -both paid and unpaid- of women while continuing to perpetuate misogyny.

https://www.tumblr.com/attistoc this is a castration fetish/femdom male who is following you and a number of other women, is creepy about lesbians, baits to get femdom fuel rxns, into right wing conspiracies like “white genocide” and “womens liberation=males castrated”

Thanks for this. Just blocked them.

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This dumbass commenting on your tiktok post, who you said “what are you trying to say?” To is right wing and I’m pretty sure a man. If not a man then a very patriarchal man-centering woman. But let’s say he’s a man. He’s saying it’s interesting tiktok is so male friendly in that he finds this good. You can check his blog for posts showing a picture of an obese white woman holding a black child (implying it’s her child) with the caption about society degrading. He’s also anti gay in exactly the way those homophobes on tiktok you were fighting are. Some stupid homebrew strain of male antifeminist too but that’s no surprise.

I can’t even remember interacting with this person. This ask sounds more like someone advertising this dude’s blog (in the wrong place).

‘Equality’ where we recognise men and women are ‘different but equal’ would pigeonhole people into different professions based on misogynistic/sexist biases (eg: men are good at maths; women are good at caretaking), not what people are actually good at.

‘Equality’ where we recognise men and women are ‘different but equal’ would have male professions paid more because they provide more complex/scarce skills than female professions (like the job market has already done).

‘Equality’ where we recognise men and women are ‘different but equal’ would lead to women taking on more unpaid labour and the mental load because ‘women are just better at these things’ (which is already what happens to women).

‘Equality’ where we recognise men and women are ‘different but equal’ would keep women out of positions of power and in the home.

‘Equality’ where we recognise men and women are ‘different but equal’ would keep result in women being forced to marry men for financial stability and keep them financially dependent on men.

‘Equality’ where we recognise men and women are ‘different but equal’ would not be equality. It is pretending to value the work -both paid and unpaid- of women while continuing to perpetuate misogyny.

Fuck is a PRAT

TERFs 🤝 PRATs

"Identifying as transgender is no different from identifying as transrace or transabled!"

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I found that when I changed my sexuality on Tinder from bisexual to lesbian, that the number of men appearing on my supposedly women only feed dropped significantly. Like the creeps are still there, but there weren’t nearly as many as before.

If Tinder sees that you’re bisexual but you had your preferences set to women only, they will still try to show you men. I would always recommend just setting your sexuality on there to lesbian. Or deleting Tinder because it’s an awful app and online dating sucks.

(And before anyone comes after me for saying I’m a lesbian when I’m bi - I kept my listed sexuality hidden and had 🩷💜💙 in my bio so no one other than Tinder itself thought I was a lesbian.)

Like fuck I'm on tinder ofc I know about the male oriented bisexuals they're fucking everywhere and they're really annoying. Maybe some of them are literally bicurious straight girls. Unicorn hunters are super annoying and the ones who straight up *hide* the fact that they're looking for a 3rd are actively being predators. I would NEVER justify that or say that taking precautions to protect yourself from that is a problem.

But if you genuinely think judging all bisexuals as being centered around men isn't an issue and then you ALSO turn around and call older bisexuals in lesbian community spaces names when they label themselves differently because they're NOT male oriented and DON'T want to be "open to men" in their sex lives then what the fuck do you actually want us to do?

Trans women are men. Hope this helps.

I'm a radical feminist in that I'm rad, and support women's rights. ALL women's rights. INCLUDING TRANS WOMEN.

It really bothers me when people say like ‘you shouldn’t do this to kids… unless you’re in poverty, then it’s understandable’. Like, yes, I get where they’re coming from in the sense that it’s different to treat kids a certain way because you cannot afford anything else and treating kids a certain way because it’s a lifestyle choice or whatever but can we stop acting like something that can be harmful to kids is not harmful when done in poverty? Can we recognise that something is bad for children and will continue to be bad regardless of if it’s done by choice or necessity? Can we actually for once acknowledge that children who are brought up in poverty are often traumatised from it?

The sorts of things that I see most commonly talked about and what I’m mostly referring to is like people who live in fancy caravans/motorhomes with minimal space and being like ‘there’s no privacy which is bad for kids… but understandable if you can’t afford anything more’ or sometimes I see it with food restrictions where they’ll say that it’s bad to limit something but okay if you can’t afford otherwise. Another I saw was about parents spending time with kids and being like ‘but it’s fine if parents need to work like 12 hours a day to keep up with expenses’ - like I get that’s what they need to do to keep the house over their head and food on the table, but it doesn’t mean that never having their parents around isn’t going to affect the children and their relationship?

I just feel the whole ‘everyone is entitled to and deserves to have children if they want to’ mentality seeping into these conversations sometimes and people seem to forget that children are people too and this stuff will affect them even if they recognise that it’s done out of necessity.

Thoughts on separatism?

No

🩷💜💙

🩷💜💙

I wrote one comment copying what people had been saying to a woman on a different video-that she thought the world centred around her and that she was a Karen, and it got removed automatically. Still unsure what exactly triggered it because I doubt it was Karen. Nuts, maybe?

An incomplete list of things I’ve said on TikTok which have gotten my comments removed/reported (normally automatically)

Dummy

Dumb

Stupid

Idiot

‘Men are awful’

‘I hate men’

Pretty sure that homophobe/homophobic got me reported? Not being homophobic, just the word

I have no clue what specifically caused this constant auto report but I basically got reported for insulting straight people. Basically, a guy was arguing that all gay people are hyper-consumerists and specifically gay men because they take PrEP so they can keep going on Grindr and sleeping with random dudes. I responded with the same thing about straight people, but with birth control and Tinder. Every comment got blocked. Didn’t matter if I said str8 or BC or whatever, it got banned. No clue why. So insulting gay men over multiple comments was completely fine, but one response about straight people was not okay?

Which radfems are treating suicide like a trivial thing? Because I have seen radfems who are arseholes and make death threats on a daily basis, but trivialising suicide? I didn’t think anyone went so low

I hate how radfems talk about trans suicide rates because they treat it like such a trivial thing. Like we just kill ourselves for the trend, because we just wanted to guilt trip people, or just because we didn't "get our way". It has the same energy as people who think it's "the easy way out" because it just completely ignores how serious ending your life is, how hard it is, how much of a dark place you have to be in, how real it is.