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Wait, so you said that you can learn to trust others by building friendships, but how does one go about doing that? Wouldn't someone I don't know be creeped out or annoyed if I suddenly walked up and started talking to them?
Friendships are built of repeated low-stakes interactions and returned bids for attention with slowly increasing intimacy over time.
It takes a long time to make friends as an adult. People will probably think you're weird if you just walk up and start talking to them as though you are already their friend (people think it's weird when I do this, I try not to do this) but people won't think it's weird if you're someone they've seen a few times who says "hey" and then gradually has more conversations (consisting of more words) with them.
I cheat at forming adult friendships by joining groups where people meet regularly. If you're part of a radio club that meets once a week and you just join up to talk about radios, eventually those will be your radio friends.
If there's a hiking meetup near you and you go regularly, you will eventually have hiking friends.
Deeper friendships are formed with people from those kinds of groups when you do things with them outside of the context of the original interaction; if you go camping with your radio friend, that person is probably more friend than acquaintance. If you go to the movies with a hiking friend who likes the same horror movies as you do, that is deepening the friendship.
In, like 2011 Large Bastard decided he wanted more friends to do stuff with so he started a local radio meetup. These people started as strangers who shared an interest. Now they are people who give each other rides after surgery and help each other move and have started businesses together and have gone on many radio-based camping trips and have worked on each other's cars.
Finding a meetup or starting a meetup is genuinely the cheat-code for making friends.
This is also how making friendships at schools works - you're around a group of people very regularly and eventually you get to know them better and you start figuring out who you get along with and you start spending more time with those people.
If you want to do this in the most fast and dramatic way possible, join a band.
In 2020 I wrote something of a primer on how to turn low-stakes interactions with neighbors and acquaintances into more meaningful relationships; check the notes of this post over the next couple days, I'll dig up the link and share it in a reblog.
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TWO HOURS AGO: our comrades at university of vermont have started a gaza solidarity encampment! every time a university tries to suppress and destroy encampments, a new one blooms. locals show up if you can, they're asking for bodies asap!!
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JUST NOW: our comrades at princeton have begun occupying a building after 5 days of occupying mccosh quad!
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Addendum: some organizers did indeed leave, but the encampment has continued.
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THIS MORNING: comrades at university of rochester have established a gaza solidarity encampment in the early hours of the morning! like i say with every post about a new encampment, if you're local show up! show these universities students and local communities say no to investing in genocide!
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any of the people who semi-regularly work with scully and mulder probably have an introductory x files speech ready to go for any newbies
"...and last but not least, take a look at the two agents over there"
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"we're all waiting for the day they finally make out at a crime scene, but until then, if you want to keep your sanity, do NOT interact with both of them at once. you WILL be traumatized for life. any questions?"
"...are they. married?"
"fuck if i know, but talk to carl and you can join the betting pool."
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The Căluşari//2x21
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Hundreds of Jewish anti-war demonstrators have been arrested during a Passover seder that doubled as a protest in New York, as they shut down a major thoroughfare to pray for a ceasefire and urge the Senate majority leader, Chuck Schumer, to end US military aid to Israel.
The 300 or so arrests took place on Tuesday night at Grand Army Plaza, on the doorstep of Schumer’s Brooklyn residence, where thousands of mostly Jewish New Yorkers gathered for the seder, a ritual that marked the second night of the holiday celebrated as a festival of freedom by Jews worldwide.
The seder came just before the US Senate resoundingly passed a military package that includes $26bn for Israel.
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Dont forget Palestinian students
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they're amusing to me
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you ask and i provide. dungeon meshi textposts pt13, a chilchuck exclusive
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dungeon meshi textposts pt12 except it’s all just senshi and bread (also a mandatory marcille appearance)
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dungeon meshi textposts pt20, episode 17 edition!! and here were the manga spoiler ones from the earlier textposts :)
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