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JIKOOK vs OTHER BTS SHIPS INVOLVING JIKOOK

This conversation is long over due. I know. I have been contemplating on how best to express my sensitiments about these BTS ships in general and how Jikook stands out from them to me without also participating in the outing culture so bare with me.

I started this blog to share my thoughts, my observations and theories about Jikook- not Jikook the ship, Jikook the alternative ship. I'll explain shortly.

You see, I am a shipper shipper. A professional shipper if you will. I ship anything and anyone with a pulse. Hell, I ship Lucifer and his brother Jesus; lord bless me but it's all I could think about as an eight year old in Sabbath School.

But as I grew up, fiction wasn't enough anymore. That's when I started getting into alternative shipping- shipping real life people who are in a real life romantic relationship like the Carters, Harry and Megan, Zayn and Hadid, Rihanna and Drake or any other two pairs that present as a power couple or has the potential to become one. Selena Gomez, I got my eyes on you.

The stakes were much higher in those kinds of ships and I love a challenge. It is why I got into Jikook. They are a power couple- in the making. Gay Icons extraordinaire- In my opinion.

They have so much potential as a couple and as a unit and it is evident in the way BigHit brands them and includes their brand in corporate campaigns and in their in-house marketing strategies as I have explained in previous posts.

Prior to Jikook, I was into Yoonmin, Vmin, Minimoni and basically any ship involving Jimin. I still am. That man is ship compatible with anyone. If you are a shipper shipper you'll know what I mean.

But then somewhere along the way, I noticed Jikook were a bit- different. They lend themselves to be more than a ship and presented a symptom of alternative ship to me. Lord, how they tickled my alternative shipper senses!

Don't get me wrong. Jikook is a ship like any other ship first and foremost. But they are a ship and then some- An alternative ship.

As a ship, they don't invalidate any other ship in BTS including Taekook, Jinkook and all other BTS ships involving them. But as an alternative ship, they render any other ship involving Jimin and JK invalid.

Shipping is just celebrating and enjoying the bond and relationship between two or more people platonic wise or wanting, desiring two people to be in a romantic relationship. This type of shipping presupposes that the ship in question isn't in fact real to begin with but you just hope that they are.

Alternative shipping is different however. Not better, different. It's not just about the fantasy. It is about acknowledging that two people are together romantically and supporting them or rooting for them.

In alternative shipping you are limited in the way you fantasize about your one true pair- because they are real people and you don't have the freedom and range that conventional shipping provides which is no inhibitions.

You don't get to project on to your OTP. At best, you get to live vicariously through them and that is as far as fantasy goes. You don't have much control over their narrative. All you get to do is enjoy their moments, support their relationship, and pray to the good ole shipping gods that they don't break up. I'm dead serious about the praying part.

In conventional shipping you sort of hope that your OTP end up together. In Alternative shipping they are already together and you sort of hope they don't break up. Does it make sense?

Break ups thus are a huge component part of alternative shipping. Alternative shippers constantly keep an eye out for breakup rumors and conflicts. Because why not? Your ship ends as soon as there is a break up. It's a life or death situation, I kid you not.

If you are lucky and your OTP gets back together you thank your stars and you thank them good- I am still very salty about Drake and Rihanna. Very, very salty. *pouting in ships.

It's therefore frustrating to see people within the fandom confuse these two types of shipping. It's fascinating to see the typical conventional 'vanilla' shipper with their pitch fork hurling slurs at alternative shippers whenever they talk about possible conflicts and breakup rumors involving their OTP.

That's just bigotry and gatekeeping at it's finest but let's not talk about that today. Let's talk about Taekook and Jinkook and all the other ships involving JK and Jimin because I receive a lot of Asks about those other ships whenever they have a moment and frankly it's beginning to stress my edges out- I'm growing bald here guys. Lol

For some reason people seem to think those other ship moments invalidates Jikook? Huh??

Listen, Jikook is real whether Jin kisses Jk on the cheek, bum, shoulder, lip or anywhere else. Jikook is real whether Tae hugs Jk, goes on a dinner date, rides with JK or shares a room with him. These other ships do not invalidate Jikook. At all!

And just because Jikook are in a relationship with eachother does not mean they cannot be affectionate with the other members in and outside their band- that's a very Jungkook-esque way of thinking if you think like that and a very Jimin x the rest of BTS-esque way of thinking if you think otherwise!

It's no secret that JK and Jimin hold different views or values with regards to boundaries in relationships or what couples are allowed and not allowed to do with others outside their relationship.

And it makes sense. These are two men coming from the same culture but different households, with different influences and beliefs about a lot of things including love.

The way I see it, from all the Jimlous and Jeonlous moments over the years, Jikook may have the same idea and approach when it comes to boundary enforcement but they hold different views on what behavior constitutes a breach of said boundaries.

Not to mention, they enforce boundaries in different ways.

Boundaries or the lack of it, has always been at the heart of Jikook issues- the fights and conflicts, the breakups etc. From my perspective anyway.

And I find that usually people who have concerns about Jikook's interactions with other members are projecting their own values and ideologies about boundaries in relationships onto these boys.

Now I'm not saying it is wrong to filter their relationship through your own personal experiences and relationship lens. What I'm saying is, it is their relationship and their rules and perhaps we should learn to listen to how they choose to interact with eachother and how they are choosing to define and explain love or boundaries in this case. Isn't that what support is all about?

I've seen some people dismiss Jikook as real simply because Jimin is less territorial over Jk and doesn't hulk out whenever he sees JK interact in a way they describe as disconcerting with Tae, Jin or any of the members.

Jikook are not living out a script. They are real people in a real relationship and if my observations about them is right, they are each other's romantic awakening. They don't have much dating experience outside eachother- in my opinion.

So when people say things like 'if Jikook is real, Jimin wouldn't allow JK to do x with Tae or Jin' or 'I wouldn't allow my significant other to do x with y so Jikook must not be real then' it baffles me. It really does.

While I understand where these sentiments are coming from, I also find it all so very bizarre. Because their behavior in regards to such instances could be influenced by a myriad of things:

Their experience in dating, believes about love and dating, differences in methodologies, their culture, their backgrounds- their behaviors are influenced by a plethora of things. They are in fact complex beings after all.

You see JM is territorial, almost as territorial as JK if not more. And when he feels there's been a cross of boundaries he would react strongly to it. STRONGLY. He is very assertive in that way.

Now, I am not Korean and I cannot say much about their skinship culture. But I can say this, BTS in general lack both physical and emotional boundaries with eachother in my opinion. And this affects the dynamics between Jikook with regards to the enforcement of boundaries in general.

I don't make much of jealousy moments when such moments occur amongst BTS members because they are human and secondly their human nature is amplified by the lack of walls between the.

And it is there in almost every BTS ship. But even jealousy moments in Jikook seem different. I don't call it Jealousy, I call it an acknowledgement of a lack of boundary.

That's how most Jimlous moments look like to me anyway. He seems to express disappointment and displeasure whenever he acknowledges the lack of boundaries between some of the members but especially where JK is concerned.

It is why often I look to Jimin to decide whether JK's 'skinship' with others crosses the line. I don't impose my own understanding of boundaries onto them at all for the mere fact that we come from different cultures.

Now JK on the other hand. Deep sigh. Bless him lord. I don't trust his views on boundaries. Not in the slightest least. Dude is both territorial and possessive and usually i find he confuses the two.

I mean there is nothing wrong with being territorial. Being territorial is also about setting boundaries, asserting those boundaries and demanding that those boundaries be respected by others.

And whereas there is nothing wrong with being territorial, I cannot say the same about being possessive. BTS have said it and JK has admitted it- JK is very possessive. Well he was but lately I noticed he's been working hard on that part of him. Good for him. We stan a healthy relationship.

What is his is his and what is other's his his. Remember when he said that? Jk is the best of BTS and the worst of them. He has inherited their best traits and I'm afraid their worst traits also. In my opinion.

If BTS lacks boundaries with eachother, Jk is worse. We've all seen him try to eat food from RM's mouth. Kid is super duper gross but we love him. Bless him. Lol

Interestingly, JM didn't react strongly to that moment when it happened. I mean JK all but kissed RM in that Bon Voyage moment. Yet somehow Jimim found JK massaging Jin's neck as an issue and reacted strongly to that? What gives?

From my observation, when it comes to enforcing boundaries by Jikook, the person they are enforcing their boundaries against is as relevant as the action being perpetrated and it is all laced with subtexts and contexts that usually we are missing.

What I mean is, JM usually reacts relatively strongly to Jinkook, HopeKook, Taekook more so than Namkook or Yoonkook. And you notice perhaps it's because the dynamics between RM and Kook, Suga and Kook is a tad different than between Jin, Hobi, Tae and Jk.

I mean, Taekook! The evil power twin of BTS! Lol. I know people like to place them in Ravenclaw but lord, I will shove those duo evil incarnate in Slytherin right along with their master Jimin if you give me the sorting hat! Lmho.

Taekook is a beautiful and interesting pair and when they activate their powers band PD gulps nervously. Say ay if you know what I'm talking about! Love them!

But yes, Jin, Hobi and Tae are very playful by nature, and can be very childish at times and this plays into their interactions with Jk. So very often, JM overlooks these interactions between them and JK.

Yet very often too, I feel JM feels those three can be a bit reckless in their interactions with JK and can easily cross the line with him and so JM tends to act weary of their interactions with JK most times as well.

What I mean is, Jin, Hobi and Tae can easily cross JM's boundaries with regards to JK because they are the most carefree and playful members with JK and so Jimin ends up enforcing boundaries with them very often. But he doesn't seem to do that with RM and Suga vs Kook.

The reverse is true for JK.

RM, Suga and Hobi are very care free and playful with JM as compared to say Jin and JM.

The closer two people are, the more playful they are with eachother, the higher the lack of boundaries is between them.

Intimacy and closeness with another human requires, to varying degrees, a certain amount of lowering of walls and with those, boundaries. And when you have a group that's built their brand on their bond and take pride in their intimacy- the lack of emotional and physical boundaries between them-

Like Tae stripping Jk naked to the D in the bathroom or even the emotional connection between Tae and Jimin- that shit is not normal VMin. I enjoy y'all but it's not normal. Lol.

-then it's understandable why setting up boundaries for their relationship and enforcing those boundaries within such an environment would be a bit difficult for Jikook and especially JK who has his possessive and territorial nature to contend with as well.

I mean BTS have said what makes them stand out from other idol groups is their closeness to eachother and they are not wrong. The level of intimacy, the lack of emotional and physical boundaries between all of them, is crazy out of this world!

It's a bit presumptuous to expect Jikook to suddenly have boundaries in certain areas of their lives where boundaries never existed to begin with and to enforce those boundaries against members with whom they individually never had boundaries with.

I feel part of why the other members of BTS seemly have 'issues' with JK and the tensions between Jk and them in regards to Jimin is due to this. And this is especially true for Tae and JK in my opinion.

There's been a lot of tensions between Tae and JK in the past couple of years- 2019 GDA moments for example, Dynamite MV reaction VLive moment for there other.

Tae is one member who has consistently and constantly pushed back against Jk's monopolization of Jimin. And I know I joke about him being on his VMin agenda most times but dude takes that shit seriously. Lol

He's done so actively and passive aggressively through out the years: like when he talked about JK not allowing Jimin to come film a VLive with him, or when he dragged JK way so he could ride with Jimin.

RM does this too post 2018. He used to submit to JK's authority over JM but after 2018 he's been pushing back hard against JK. It's crazy because RM and Tae are two of the members most emotionally dependent on JM. Yet those are the two less territorial over JM. And makes you wonder what gives JK the right to be as territorial over JM or JM over JK. Lord, I said no outing in this post!

RM and Tae lack emotional boundaries with JM and it shows in the way they push back whenever JK tries to enforce boundaries with them. But for some reason, JK doesn't react as strongly to Tae and JM but he flinches when RM as much as breathes near JM.

Now, this could just be because he is closer to Tae than RM but I just think it's because he feels threatened by RM as a viable love interest of JM. But don't take my word for it. I'm delusional.

The boundaries Jikook enforce are not only physical boundaries, they try to enforce emotional boundaries as well.

What that means is that, while we may be looking at a physical interaction involving them and calling for either of them to enforce a boundary there, they might have already enforced an emotional boundary there and so wouldnt be as much bothered by the act- the missing subtext and context aforementioned.

Where we may be worrying about a physical boundary, Jikook may be more concerned about enforcing an emotional boundary somewhere else.

We are not them. We don't see what they see nor do we understand fully what goes on when the cameras go off. The content we see is just a fraction of the interactions that goes on between them.

If Jikook are not sweating it, why should we? Jikook's existence does not estop Jinkook from having skinship nor does it prevent Taekook from being affectionate with each other. And neither of these interactions invalidate Jikook.

JK has been working on his possessiveness issues and lately, since August 2019, he has been trying to not get worked up as much over certain interactions between JM and the other members- I said he has been trying (and failing miserably) He's cute.

Trust me when I say, if he or Jimin feel a boundary is being crossed they will enforce it pronto. They are both very assertive and very not blind.

Needless to say, it is very dangerous to want to interpret every interaction between these men in the light of shipping. The message that sends is that it is not normal for two men to be affectionate and vulnerable with eachother outside a romantic context which in itself is perpetuating a variant of the toxic masculinity couture.

If Jikook is real, any other ship involving JK and JM besides Jikook is equally not real. That is a given. And Jikook and all other ships involving Jikook are mutually exclusive.

Thus, I refrain from assuming Jk and JM are romantically entangled with any other member or even interpret their other ship's interactions to reflect such a conclusion. I just don't see it. Where? Where is it?

There's only one alternative ship in BTS that I see and that is Jikook. The others are mere conventional ships in my opinion.

I don't see JK or JM as the kind to mess with their group's dynamics in that way either. I don't see them as selfish or that reckless. And it's not because I have such profound faith in them as human beings... It's just- JK throws tantrums over the minutest things JM does to let bigger things such as JM cheating on him with another member slide.

I mean, shit, we wouldn't hear the end of it for years and BTS official Twitter will be filled with lots of Adele and Taylor swift song recommendations! Lol

BTS would have to hide all the frying pans in the world! I mean why do you think New Jersey VLive happened? Dude petty as fuck.

No but seriously, I think such a situation would have much more greater repercussions on the group's dynamics as all substantive relationships in BTS has already been formed and there is a moral code at play here: Bros before- I got nothing. Lol

Personally, I don't trust anyone who thinks Taekook is real or that there are any other gay couple besides Jikook in BTS as far as alternative shipping goes.

If Taekook or Jinkook is real I honestly don't see it. Don't get me wrong, Taekook has a lot of potential to be a great power couple- if only they were a couple and JK wasn't a rogue agent in that ship.

JK is a shipper's nightmare for real. Ship him with anyone besides Jimin at your own peril. I wouldn't bet my money on him outside Jikook- god's honest truth.

Anywho, this is just my thoughts on this whole matter. Let me know what y'all think. Namaste.

Signed,

GOLDY

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