EVERYTHING HAS CHANGED — TAYLOR SWIFT ↳ my swiftie spring/autumn exchange gift for @actual-sleeping-beauty ! ♡

guy who makes a spreadsheet to figure out if his crush likes him back

Mary Oliver, from “Toad”, Truro Bear and Other Adventures : Poems and Essays

quote of the year

something deeply intimate about being outside early in the morning all alone and seeing the world as she is

Stop obsessing over him…

While it might seem fun to fantasise about a man, to think about him non-stop, to imagine your life together what you’re actually doing is sending a very strong signal to the universe that energetically ‘I come second’. While this might sound extreme, hear me out... Your thoughts are no longer your own because you are thinking about him. You can’t focus on you because you are thinking about him. All of a sudden everything is about him. You wake up, you take a shower. Lost in the fantasy...He might be a man you’re talking to, dating, fucking, whatever the case my be. Obsessing over a man in thought is never something you should get comfortable with, giving your precious energy away to moments that will ….most likely never happen. And what for? What about thinking about you. Your dreams, passions? The vision for your day? You only have so much mental capacity each day. And getting lost in the fantasy is not the answer.

Create no fantasy of him. This is your lesson. Press pause. Literally press fucking pause. Eject the tape. Throw it out the window. This is YOUR movie. You get to take centre stage. You no longer have to play second to mentally overthinking men. 

Start choosing you. But you have to choose you in thought first and foremost. You can’t come second in thought. Your thinking has to be on you, about you. You can’t come second mentally because a man who is not your man is taking centre stage in your mind. Your thinking space is prime real estate. It needs YOU. YOU need to own that domain. Not think it’s cute to imagine the future, get all giddy and love sick. No. No no no. Bring it back to you. Your job now is to remain focused on you. That is it. Remain focused of you. Let go. Just let go. 

Is this message clear enough for you. Do you understand now how harmful it is to make a man first priority in your mind? 

Give yourself some grace. Clean your room and get back to you. Focusing on you. Energising you. It’s a process, but the shift can be instant..all of a sudden one day you just say no. No to allowing a man to take up the domain of your mind. And just like that you can switch off that light in your mind that gets excited to overthink a man. Say no. Pray. Ask for a miracle. Call on angels. This is truly serious because focusing on you, and remaining in your centre is how you win in this life. 

Lili Brik, from a letter to Vladimir Mayakovsky featured in Love in the Heart of Everything; The Correspondence between Vladimir Mayakovsky & Lili Brik, 1915-1930

The use of words like "collapse" when describing how people fall into one another. Sometimes giving in to that desire for comfort feels a whole lot like destruction.

Pulls up to the event whimpering and pathetic and asks if anyone would hold me

what makes you happy? what gives your life meaning? i'm trying to learn from others :-)

genuinely save me

Georgia O’Keeffe, in a letter to Russel Vernon Hunter, from Georgia O’Keeffe: Art and Letters

Art by René Magritte

So many broken-hearted people have got to hear the birds sing, and see all the little flowers grow,

Emily Dickinson, from a letter to Lavinia N. Dickinson written c. April 1860

got to say, this life is rough, this world is tough, but oooooh boy when the birds sing and the creek is running and the friends are laughing