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Prince and Denise - What's This Strange Relationship

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Prince and Denise - What’s This Strange Relationship

An excerpt from Denise’s book “Blame It On Vanity” was posted by Denise on her Facebook in September 2012. If you ever wondered about Prince’s Strange Relationship song, here’s what Denise had to say in her book.

Metaphorically speaking!

Chapter 21

So shall I be thrown back in time to speak of the adolescent scuffling, of many a juvenile heart, the competitiveness that strikes like the claws of a cat or the tall tale being somewhat of a novice now told with less enthusiasm, having been coughed up by gossiping proficients, professing insane truths, having sucked it out of a bottle? Not being accustomed to strutting with a steel heart, my tears roared out and poured down like rain and I missed terribly a life of which I had not yet beheld. Who and what was I becoming and to whom did I belong? And what of the piercing screams of dialogue gone rotten, and, arguments pushed away like leftovers in a moldy box? It was needful to live through life’s galloping changes grouped to a people that were growing, cutting back our stinkweed; falling down but waiting to be watered and having an unquenchable thirst for stardom. One remembers the pleasures, if one verily agreed with the pleasure. Most assuredly; and do bear with me a little in my past folly however with folly henceforth came my brokenhearted-ness and the dismantling of the titled song, “What’s This Strange Relationship.”

-Denise-

Blame It On Vanity

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Strange Relationship Lyrics – 1987

“Strange Relationship”

I guess U know me well, I don’t like winter But I seem 2 get a kick out of doing U cold Oh, what the hell, U always surrender What’s this strange relationship that we hold on 2? Baby I just can’t stand 2 see U happy More than that I hate 2 see U sad Honey if U left me I just might do something rash What’s this strange relationship? (ship, ship, ship)I came and took your love, I took your body I took all the self respect U ever had I took U 4 a ride and baby I’m sorry The more U love me sugar, the more it makes me madBaby I just can’t stand 2 see U happy More than that I hate 2 see U sad Honey if U left me I just might do something rash What’s this strange relationship? (ship, ship, ship)Isn’t it a shame this ain’t a movie Then U could rewrite my every line I’ll take all the blame, yo baby I’m sorry But I didn’t like the way U where, so I had 2 make U mineBaby I just can’t stand 2 see U happy More than that I hate 2 see U sad Honey if U left me I just might do something rash What’s this strange relationship? (ship, ship, ship)

Mmmmm, my strange relationship Can’t live with U, can’t live without U That’s all about.. Do U know? (strange relationship) I think U and I got a (strange relationship) What’s this strange relationship? Yeah, yeah [repeated to fade]

These lyrics were obtained from: AZ Lyrics website.

Prince and the Princess

Prince and Denise on Rolling Stone Magazine cover

Prince and Denise/Vanity, being nearly the same age, were both young and free back in the early 80s. They came into each other lives at a time when Prince was close to his prime in super-stardom and Denise was trying to get there. She once said in an interview with Donnie Simpson in 1985 that she never thought she was a good singer. She wasn’t a Diana Ross or an Aretha Franklin, but that she wouldn’t have gotten into the business if she didn’t think there was some talent there. She was quite the talented and creative artist, writer, actor, and most importantly, became a dedicated woman of God. Even though they were, at some point in their lives, not just deeply in love, their love/hate relationship was intense. They were both headstrong individuals who believed to be one another in another life. Denise stated that they were so close it became scary.

Did you know that Denise originally wrote the lyrics for Nasty Girls and that Prince added on to the lyrics? This information I read from the content that her brother-in-law shared that belonged to Denise and was in Denise’s handwriting.

I just couldn’t imagine such a closeness between Prince and Denise, where she even stated that their shadows measured to be the same, as well! They were one another in another life, they were practically attached to each other, she was rumored to have tried on his coat when he first met her and it was a perfect fit, they felt they were each other’s mirror–hence the name he christened her: Vanity, they lived parallel lives throughout the years, had the same creative style… Really, how close can you get?

I’ve read where some have stated that Denise said they (her and Prince) have waken before from having the same dream. I’ve read plenty rumors that I cannot confirm to be accurate–including a rumor that Prince was trying to get back with Denise even into the 90s. That information went from this world when Prince and Denise passed and is only known to God. Some things are better left that way and gone with the wind.

I’ve read many of places about songs that Vanity inspired that Prince had written–including songs such as: Strange Relationship, When Doves Cry, a portion of Purple Rain, Adore, The Beautiful Ones, and many more that were recorded during their time together (Dirty Mind era/Controversy era/1999 era/Purple Rain era) .

Dez Dickerson – My Time With Prince

According to Dez’s book: My Time With Prince (released in 2003), Prince was so involved with Vanity he felt that Prince was putting Vanity before his very own, longtime band. So, it goes like this—Vanity came in and changed Prince in such a way that didn’t sit well with Dez, apparently. It has also been rumored that others took a disliking to Denise or was jealous of Denise because it was like Denise came in among a tight-knit, well-talented band that were like best friends with Prince, and Prince hardly knew Denise, before all of a sudden, she was christened Vanity and it was him and Vanity against the world. Prince had gotten himself a second traveling bus for him and his newfound lover to smooch on–you know, a tad bit more privacy away from prying eyes. He later broke up with the beautiful Susan Moonsie to be with Vanity.

He was so in love with Vanity he had to have been hit by several of cupid’s arrows, the moment he saw Denise in 80/81 American Music Awards. I am not sure of the AMA date, but it was stated on Denise’s obituary that they met in 1980 at the American Music Awards. Denise also stated that Prince was tenaciously pursuing her and calling her agent often to get her to be with him. Our man was trying hard. Can’t knock him for loving the women.

Back to Dez’s book… I cannot say if what Dez felt was justifiable or not, but nonetheless, he clearly seem to have been hurt by it at some point. I believe he’s pass that by now, of course.

Please take note that those words I used regarding Dez’s book were my own way of putting it from Dez’s words. I did not quote his book verbatim. I repeat, those were NOT Dez’s exact words in his book.

As Prince stated during his Denise tribute on his Piano and a Microphone tour–they were deeply in love with one another and as much as they love they fought.

Can’t stand to be with you, can’t stand to be without you.

What a strange relationship it was.

However deep their love was, Denise wanted to reach her dreams as much as Prince wanted to reach/live his. In her eyes, she had to make the decision to let go of the only person she ever loved, the person she loved deeply, so that she could pursue the dreams she had for Denise, to take the next step towards her reaching her dreams. This, according to Denise, could not have happened had she chose to stay for Purple Rain and Prince.

Mayte Garcia – The Most Beautiful

According to Mayte’s The Most Beautiful book, Prince stated to Mayte that Vanity asked for more money to do Purple Rain (Denise said in an interview that she was offered just 5,000 to do the lead in Purple Rain) and when he didn’t agree with what she wanted, she said she wasn’t doing the movie and quit… broke his heart. Denise stated in an interview that she asked for more money because she needed an excuse to leave Prince. Denise, whom was the original star cast of Purple Rain (Prince and Vanity love-story that Appollonia took on in Purple Rain after Vanity), alongside of Prince, had chosen to leave Prince and Purple Rain to set a path–a path she said she always wanted to take towards becoming who she wanted to be. No purple but plenty of rain must’ve followed. It was pouring hard for dear Vanity. She admitted to wanting to die during her heavy cocaine use days. She was lost, deep with anger from her past, and was never happy–that is, until God came in and intervened on that day she was in the emergency room and nearly lost her life. That day changed Denise forever.

Prince Interview – Jet Magazine1997

“Everyone thought I was going to marry Vanity. She is where I am… connected with her spirit.“

Prince – Jet Magazine

One can only assume what this meant to Prince. To me, however, this means he truly wanted to marry her at some point and others knew so, as well. But, when I think of what it meant to Denise, I believe that she was purely focus on living for Christ. She had shed her Vanity character and, as Prince once stated about himself, she didn’t want to look back nor go back to Vanity. Yes, Denise loved Prince with a deep passion but God was more… so much more. She felt that God is what brought her happiness, that God was the reason for her being able to forgive the ones that wronged and abused her, for being able to live through her near death experience, that resulted from the overuse of cocaine, and that it was by God’s grace that she lived over 23 more years without a kidney inside of her. Denise was dearly devoted to Christ and her Christianity. Rightfully so. Prince later became a Jehovah Witness and was reportedly so until the end, as far I I know.

A few things anyone must consider, when it involved Prince and Denise

Denise might have (might have) chose not to marry Prince because she was focused on her life with Christ. It seems this would explain why Prince and Denise didn’t marry and/or why he stated to Jet Magazine that everyone thought he was going to marry Vanity but she was connected with her spirit. In my eyes, I see Denise deciding against any marriage proposal from Prince (if there was one) because of her religion alone. She stated before that God was her husband. This did not negate the fact that she loved Prince. It is possible she simply loved God more, that she didn’t see a future such as marriage between her and Prince, and chose to remain friends-only with him. She had already married and divorced a professional football player that turned for the worse before the interview Prince did with Jet took place. Denise may have decided marriage wasn’t for her. No one will ever know for certain.

I do not believe it was ever about what Prince wanted when it involved marrying Denise. Many have asked if Denise was the one Prince loved more than the other women, or was the one that held his heart, if they were soulmates, why didn’t he marry her? No one, it seems, thought about if it was Denise who chose not to marry Prince, instead of the other way around. Denise was already deeply devoted to God before Prince chose to live the Christian life. She stated she left her past behind. She said that she was no longer Vanity and she was out of the music industry and film industry for good. Prince was still there. This would have likely interfered with Denise’s plans to leave it all behind for the sake of living purely for Christ. Could you imagine an Evangelist married to a man that was still strutting around with that pop-and-lock and spouting those sultry, te amo, mi amor lyrics about what he can do for a woman? I haven’t necessarily contemplated whether his performance was of any approval towards any Christians–but I do believe, sincerely, that Denise wouldn’t have been ok with that. Prince stated in an interview that his musical talent was a God-given gift that he was not going to stop doing.

Prince and Denise were not entirely with the same beliefs when it involved Christianity. To my understanding, a Jehovah Witness does not believe in hell, whereas in Denise’s religion, she believed in Satan and hell. Denise’s religion believes in the God-given of speaking in tongues, whereas Jehovah Witnesses do not. There are several conflicts between the two religions. And with that, I do not see how a marriage between them would have worked. I doubt either were going to let go of each other’s religion for another. They were both too deeply involved in their religion. Simply put, it wasn’t meant to be–no more than with the women he proposed to and didn’t marry, not even with the two women that he did marry because they divorced. Prince and Denise were brought into each other’s lives for a reason–be it a reason only God knows.

Prince and Denise’s love/hate relationship they’ve both admitted to having was indeed a Strange Relationship.

I have much love for both Prince and Denise and wish them both heaven.

PrinceAndVanity.net Administrator

Please know that I am not a Prince/Vanity “stan“. I did not create this website because I believe Denise was his one, true love, or that they were soulmates or “mirrored” each other. I do not have an educated knowledge about soulmates nor astronomy-related stuff that I’ve seen people discussing, but I do believed a lot of things they did, for whatever reason, parallel each other. However, this is not why this website exist. I created this website in support for Prince and in support for Denise, not in support of a love interest. Prince already stated to the world what he and Denise were to one another and Denise stated so as well. This website does not exist to convince you of what you (if you are familiar with Prince and Denise) should already know. I’ve no doubt about what I already feel in my heart that I know. What I know is that Prince and Denise loved one another deeply, I do know that Prince and Denise did communicate for a while after their breakup during the Purple Rain era, I do know that Prince and Denise will never be forgotten. I do not favor any one person that was involved with Prince over another. I truly believe Prince had some love for every one he was in a relationship with. I believe that these people that were in his life were all beautiful in their own way inside/out.

Writing

I studied in college to become a novelist. I later changed my interest from Literature to studying for a degree in Medical Science (Medical Sonography) and later that changed to studying in Graphic Design, Web Development and Photography. Yes, I was indecisive but interested in each subject. I couldn’t pursue all, so I had to give up some, unfortunately. In other words, I have no degree in Literature and is a bit rusty with my editing, so to speak. However, I am a writer and love to write. There are plenty writers out there in this world, but I’ve yet to find a book by an author written about Prince with a decent amount of content written about Denise. Denise may have been in the spotlight for a brief time, but she was indeed a huge part of Prince during his prime in the Purple Rain era and before he made it to stardom–dating back to the Dirty Mind era. Purple Rain contained some details about Prince’s real life situations that he was involved in with his parents, with his band, with his proteges… with Vanity.

A Mission

I intend to write about Denise, as much as I can, and what I can about her history from the start (before Prince, during, and after) in as much detail as I can gather and will do so over time (only with any help and input from anyone with valid knowledge and is willing to add their input). In honesty, I cannot do this alone. Yet, I feel like I must write because I do feel that her story deserves justice. There are books out there from authors that are not delivering accurate information about Denise or is either misleading readers or purposely wrote the book in favor of particularly people that were involved in Prince’s life. Alex Hahn and Laura Tiebert is an example of such authors. Nikki Sixx even exaggerated on some information regarding Denise, according to Tommy Lee. There are also many ex-lovers of Prince, who have had a brief fling with him, one being a Mi-Ling Stone Poole , evin+Devasquez&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8″>Devin Devasquez, and God knows who else, adding their portion (some from a second-hand source) into the clan of old-friends-for-sale–getting while the getting is hot. Denise was not this.

You will not find such information in Denise’s book that paints Prince in a bad light such as Mayte Garcia’s book. Denise never went on a forum and spilling everything there is to spill about Prince’s sexual life, how he is in bed, or what size he is, such as what Robin Power has done. I do not have anything against people choosing to tell their story in return for monetary gain–as long as their story being told is the truth, nothing but the truth, and nothing but the whole truth. Could one assume second-hand input to be the whole truth or maybe a half of the truth? If I chose to write about Denise, I do not want nothing but the truth. Being that Denise didn’t give away the gossip that some people wanted her to do, such as a tell-all book that she was offered a heavily sum of money to do, there is room for others to just speculate and throw out whatever rumors that want about her.

Denise’s life should not be remembered as someone that Prince briefly slept with that became a cocaine addict. What comes to your mind if someone speaks about Vanity or Denise? You think of the Rolling Stone Magazine cover that a lot of people are throwing on t-shirts, in art, shoes, cups, and the likes? Some even had the nerve to say she lost it all when she became a Christian. What? Denise’s life did not begin and end with Prince. Denise was already a star before Prince. She had already played characters in movies before she met Prince. She also had a beautiful life of her own, filled with happiness, after she became closer to God. A good start to knowing Denise and the life she had as Vanity is right on the Blame It On Vanity website. Check it out!

My self-motivational interest in writing about Denise is entirely voluntary–filled with upmost inspiration from what I’ve learned thus far about Denise.

I thank you for taking the time to read this article I posted on the www.princeandvanity.net website.

One Love

Images were obtained from: Ebony.com/Pinterest.com/WennerMedia.com (Rolingstone.com Prince/Vanity iconic magazine cover)/Amazon.com

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