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memoirsofabasicbitch · 1 year

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I can tell that I’m actually not a good person because of how often I tell people, both fictional and real, that their problems would get solved a lot faster if they just started killing the people causing them

When someone can’t be negotiated with? You just kill them. The end.

Every time I read a book about a ~hopeless situation~ because ~he just won’t listen!!!~ my immediate reaction is murder is correct.

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memoirsofabasicbitch · 1 year

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“Saying i love you every minute lessens the meaning” um to YOU….freak.

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memoirsofabasicbitch · 1 year

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“They’re trying to discharge her constructively. Do you know what Constructive Discharge means?” She asked.

As soon as I heard the term ‘Constructive Discharge,’ I knew I’d never seen it on a vocabulary quiz.

“No. What does it mean?” I asked.

She explained.

“Constructive discharge is a fancy way of saying “being forced out.” It’s not good. And if you’re not a lawyer or in human resources, you’ll probably learn what it means when it’s happening to you.”

“Oh my God. I’ve seen this my entire career and never knew it even had a name.” I thought.

You’ve seen constructive Discharge too. You may have experienced it. We’ve all made choices to avoid it.

Constructive discharge defined

“We can’t fire you, but we’ll make you so miserable you’ll quit, and then we won’t have to pay your unemployment.”

Then there’s the textbook definition:

“A constructive discharge occurs when your employer has made working conditions unbearable, forcing you to resign.”

Or as one person put it.

“I didn’t get handed a pink slip, but when you’re not wanted, people have a way of letting you know.”

HR isn’t always the secret police.

Employees aren’t always victims of evil-doers.

However, employers push employees out all the time to maintain and protect the, “We didn’t do anything wrong, YOU did,” power structure.

Constructive Discharge looks like this:

— Meeting invitations slow to a trickle, and you’re excluded from emails and generally looped out of what’s going on.

— People stop talking to you or stop talking when you walk in.

— Your emails don’t get answers, or they arrive too late to be of value.

— Suddenly, your work is not good enough, though nothing about your work has changed.

— Reviews, once good or even glowing, are now mediocre or bad.

— Instead of a bonus, you get a Performance Improvement Plan.

— Warnings and write-ups start so they can justify your eventual termination with documentation of your “poor performance”

— Your work, clients, assignments go away, or they overwhelm you with work.

— The words “Set up to fail” were practically invented to describe this scenario.

Constructive Discharge is illegal

It isn’t easy to prove you’re a target, and it’s even more challenging if you don’t even know constructive discharge is a real thing.

If you’ve ever experienced this and don’t fully understand what’s happening to you beyond knowing you’re in the process of being excommunicated, it can be hell. It’s not uncommon for the experience to leave long-lasting scars.

Talk to anyone who’s ever been through it. They’ll tell you.

Knowing constructive discharge exists and how it’s used gives you power to predict what’s coming and to protect yourself.

Seeing the endgame helps you in two ways.

You know what to expect. Having a sense of what’s coming next is enormously empowering. You can go on the offensive and protect yourself. Constructive discharge works to crush your ego, making you feel you did something wrong and deserve this treatment.

Without strategy, you end up being a miserable pawn in your employer’s endgame.

Remember, they’re almost certainly building a case to fire you in the event the hellscape they create for you doesn’t persuade you to quit.

If you’re getting pushed out, and you know what to look for you can prove constructive discharge and you can get unemployment benefits, be released from payback obligations on a signing bonus, and protect your mental health.

You’re not crazy, incompetent, or a failure. This is real and it’s carefully executed to leave you holding the bag and feeling like you did something wrong.

If they force you out, in addition to feeling horrible, you lose your paycheck, benefits health insurance, and possibly owe them money.

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memoirsofabasicbitch · 1 year

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Derpy cat

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memoirsofabasicbitch · 1 year

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memoirsofabasicbitch · 1 year

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….I’m pretty sure my ex-friend’s mom developed early onset Parkinson’s as a result of her entire family having absolutely zero regard for Covid…….

Like, she was pretty much fine? And AFAIK had no real health issues. Then she got Covid. Their whole family has gotten it multiple times.

Since then, she’s developed a heart condition and severe early onset Parkinson’s.

HER mom had some issues with dementia, so there’s definitely a genetic component. But honestly? Her rapid decline over the past three years, as opposed to 10 years in the future, says to me that even if Covid didn’t CREATE the “Parkinsonism”, it definitely is the reason she developed it so badly so early.

Whoops.

Maybe she should have taught her children to have any regard for others beyond fake charitable work as a screen for religious fundamentalism……………..maybe she wouldn’t have developed this life shortening disease if her kids weren’t such completely self absorbed assholes. Maybe she would have anyway, but I highly doubt there’s neither correlation nor causation at play here.

#am I a terrible human? yes sometimes #am i reveling in others misfortunes? not really #I just find it…..morbidly ironic that her own children are almost certainly the reason she’s now disabled…..

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