the experience of animal in your house never gets old. fuck yes dude there's an animal in here. did you guys know about the animal

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Really want to iterate and reiterate until it sticks that your problems with communication stem from your parents teaching you that showing emotions and being vulnerable will get you killed.

They told you to stop crying when you were hurt.

They told you to shut up when they hurt you.

They called you stupid when you asked for help.

They dismissed you. They threw you aside. Not just once. Over and over and over until you learned how to stay silent and give them what they wanted.

They put you in constant fight/flight/freeze/fawn because they could not provide you with a safe connection.

And now as an adult we are hard wired to not only expect that as the norm, but go out of our way to reaffirm this hurtful internalization that we are always the problem.

Whereas children with healthier parents take the time to comfort and validate their children's emotions and teach them how to express themselves in a way that makes them feel safe and trusted by the adults around them.

We did not get that.

So this is your PSA to be a little kinder to yourself because you are literally fighting against a world that wouldn't even understand half the shit you've had to go through just to stand where you are today.

This is your PSA to dig a little deeper and pull those hurtful roots of exactly how your parents hurt you as a kid, how they dismissed you, how they taught you how to treat yourself when you are hurt and in need of love and connection with those around you-- and take some of that guilt off your shoulders.

This is your PSA that healthier ways of communication absolutely do exist in this world and you are absolutely worthy and capable of learning how to address the harder topics in a way that makes you feel safe and trusted with not only others around you, but with yourself as well.

And this is your PSA that none of this bullshit is your fault and you can leave that burden behind any time you feel ready to do so.

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- amaranth.

well you see... the Lord put marijuana on Earth to be yummy in my lungs and make me feel silly and joyous so it's actually okay that I'm stoned at the family Christmas function

stop villanizing disabled people. stop assuming we're just being lazy. stop assuming we could be trying harder. stop assuming that we'll "feel better" in a few weeks. stop assuming that we have the same energy levels as everyone else. thanks for coming to my ted talk.

I really don't care if Miley Cyrus smoked a bong. She's 18? She can live her own life...

cleaning

lots of times if I tell my boyfriend that I am proud of him for dealing with a situation, or that I'm sorry he's having to deal with a situation, he will say "no it's my own fault." meaning that he feels like he doesn't deserve praise or comfort for dealing with a situation that is his fault. (for example a financial problem caused or exacerbated by him having been too anxious or absentminded to deal with the situation sooner.) and I tell him this and I will tell y'all this, that I don't believe that. I think you are even braver and stronger for taking steps to deal with a mess that is of or partly of your own creation, because you have to cope with guilt and shame on top of the thing itself, and because you're fighting against the same ingrained dysfunction in yourself that caused the mess. that's like the bravest and most constructive thing you can do and you should be proud and I am proud of you.

and is your shame helpful? is it inspiring goodness and change? or is it keeping you frozen in time unable to move on and be everything you have expanded to be?

being tired all the time is such a mystery.... is it anaemia? vitamin d deficiency? chronic fatigue syndrome? depression? insomnia?? is it just the crushing weight of being alive in a capitalist society??? someone cure me

fuck esports, the only correct way to play smash is the way my 7 y/o niece plays it: connecting 2 controllers, setting one as peach, setting the other as marth, pretending marth is peach’s boyfriend and then playing virtual barbie and ken with them

yes, food is fuel. but it is also for pleasure. it is also enjoyable. it is also emotional, personal, intimate. food is fuel, yes, but that does not make you a machine. you are allowed to eat something just because you want it, just because it sounds good, regardless of the nutritional properties. food is a shared human experience bridging across our entire existence. to reduce it to something as simplistic as fuel denies us the emotional connection that food contains. food is fuel, yes, but it is also so much more than that.

me: why does it feel like someone else has taken over my body and im just watching

me, remembering I have “people take over your body” disorder: 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯