One of my favorite things about Sansa as a character is that her love of stories and her joy in environmental beauty (natural AND man-made) makes her emotionally independent to a large degree. 

She does long for love, and she does crave human connections, but she draws cheer and strength from pleasures she can attain independently. The beauty of the tourney makes her happy in spite of Joffrey’s cold disregard. She doesn’t re-attach to him until he actively performs the act of treating her well. 

In the absence of Jeyne Poole after the coup, she doesn’t despair. She grabs a book and self-sooths through a controlled kind of escapism. 

After the death of Cat and Robb and being married to Tyrion and being abandoned by the Tyrells, she draws real pleasure from the beauty of the golden cloud castle. Pleasure she tries to share with her maids. 

In the Eyrie, she is enchanted by the beauty of the snowy landscape and unleashes a whirlwind of defiant creativity. This is after “No one will ever marry me for love”. Her life and her world don’t end in the absence of romantic love. 

For all that Sansa sometimes overtly relies on the guidance of others when it comes to action, emotionally she is not dependent on others. She can find joy and motivation and even purpose all by herself. She is content by herself, she has a core sense of self-worth than doesn’t depend on outside verification. 

She doesn’t hate herself. She doesn’t neurotically skirt around wells of shame. She doesn’t pretend not to want what she wants. She doesn’t doubt that she deserves to be treated well. She likes being treated well. It makes her happy and confident. This is going to be her standard for relationships when she has actual control over her life. Because she is fine on her own, otherwise. 

The moment Sansa unlocks the self-confidence to fully act independently, she’ll be one of the most resiliant characters in the series. 

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How do I even explain I’m so tired all the time. I sleep all night. I just am mentally and emotionally exhausted every fucking day. I am so tired of everything. All I want to do is sleep and cry but I can’t even bring myself to do that.

“I am not myself anymore. And like, absolutely no one is noticing.”

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Me: No I am definitely not burned out. Also me:

I want to explain how exhausted I am. Even in my dreams. How I wake up tired. How I'm being drowned by some kind of black wave.

— Elizabeth Wurtzel

“I thought that I was better, that I was finally happy. But I ain’t, the happy moments just hide the sad feelings but once in a while they return and I notice I haven’t improved at all..”

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“Self harm is : •making yourself sleep deprived 
•making yourself cold (not wearing warm clothes in the winter, sleeping without a blanket etc) 
•not eating 
•not drinking 
•eating too much 
•not looking before crossing the street
•scratching 
•letting your skin be dry & break easily 
•picking at skin 
•over-exercising 
•substance abuse 
•over-working yourself 
•making yourself go out and do things even though you’re exhausted 
•putting yourself in anxiety-inducing situations (even if you have a choice to stay out of them)
•triggering yourself 
•purposefully angering someone who you know will yell at you 
•entering relationships you don’t want to be in/being around people you don’t want to be around
•having sex when you don’t want to 
•setting yourself punishments 
•not giving yourself time 
•not letting yourself spend time with the people you love & know will be good to you
•yelling at yourself inside your head
•pinching or bruising yourself instead of cutting
•cutting 
•holding everything in even when you have the option of venting 
•over stressing 
•over thinking 
•staying in abusive relationships (friend wise or romantically) STOP assuming that self-harm is visible and easy to notice. It’s NOT. Self harm isn’t always physical, it can be emotional, and mental as well …”

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