I don't mind online RP'n or watching fetish vids, but to be honest I'm over "imagining" something I should be "experiencing".
That "experiencing" is not easy to accomplish for reasons.
Based on my own personal experiences : When you do finally work up the insane amount of courage to tell your partner.....
A. They think you are some kind of fucking necro and get all confused.
B. They indulge you and your fetish for a while until they eventually stop because they just can't get into it.
No matter how good of a relationship I've been in I've always still felt misunderstood, and not really "complete" with that person due to the lack of a shared fetish/sex life.
I've had some great relationships that I would have stayed in if they shared my fetish, and I know partners have left me because I have this fetish (no hard feelings).
I feel hollow and ashamed knowing that I need to connect on that fetish level to be like %100 happy in a relationship with someone when it comes to committing to them on a higher level.