Through the loophole

Should I stay? Should I leave? Would it be peaceful? Would it be worth it? I think, I think, I think that maybe if it all ended it would be bliss...

Am I wrong though? Or could I be right? Maybe my pain would end? What if this creates a void? What if it causes others some pain? But why would I think like this... Cause others pain??? That implies I at least have to matter to someone somewhere, or a bit to myself...

But why doesn't it feel like it?

Why would I want to end it all then if that's the case?

Why then do I feel the pressure even when they say "Life's not a race"?

I need a loophole to escape this loophole that I'm looking to put my head through...

But damn, this loophole is looking like the best solution right now.

One step closer to the edge of insanity towards the uncertainty. I am taking each breath, in and out slowly, this air is full of people's dreams that never made it, full of passion that has been sedated and the hopes that have become outdated.

Should I find a loophole to crawl through and start anew or should I just go through this loophole and rest by drawing my last breath???

Signed, Samuel OJ.

That's some lovely art😍😍😍

Art looking at art

"Just because you love somebody❤🤷🏽‍♂️..."

Hi there, it's Samuel here again😊 I'm so sorry it took this long for me to get back on the pen. I'm here now though and writing on something that I've personally had to deal with. I know it's difficult for most people, heck it was difficult for me(tbh, very difficult😩) but I pulled through and so will you💪🏽.

Love is such a touchy topic only because everyone has different interpretations of it. But one thing I’ve noticed that seems to be unanimous is that because you love someone doesn’t mean you’re meant to be together. I'm going to be annoying and repeat that within this article but I really think that it's important to know that.

Loving someone doesn’t mean you’re a couple, there are many different forms of love. Friendships, family, loving your animals, etc. All very different forms of love, but alas it's still considered love. Love is about your bond with a person, and sometimes because you love someone who was once your significant other doesn’t mean that you both should be together.

You’re able to love someone and care about what happens to them. You have the best interest for them and want them to succeed in life. It's normal to feel love towards someone, but not want to be with them anymore. It's called being in love with someone or just loving someone. There is a difference.

Sometimes being with someone physically can be toxic, you don’t click how you should or how you feel you’re supposed to. Sometimes the person you love can be someone that isn’t good for you, and guess what? That’s okay.

By this, I mean don’t hold yourself to the standard of having to date someone because you love them. Some people work better as friends than lovers, but you can still have that love. You still care. You can still create a bond that will never be broken, but it doesn't mean you have to marry that person.

If someone is toxic, even if you love them, don’t feel ashamed of letting them go. You always have to do what’s right for you, even if sometimes your heart gets broken in the process. You're allowed to let people go who you once felt everything for but if they're no longer making you happy, there's no point in continuing, even if you feel some sort of love is still present.

I can promise you’ll have a better and happier life loving someone, who once was a toxic relationship to you, from afar or by just being a friend. You’ll be happier being able to disconnect romantically and love them as a person and friend.

Because you love someone, doesn’t mean you’re meant to be together. I think that’s an important statement that we all need to remember and follow, no matter how hard it may be.

Yours Truly,

OJ.

Want to Improve your Self Discipline?

1. Make a genuine commitment to being a disciplined person.

2. Be honest about your weaknesses, distractions, and any habits that might knock you off your course.

3. Make a realistic plan. Write it down, or share it with a friend who will help you to be accountable.

4. Design your day to avoid those temptations that will likely undermine your self discipline.

5. If necessary, change your routine.

6. Reward yourself for small steps in the right direction.

7. Although you are aiming to make change a habit, accept that there are likely to be times when you fail – and if you do, just move on as you can always start again.

Go where you feel most alive 🏞⛰🏞 https://www.instagram.com/p/Bm-b2M2Hc4G/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1492khin77z41

"THE SPARK IS GONE"

Every relationship will get "boring" after you've been together for a while but for me love isn't a feeling, it's a commitment. To love everyday, physically and emotionally. It's difficult, it's not always laughs, smiles and fun. During tough times, you have to decide to recommit yourself to the relationship. Yet, people usually tend to quit when it stops being fun. They go looking for someone else because "the spark is gone". No!!! That's not how it works. If you want somebody to never give up on you and love you unconditionally then do the same. BE THE CHANGE!!! This isn't Hollywood, this isn't the movies. That shit isn't real. Love someone when you don't want to, when they aren't the easiest to deal with, when they're hard to love. That's the realest thing there is💯.

The thing we don’t realize about a relationship is that once the honeymoon phase is over, two people should still continue to be together. Nothing is wrong, and nothing is lost. "The flame" is gone, but that doesn’t mean you have to be cold. Once this has happened between two individuals in a romantic relationship, the love can grow. Love isn’t about having butterflies in your stomach whenever you think about that person, or your heart beating fast whenever you see him or her. Love is about always thinking of this person while doing the little things during your day, like if you’re out and see something in the grocery store he or she might like. Or, you could be passing by a really funny advertisement that reminded you of something your "THE ONE" once said. When you see that person at the end of the day, or when you’re out with that person and you look into his or her eyes, your heart won’t race and the breath won’t be stolen from your lungs.

Instead, something more beautiful will happen: You’ll feel at peace. You’ll feel calmness because this person is home to you, and there is nothing in this world more relaxing. When everything else is going wrong, you can look at this person and be brought back down from your stresses and worries. Everything will be alright when your "THE ONE" kisses your forehead or smiles at you with food in his or her teeth😅. The relationship can lose its luster. Flirting and sex will not be the same. And instead of receiving a hot text in the middle of your workday, your heart will flutter by having your booty grabbed when you get up from the couch to pick up the remote or refill your drink. Instead of paying for expensive dinners at Lord of the wings or 805 restaurant, you’ll get excited by your "THE ONE" bringing home food from Odo rice (or any less expensive & much simpler place) after a long day of school or work. You will learn to appreciate the little things you two do for each other, and soon, these small gestures will outdo all the grand gestures because there will be one bold and big thing behind them: LOVE❤.

Love is not lust. Love cannot be determined by how often you two have sex, or how you two cannot possibly keep your hands off one another. Love, as I've come to understand, is more than just three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day. Love is about affection. Love is knowing what his or her touch feels like, and how good it feels to be in his or her arms. Love is when you know how his or her hand is supposed to feel when you find it in the crowd. And even in the beginning, when the sex was hot and perpetual, it will turn into something else. This doesn't mean you two can never return to that kind of rough play, but sex will turn into lovemaking. Sex becomes so much more passionate when you add love to it, and it won’t just be about getting each other off. It will be about seeing how you two fall apart together when it’s all over. Love is about familiarity. Love is like looking into that person’s eyes and thinking, “Oh, there you are. Where have you been all this time?” Love is the feeling you get when you know why it hasn’t worked out with anyone else before. So, if you’re in a new relationship and doubting it because the flames have fizzled out, don't. Everything that was there in the beginning is still there. You just have to look closer.

Yours Truly,

OJ.

My bodyguard stands 2ft 8inches tall and weighs in at 26 lbs. #DontTalkToMyMamaFaces 👊🏽💥

IG: iam.tiffany.renee @iamtiffanyrenee

TO MY NEXT GIRLFRIEND🙏

Hi, I'm Samuel👋🏽

I don’t eat jam🍯 and I don’t eat snails🐌.

I think you’re one of the most beautiful girls I've ever talked to😍.

I reiterate things when I mean them, "I think you’re one of the most beautiful girls I've ever talked to"😍.

I'm a writer and a hopeless romantic. I spend most of my day in my head over analyzing almost everything🤦🏽‍♂.

I know I'm weird, I'm learning to love that about myself. I've got a big ass head but I've also got a big ass heart❤.

I deal with depression pretty heavy sometimes and I have really bad anxiety😩 but at the same time I'm a people person😊.

I'm trying to understand how I’m such a contradiction🤔 but maybe you'll learn to love this in the same way I'm learning to love myself😌.

And on the topic of love, if we're going to be together I want you to understand that this relationship isn’t going to start in emotions, I'd like it to start as a decision💯.

I need you to decide to love me in the same way that someone decides to go to work everyday👌.

I need you to understand that change is going to happen, we're going to change as people😬.

This relationship may not end in marriage, it may not end at all but if it ends, it will end in change😶.

We're not going to leave this the same people that we came in. I need you to be open to this change in the same way that I need to be open to this change😷.

I need you to be understanding because some days I don't know myself so I know I'll be hard to recognize☹.

Yours Truly,

OJ.

Some children trek 16km to school everyday because there are no schools in their villages.

The exhaustion most often takes a toll on academic performance but they are determined; they show up at all cost.

Dambai, Krachi East. May 9, 2018.

Photo: Francis Kokoroko @accraphoto 2018 #ghana #iphonex #shotoniphone #accraphoto #accraphotojournal (at Krachi, Volta, Ghana)

Mind Care

😍

Cloud 9ine

“Lady who has a Bible Verse for every situation.”

Two Minute Management Course

Lesson One …

An eagle was sitting on a tree resting, doing nothing.

A small rabbit saw the eagle and asked him, “Can I also sit like you and do nothing?”

The eagle answered: “Sure, why not.”

So, the rabbit sat on the ground below the eagle and rested. All of a sudden, a fox appeared, jumped on the rabbit, and ate it.

Management Lesson - To be sitting doing nothing, you must be sitting very, very high up.

Lesson Two …

A turkey was chatting with a bull. “I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree,” sighed the turkey, “but I haven’t got the energy.”

“Well, why don’t you nibble on some of my droppings?” replied the bull. “They’re packed with nutrients.”

The turkey pecked at a lump of dung, and found it actually gave him enough strength to reach the lowest branch of the tree. The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch. Finally after a fourth night, the turkey was proudly perched at the top of the tree.

He was promptly spotted by a farmer, who shot him out of the tree.

Management Lesson - Bullshit might get you to the top, but it won’t keep you there.

Lesson Three …

A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold; the bird froze and fell to the ground into a large field.

While he was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on him. As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, he began to realise how warm he was.

The dung was actually thawing him out!

He lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy.

A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate. Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out and ate him.

Management Lessons - (1) Not everyone who shits on you is your enemy. (2) Not everyone who gets you out of shit is your friend. (3) And when you’re in deep shit, it’s best to keep your mouth shut!

This ends your two-minute Management course …

😍

Backless

NEW YEAR🎊🎉 SAME SISTERS😒!!! 😍😈😍