Here’s a weird autism thing that I realized this morning—
-If a choir director tells my section to sing louder, I will do so, even if I am already at fortissimo.
-If a teacher criticizes my class for failing to take their work seriously, I will feel guilty, even if I’ve been turning every single assignment in on time.
-If a post calls people in general out for not doing a particular thing and says it’s their fault if a tragedy happens, I will feel stressed, even if I was already relentlessly doing the thing.
I need to be told separately about my personal progress, otherwise I will overcompensate and eventually end up burning myself out. As someone who puts conscious effort in trying to understand social cues, this really messes me up for some reason.
*Edit: after some reflection, this might just be a general person thing? It felt like a pretty literal-minded thing to deal with, and that’s why I pegged it as an autism thing
At some point in your life, you were taught that being slightly annoying is an unforgivable sin. Maybe it was by your parents or a teacher or a friend or a bully or an older sibling. But someone taught you that being slightly annoying is a crime punishable by death.
You must unlearn this.
You must accept that all people will be annoying at some point or another in their lives, maybe all of their lives, and that this is okay. It is okay for strangers on the bus, it is okay for children in the grocery store, it is okay for people on social media, and it is okay for you.
If you ever want to truly love your fellow humans, if you ever want to truly love yourself, you must have forgiveness for being annoying.
If I had a nickel for each of my favorite games that started with a mysterious goat person who was former royalty adopting a wayward human after they fell into a bottomless pit leading mysterious otherworld hidden from the surface… I’d have a Phineas and Ferb bit.