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Sex Positive vs. Sex Favorable
They’re not the same thing. Sex positive, neutral, and negative describes someone’s opinion on the morality of sex in general and its place in society. Sex favorable, indifferent, averse, and repulsed have to do with your own interactions with sex.
Favorable, indifferent, averse, and repulsed is mostly used for asexual-spectrum people, and a lot of aromantic-spectrum people use the same scale to describe their feelings towards romance. But allosexual (non-asexual) people might also find it helpful. Like, there are people who feel attraction towards other people but are sex averse and don’t want to have sex with anyone they’re attracted to. (There are also people fitting the same description who do identify as aspec, and that’s valid, too.)
Here’s the chart that’s commonly used used to explain the two scales. I’m going to add an image description afterwards, but I’m not really familiar with doing them so it may not be great.
[Image description: A picture divided vertically into two halves. The left half is white with black text and the right half is black with white text. Each half has several terms written in bold with a smaller description under each one. The text is in a handwriting-style font.
On the left side, it says, “Sex-positive: To have a positive attitude towards sex in general. Not necessarily for yourself, but any safe sex between consenting people. Sex-neutral: to have no opinion on sex in general, neither positive nor negative. Sex-negative: to have a negative attitude towards sex in general. To think sex is bad/wrong, even safe and between consenting people.”
On the right side, it says, “Sex-favorable: to have a positive attitude towards sex for yourself. To desire sex. Sex-indifferent: To have no opinion on sex for yourself, neither positive not negative. Sex-averse: to have a negative attitude toward sex for yourself. To not desire sex. Sex-repulsed: To be repulsed by the thought of sex.”
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People get these two scales mixed up constantly, and/or leave out words. Y’all, I know it’s hard. I have to go through both of them in my head before I mention either one to make sure I’m saying the right thing. But we can do better. Please! Like, one of my friends was angry at me when I came out as asexual to her because she thought I was attacking her sexuality. And yeah, I’m sex averse, but that has no bearing on what I think of her. It’s actually a common myth that the concept of asexuality is inherently sex negative, and we don’t need to encourage that by conflating sex negativity with being sex averse or repulsed.
Actually, most people fit somewhere on both scales. So I made a chart of my own that shows how they fit together. Personally, I’m in the top right corner, sex averse and (doing my best to be) sex positive.
[Image description: A three-by-three chart, similar to an alignment chart. The left column is labeled “sex favorable”, the middle column is labeled “sex indifferent”, and the right column is labeled “sex averse/repulsed”. The top row is labeled “sex positive”, the middle row is labeled “sex neutral”, and the bottom row is labeled “sex negative”.
The box in the top left of the chart reads, “I don’t think there’s anything wrong with people having consensual sex, and I personally like to have sex.” The box in the top middle reads, “I don’t think there’s anything wrong with people having consensual sex, and I personally don’t mind having sex.” The box in the top right reads, “I don’t think there’s anything wrong with people having consensual sex, but I personally don’t want to have sex.”
The middle-left box reads, “I think it’s sometimes all right for people to have sex, and I personally like to have sex.” The center box reads, “I think it’s sometimes all right for people to have sex, and I personally don’t mind having sex.” The middle-right box says, “I think it’s sometimes all right for people to have sex, but I personally don’t want to have sex.”
The box in the bottom left says, “I think sex is immoral, but I personally like to have sex.” The bottom middle box says, “I think sex is immoral, but I personally don’t mind having sex.” The bottom right box says, “I think sex is immoral, and I personally don’t want to have sex.”
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So yeah, you can be sex positive and sex repulsed, or sex neutral and sex averse, or whatever! I’d say that a lot of American politicians are both sex negative and sex favorable. If you need more information, I added my own descriptions of the seven terms below the cut.
(I really wish I hadn’t made this so long, LOL. It took me way too long. Please reblog so it’s worth it?)
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the difference matters:
sex-positive: you want people in general to be able to sexually express themselves freely. this should ideally include asexuality. this is not about you as an individual.
sex-favourable: you want to have sex for whatever reason.
sex-neutral: you don't really have an opinion about freedom of sexual expression. this is about people in general, not you specifically.
sex-indifferent: you don't really care if you personally have sex or not, you could take it or leave it.
sex-negative: you only want people to have a limited sexual expression.
sex-averse: you don't want to participate in sex.
positive/neutral/negative refer to your stance on how sex is treated within society.
favourable/indifferent/averse refer to how you personally feel about participating in sex.
you can be a sex-averse asexual and still be sex-positive.
there's a common misconception that aces, especially sex-averse aces, are all "anti-sex", but some parts of the ace community still hasn't learned the nuance of these terms either. i still see people call sex-favourable aces sex-positive when they mean different things.
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For the record I'm negative-averse. Like, whatever you wanna do is your business, but I don't wanna know
the difference matters:
sex-positive: you want people in general to be able to sexually express themselves freely. this should ideally include asexuality. this is not about you as an individual.
sex-favourable: you want to have sex for whatever reason.
sex-neutral: you don't really have an opinion about freedom of sexual expression. this is about people in general, not you specifically.
sex-indifferent: you don't really care if you personally have sex or not, you could take it or leave it.
sex-negative: you only want people to have a limited sexual expression.
sex-averse: you don't want to participate in sex.
positive/neutral/negative refer to your stance on how sex is treated within society.
favourable/indifferent/averse refer to how you personally feel about participating in sex.
you can be a sex-averse asexual and still be sex-positive.
there's a common misconception that aces, especially sex-averse aces, are all "anti-sex", but some parts of the ace community still hasn't learned the nuance of these terms either. i still see people call sex-favourable aces sex-positive when they mean different things.
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the difference matters:
sex-positive: you want people in general to be able to sexually express themselves freely. this should ideally include asexuality. this is not about you as an individual.
sex-favourable: you want to have sex for whatever reason.
sex-neutral: you don't really have an opinion about freedom of sexual expression. this is about people in general, not you specifically.
sex-indifferent: you don't really care if you personally have sex or not, you could take it or leave it.
sex-negative: you only want people to have a limited sexual expression.
sex-averse: you don't want to participate in sex.
positive/neutral/negative refer to your stance on how sex is treated within society.
favourable/indifferent/averse refer to how you personally feel about participating in sex.
you can be a sex-averse asexual and still be sex-positive.
there's a common misconception that aces, especially sex-averse aces, are all "anti-sex", but some parts of the ace community still hasn't learned the nuance of these terms either. i still see people call sex-favourable aces sex-positive when they mean different things.
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It's Sycamore Sunday! This time I gave him a sword
I also made a Descole version of this drawing but I don't really like it so I might fix it and post it later on, haha.
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An overgrown light pole in Poland
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Now abandoned, La Petite Centure is a 19th century railway that loops over 30km around Paris
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Peeling paint or peeling skin, how do you cover up your sins?
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(Spoilers) But Ready or Not was an amazing horror film.
Every *single* thing about this film works.
I can’t find a problem with it. And I am nit picky as a film fan.
It does nothing wrong.
Someone pointed out to me: “But isn’t Grace in deep shit at the end? She’s a poor person in a house full of dead rich people and is set to inherit everything. Looks bad for her, right?”
Me: “But she still has the basement with the skeletons of all the dead people and dead goats as evidence. And the whole neighbourhood is suggested to be heavily suspicious too.”
There are things that back up her story. Enough, at least to appease the authorities.
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find yourself in everything you choose
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I brought up Dead Poets Society today and got asked if I was talking about Taylor Swift.
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people vaguely saying 'the horrors' as shorthand for 'life problems, don't worry about it' in conversations where the problems are not going to be delved into has got to be one of my favorite new Ways Of Speaking that has emerged. like it's polite and vague and succinct enough for impersonal conversation but also extremely honest. it's very funny. The Horrors. we all know of them.
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Hello, this is Mr Perry (Neil Perry's legal guardian). I made this account to monitor my sons behaviour on this application. If you are any of his acquaintances please inform him that he is forbidden from acting in the play as I believe that this is a foolish idea and will get him nowhere.
acc ran by- @charliedaltonssaxaphone
Blogs I'll be acquainting myself with-
Todd Anderson-@social-anxiety-and-poetry
John Keating- @ask-captain-keating
Charlie Dalton- @phonecall-fromgod
Stephen Meeks-@radiofree-america
Knox Overstreet- @knoxious-overstreet
Gerard Pitts- @pittsie-boy
Richard Cameron- @therealrichardcameron
Stick- @head-of-the-dinner-table
Chris Noel- @miss-chris-noel
Mrs Keating- @lady-keating
Ginny Danbury- @ginnylovestheatre
Mr Hopkins- @tthe-cat-sat-on-the-mat
THIS IS THE ADMIN!
I thrive off chaos and we need this horrible man to add some spice to the lore. Personally I would exile Mr Perry onto another island and rescue Mrs Perry from this atrocious man xx
If Mr Perry steals my laptop I apologise x
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