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ifeellikeimtheparisofpeople · 6 months

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The Gong Jun sugar baby cinematic universe

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ifeellikeimtheparisofpeople · 6 months

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i love them sm

Touch & Daisy in Secret Crush On You

I’m sorry to all the KinnPorsche obsessives out there and the Cherry stans and the Semantic hold overs, but these two have

MY.

WHOLE.

HEART.

There is no room for anyone else.

Okay, so I’m not going to talk about the show itself, because I have unbelievably mixed feels. They’re so all over the place and in need of processing, that I decided I couldn’t even talk about SCOY in the weekly updates. Don’t you worry, there will be an epic rant/praise/mind fuck of a post when it finally ends.

The episode is question is: 9 4/4

Secret Crush On You - Queer Coded Language & 3rd Gender Identity

But until then, I MUST talk about Daisy & Touch and their language. (Here’s the foundations on particles and honorific in Thai BL, I’m not gonna recap, just jump in.)

So the subber said they “wished they could convey” this dynamic, and I’m sure they’d do it better justice, but I am still going to tackle it, anyway.

Most of the time with the other characters and his interactions with them (of which there are not many) Touch follows the standard rules of the game for a male oldest of his peer group. Which means he uses phi for I, refers to everyone else (because they are all younger than him) by their name without honorific, and politely uses krap.

With Toh and his friendship group, as a group, he’s softer than other phis might be. As a group they are nongs to him, or a bit more child-like than normal juniors in the school system would be. He thinks they’re adorable. This probubly reflects the general innocence, look, and behavior of this particular queer cadre. Frankly speaking, they act kinda like cute kids, so that’s how he speaks and treats them (so do Sky and Nuea). (It’s Touch’s softening towards the whole group that initially red-flags Nuea’s jealousy, because it’s clear Touch likes them better than his other juniors. That fondness indicates romantic interest. And Nuea knows Touch is queer, and might like Toh.)

But Touch likes Daisy.

So Daisy throughout this series uses third gender language. (I’ve talked about this concept before and how difficult a 3rd gender is to grok for binary cultures.) Technically, Daisy does not identify fully as a her, because Daisy sticks to and uses ha or, very rarely, ja, throughout the series, and almost never kha. 3rd gender individuals will use any and all of these three particles, but the preferential use of kha indicates a inclination towards a more feminine identity, so more trans (spectrum here, my darlings, SPECTRUM). Daisy doesn’t do this.

Point of comparison: Kitty in La Cuisine is linguistically exactly the same as Daisy. Using ha most of the time. While the hot butch teacher chef character, on the other hand, uses ja.

Daisy seems to prefer what western queers might regard as a nonbinary identity, so less female than femme, in that Daisy likes to be pretty, even to be called “beautiful lady” and similar, but doesn’t fall fully into what we would think of as a trans identity.

So why is Touch’s language when he is flirting with and courting Daisy so amazing?

Because Touch shifts into Daisy’s particles (and register).

A man interested in courting someone who identifies as a woman might use kha to flirt.

A man who wanted to be seen as queer and flirt within the queer community might use ja to flirt.

But Touch is using ha.

That’s Daisy’s own particle, so to speak. It’s also the particle most associated with household intimacy. Touch is softening himself for Daisy. He’s using his language to temper his own identity and masculinity to better match Daisy’s. There’s no adequate parallel in English for this kind of register shifting.

So Daisy refers to self using own name, or (interestingly) nu for I pronoun. (Nu is a diminutive that either means or is derived from the Thai word for mouse หนู). This might be because that’s what Touch used to open their flirtation (ep 9 2/4), like he gave Daisy a pet name, or it might be that Daisy has used this before in the series and I never noticed.

So then Touch does it back, referring to Daisy as nu for the you pronoun. And he even slipped a few raos instead of phis in there, for I. That’s very soft and a smidge old fashioned.

It’s so flipping cute.

Also he’s flexing between na (the entreaty question particle) and ha. So what’s translated as:

because it ends with ha not na, is a bit more statement of fact, “You’re so adorable, you must have a lover.”

Now there’s a ton to unpack here because Daisy is clearly accustomed to being the butt of jokes. Daisy is also used to gay men flirting by rote, and it not actually meaning anything. It’s a kind of queer coded group requirement. Much as gay men will flirt openly with drag queens, calling them beautiful etc without it necessarily being genuine sexual or romantic interest, just a kind of affectionate flattery. So Daisy spends most of their date (such as it is) not entirely sure if Touch is serious, until he insists on opening the car door.

That is courting behavior, that’s more than just flirting. That’s when Daisy’s smile just lights TF up. That’s also why Touch is so happy. He figured it out. As good as he is with words and registers (and he’s VERY good) it was actions that worked best in the end. Now he knows what he needs to do to woo Daisy, rather than what he needs to say.

Fuck, I wish we got a whole show of these two.

Okay, that’s enough for now.

I JUST LOVE THEM. OKAY.

Leave me alone to dwell in the adorable for a while.

ALSO

Whoever was asking me about BLs with Thai subtitles?

Secret Crush On You has them!

Also its captions are intended to encompass those with hearing disabilities (music and some sound effects also described) which is just another way the team behind this show went above and beyond with regards to inclusion.

(source)

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ifeellikeimtheparisofpeople · 7 months

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i know we're all sick of self-care being a marketing tactic now, but i don't think a lot of us have any other concept of self-care beyond what companies have tried to sell us, so i thought i'd share my favorite self-care hand out

brought to you by how mad i just got at a Target ad

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ifeellikeimtheparisofpeople · 11 months

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JJK ask here: How do you feel about Nanamin's death, and what do you think about Haibara as a character?

The thing that struck me the most about Nanami’s death was how normal it was. Mechamaru’s death was the culmination of a tragic arc. Gojo lost because he took on everything by himself again. They were succumbing to character flaws, but really the only reason Nanami died was because 1) he was weaker than his opponent 2) he was in the wrong place at the wrong time. He didn’t really do anything wrong as a character, or make a bad choice, he was just in Mahito’s way. In a way it’s very fittting for Nanami’s character, who for the most part is a normal, decent guy, who is caught up in the craziness of the jujutsu world and tries to treat it like a crappy dayjob. I’ll elaborate under the cut.

1. A Normal Death

Nanami’s problem isn’t even that he’s weak. We see this demonstrated earlier in the arc when he fights to protect Nobara. He’s strong. He’s strong enough to qualify as a first grade sorcerer, and even though he can’t manifest a domain like Gojo, he doesn’t need to do what Mei Mei does and cheat by using her little brother’s life as a bargainning chip to be strong. Nanami is good at his job, he is probably the best a Jujutsu sorcerer can be.

However Nanami’s problem is not that he’s weak, it’s that he can’t really change things. That’s what he reflects on when he sees Ijichi injured, and remembers his old classmate dead. Nine years later, Nanami has left the Jujutsu world, come back, he’s gotten strong enough and yet he still sees his comrades die like this. To Nanami nothing has cahnged. However, Nanami is more mature than the kids, he knows this idnd’t happen because “he was weak.” Nanami is strong enough, but even if Nanami were Gojo levels of strong it wouldn’t matter. One man can’t change the whole world all on his own.

Haibara’s death is most likely what sparked Nanami’s decision to leave the Jujutsu world in the first place. Considering Nanami and Geto are both characterized as kind, caring people who for the most part get crushed by the weight of the responsibility they feel towards others: it’s likely Nanami’s feelings are similiar to Geto’s in this moment.

What is the point of all this? Does Geto or Nanami’s individual life matter? Are they really able to do anything to stop more of their comrades from dying? Nanami and Getou are both very just people, who exist in unjust systems and are racked by frustration and guilt because of it. Geto just, goes berserk. However, Nanami’s actions mirror Geto’s in that he leaves.

Nanami feels like he’s unable to help people, because he realizes how indifferent the world is to his actions.

Nanami wonders how he can make a difference in the world when he is just one person. He just felt like he was a cog in the machine for the Jujutsu world, that he wasn’t helping anything, that he didn’t prevent Haibara’s death. He leaves and becomes another cog in the machine. He doesn’t do anything to change the world, just enforces the status quo by making rich people richer. However, what he fails to realize is that even if he doesn’t find his purpose in life, his actions can still have meaning.

In contrast to Gojo who has the power to change the whole world with the flick of his fingers if he wanted to, Nanami is much weaker but I think he has a stronger impact on the individual lives of his students. Gojo being Gojo doesn’t really pay attention to people’s feelings, even though he cares about them and looks out for people in his own way. Gojo primarily sees the potential people have to become strong Jujutsu Sorcerers (even though he also believes the same thing that Nanami does that kids should get to live out their youth).

Nanami relates to Yuji on a different level than Gojo does, because Nanami treats him like a child. If Gojo helps Yuji reach his potential, then Nanami helps Yuji grow up, and grow into an understanding of himself.

Nanami outlines it, growing up isn’t just becoming stronger, or even becoming the strongest like Geto. Growing up, being an adult, it’s different than Yuji’s understanding of him at the moment. Yuji wouldn’t be able to come to any kidn of understanding of himself, or mature, if he wasn’t seen and treated and told it’s not wrong to be a kid first. If he wasn’t understood by someone like Nanami.

Which is the real difference Nanami makes in the end. He doesn’t make a great big change to the world, but he makes a very human difference. Yuji would not be the person he was if he had not met Nanami. He didn’t change the world but he changed the people in it.

The world is random and meaningless. You can even argue Nanami died a pretty random and meaningless death. Even in the moments before his death, he didn’t come to some grand conclusion about life. He was just thinking about how he wanted to run away from it all again, but couldn’t because he had to go back and save Maki and Naobito. Nanami doesn’t even make any major mistakes, he fought with the best he had, got overwhelmed by Jogo, and even after somehow escaping from that on his own he has the bad luck to run into Mahito rather than Shoko or someone who can heal him.

Nanami believes that he died not accomplishing anything anyway. He’s probably right. However, even if Nanami’s death was a meaningless and random event, it meant something to Yuji.

Nanami’s actions may be meaningless in the grand scheme of things, but at the same time his feelings weren’t. They didn’t disappear even after he died. Nanami’s feelings passed onto Yuji, his actions meant something to someone, even if Nanami can’t save the whole world there werepeople he managed to save in his life. Gojo Satoru saves the whole world, Nanami who is just a normal peson reaches out and saves people to the best of his ability. He lived a good life. He lived the best life he could.

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ifeellikeimtheparisofpeople · 3 years

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in a world where albums are getting shorter and shorter and artists prefer to drop 2-3 songs at a time instead of full-length albums, i really do appreciate how taylor consistently drops hour-long albums that tell a story instead of a chapter

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ifeellikeimtheparisofpeople · 3 years

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Her album is awesome

All I did was try my best. This the kind of thanks I get? LISTEN TO SOUR

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ifeellikeimtheparisofpeople · 3 years

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She writes songs....I wrote poems-

If you're horrible to me, I'm going to write a song about it, and you won't like it. That's how I operate.

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ifeellikeimtheparisofpeople · 3 years

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Finally! Someone said it-

Literally the companies just using their idols to make more money.

“Why are the idols crying? Why do they make them upset?” That is how you force an emotion bond between the viewer and the idols. They rely on you all to empathize. And I’m not saying you shouldn’t but that’s why they do this.

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ifeellikeimtheparisofpeople · 3 years

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“If the conspiracies about life being a simulation are true WHOEVERS CONTROLLING MY SIM I JUST WANNA TALK”

— Edward Elric, holding a gun (via incorrectfmaquotes)

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ifeellikeimtheparisofpeople · 3 years

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…oh, I don’t know. All I know is that I’ve wasted all these years looking for something, a sort of trophy I’d get only if I really, really did enough to deserve it. But I don’t want it any more, I want something else now, something warm and sheltering, something I can turn to, regardless of what I do, regardless of who I become. Something that will just be there, always, like tomorrow’s sky.

– Kazuo Ishiguro, When We Were Orphans

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ifeellikeimtheparisofpeople · 3 years

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Men can be pretty- fuck off if you don't think so-

being attracted to men is a gift actually

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ifeellikeimtheparisofpeople · 3 years

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when someone mentions taylor swift near me

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ifeellikeimtheparisofpeople · 3 years

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Psych: S1E7 ‘Who Ya Gonna Call?’

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ifeellikeimtheparisofpeople · 3 years

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when someone mentions taylor swift near me

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ifeellikeimtheparisofpeople · 3 years

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Yuhhhhhh

Reblog if you think asexuality is a legitimate sexuality.

I'm trying to prove something.

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ifeellikeimtheparisofpeople · 3 years

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GOALS

Little FangYang Things

Fangfang getting caught staring at Yiyang whenever he’s making drinks because his hands are making her feel things + Yiyang thinking that he’s doing something wrong until he sees her blush. Now he makes all of the drinks.

Yiyang escorts Fangfang to her classroom everyday and waits for her outside so they can go to the cafeteria/library. Qingqing always teases her about it, but Fangfang loves it too much to tell him to stop.

They don’t remember when they started holding hands.

Yiyang getting caught in the rain and getting a cold and Fangfang takes care of him. He’s mumbling in his sleep “…don’t go” and Fangfang thinks it’s about Xinyu but then he says “Fangfang…don’t go…don’t leave me”

In a similar vein, Yiyang getting drunk with Feng and Nanxi and drunk calling Fangfang; “Fangfang…*drunk giggle* you’re so cute. Why are you so cute? And pretty. And beautiful. And sexy-” Fangfang has to hang up the phone before she explodes. Yiyang pouts about it later

Their first kiss happens in the library. It’s late at night and no longer finals season so no one is there and Fangfang is explaining something to him but she knows he’s not listening because she can feel his eyes on her. She noticed that he’s been doing this more often, just staring at her with this look in his eyes and she feels it too and she thinks that if she doesn’t kiss him she might lose her mind. So in a rare act of boldness (he always brings that out of her) she just plants one on him. But she’s used up all of her courage on that so she jumps back, trying to run away as fast as possible so she can hide under her covers and never resurface, when Yiyang grabs her (“Where do you think you’re going”) and kisses her back.

When Yiyang thinks Fangfang is asleep, he recites love poems to her. She doesn’t have the heart to tell him.

The minions listen to Fangfang more than Yiyang now, which actually makes sense since she’s always right

Qingqing is calling Fangfang for some reason in the morning and Yiyang answers her phone. It takes a month for Qingqing to stop teasing her.

Double dates with Feng and Qingqing. This is the first time they see Lin Yiyang, Devoted Boyfriend in action and boy is it sickening

It takes a while for Yiyang to say that he loves her. “Fangfang.” “Mmm?” “You know that, uh, you’re my person…right?” “Yeah. And you’re mine.”

Yiyang teaches Fangfang how to fight. He tries not to find it so hot that she can beat his ass

Yiyang’s parents find out about Fangfang, and demand to meet her. Protective!Yiyang is gearing up for a classist arguement, but it goes surprisingly well; they notice how soft Yiyang is around her, and his mom recognizes her son that she thought was lost to her after Xinyu’s death. They pretty much adopt her after that

Yiyang takes Fangfang back to the amusement park as a “do over” date. They don’t go back to the haunted house.

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