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There's still many myths and half-truths floating around about being a transgender woman.

These days, trans women are more visible than ever in mainstream media. But despite all the press coverage we receive on bathroom bills and locker rooms, there's still many myths and half-truths floating around about our gender identity. Here are 10 common myths that seem to have been embeded into our culture, and why they're so patently untrue.

1. It’s all about sexual pleasure

Honey, no. Just, no. Trans women transition because they experience gender dysphoria, a condition where one's gender is not their assigned sex. Without transitioning, trans women can feel anxiety, loneliness, depression, low self-esteem, and so much more. Transitioning isn’t about sexual pleasure, it’s about being true to yourself.

2. The changes of Hormone Replacement Therapy (or HRT) are minor

Estrogen and antiandrogens bring major changes to a trans woman’s body. Estradiol softens skin, makes pupils larger, changes hair texture, alters fat distribution, and causes breast development. It’s called transitioning for a reason!

3. Your sex drive stays the same

When a trans woman starts HRT, estrogen changes a lot about her body, including her sexuality. A lot of us see a huge drop in our sex drive, preceded by a sharp rise, and then a leveling off after awhile. Others see regular highs and lows. Regardless, our sex drive is in constant fluctuation during those few early years, contrasting significantly from before we started HRT.

4. Sexuality is not fluid

Transitioning changes most of our relationships with sexuality. For one, I was exclusively attracted to cisgender women before I transitioned. But as I began my transitioning, my sexuality changed. I became attracted to cisgender men, trans men, gender nonconforming folks, and trans women. Granted, my attraction has largely been towards women even after transitioning, but my sexuality did change and has become much less strict.

5. Genitalia does not change during HRT

One of the major changes that trans women experience is a change to the way their privates work. To be blunt, estrogen feminizes a penis. This can lead to shorter erections, a softer texture, and, depending on the way a given person uses their junk, a decrease in the size of their penis from atrophying. Hence one of the reasons why the whole “trans bathroom panic” is ridiculous. Even those of us that do still have some extra junk below have been exposed to estrogen, so it’s not really the same as a cis man’s hardware. For a bit more information, check out Dr. Michele O’Mara’s look at the effects of feminizing hormones.

6. We only work in tech or art

Trans women are everywhere. From athletics to journalism, teaching to running for office, if there’s a job you can think of, a trans woman has probably worked in it before. Yes, it’s true many of us gravitate towards certain fields, but it’s not as if we only fit into two or three neat categories. Some of us prefer working from home, some of us don’t. We’re all individuals with different tastes and ambitions.

7. Transitioning ends with surgery

Uh, no. Surgery is a highly personal choice, one that a lot of trans women think about throughout their lives. Choosing to or not to go under the knife is dictated by a lot of considerations, largely including the level in which one experiences dysphoria towards their genitals and privates. Many of us choose not to go through reassignment surgeries and cosmetic changes, just as many of us do. Both decisions are valid, but the key here is honoring our privacy.

8. Trans women only date cis men

Trans women are all over the sexuality spectrum. From asexual to poly, straight to gay, we identify as anything and everything under the sun. It’s not uncommon to see a cis woman and a trans woman dating, or two trans women together, or a trans woman bachelorette. Different strokes for different folks. Literally.

9. It’s okay to disclose someone else’s trans status

The concept of “stealth” has always been a controversial one in the trans community, but even if you feel trans women should be loud and open about their gender identity, it’s important to respect every individual’s wishes. There’s a good reason why we might not want to disclose that we’re trans in certain workplaces or public spaces: we need to maintain our own safety first and foremost. Likewise, if someone is beginning their transitioning and still in the closet, don’t attempt to push them out. That can be extremely damaging for their long-term progress.

10. No one will accept us

Many of us are surrounded by friends, family, lovers, and coworkers that take us seriously and treat us as the wonderful women we are. Sure, everyone’s experiences vary. But society is changing, people are becoming more accepting, and many of us live happy, healthy, and, occasionally, boring lives. It’s just not true that no one will accept us; there’s so many people out there who do.

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idkyouyetloveofmylife · 4 years

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There's still many myths and half-truths floating around about being a transgender woman.

These days, trans women are more visible than ever in mainstream media. But despite all the press coverage we receive on bathroom bills and locker rooms, there's still many myths and half-truths floating around about our gender identity. Here are 10 common myths that seem to have been embeded into our culture, and why they're so patently untrue.

1. It’s all about sexual pleasure

Honey, no. Just, no. Trans women transition because they experience gender dysphoria, a condition where one's gender is not their assigned sex. Without transitioning, trans women can feel anxiety, loneliness, depression, low self-esteem, and so much more. Transitioning isn’t about sexual pleasure, it’s about being true to yourself.

2. The changes of Hormone Replacement Therapy (or HRT) are minor

Estrogen and antiandrogens bring major changes to a trans woman’s body. Estradiol softens skin, makes pupils larger, changes hair texture, alters fat distribution, and causes breast development. It’s called transitioning for a reason!

3. Your sex drive stays the same

When a trans woman starts HRT, estrogen changes a lot about her body, including her sexuality. A lot of us see a huge drop in our sex drive, preceded by a sharp rise, and then a leveling off after awhile. Others see regular highs and lows. Regardless, our sex drive is in constant fluctuation during those few early years, contrasting significantly from before we started HRT.

4. Sexuality is not fluid

Transitioning changes most of our relationships with sexuality. For one, I was exclusively attracted to cisgender women before I transitioned. But as I began my transitioning, my sexuality changed. I became attracted to cisgender men, trans men, gender nonconforming folks, and trans women. Granted, my attraction has largely been towards women even after transitioning, but my sexuality did change and has become much less strict.

5. Genitalia does not change during HRT

One of the major changes that trans women experience is a change to the way their privates work. To be blunt, estrogen feminizes a penis. This can lead to shorter erections, a softer texture, and, depending on the way a given person uses their junk, a decrease in the size of their penis from atrophying. Hence one of the reasons why the whole “trans bathroom panic” is ridiculous. Even those of us that do still have some extra junk below have been exposed to estrogen, so it’s not really the same as a cis man’s hardware. For a bit more information, check out Dr. Michele O’Mara’s look at the effects of feminizing hormones.

6. We only work in tech or art

Trans women are everywhere. From athletics to journalism, teaching to running for office, if there’s a job you can think of, a trans woman has probably worked in it before. Yes, it’s true many of us gravitate towards certain fields, but it’s not as if we only fit into two or three neat categories. Some of us prefer working from home, some of us don’t. We’re all individuals with different tastes and ambitions.

7. Transitioning ends with surgery

Uh, no. Surgery is a highly personal choice, one that a lot of trans women think about throughout their lives. Choosing to or not to go under the knife is dictated by a lot of considerations, largely including the level in which one experiences dysphoria towards their genitals and privates. Many of us choose not to go through reassignment surgeries and cosmetic changes, just as many of us do. Both decisions are valid, but the key here is honoring our privacy.

8. Trans women only date cis men

Trans women are all over the sexuality spectrum. From asexual to poly, straight to gay, we identify as anything and everything under the sun. It’s not uncommon to see a cis woman and a trans woman dating, or two trans women together, or a trans woman bachelorette. Different strokes for different folks. Literally.

9. It’s okay to disclose someone else’s trans status

The concept of “stealth” has always been a controversial one in the trans community, but even if you feel trans women should be loud and open about their gender identity, it’s important to respect every individual’s wishes. There’s a good reason why we might not want to disclose that we’re trans in certain workplaces or public spaces: we need to maintain our own safety first and foremost. Likewise, if someone is beginning their transitioning and still in the closet, don’t attempt to push them out. That can be extremely damaging for their long-term progress.

10. No one will accept us

Many of us are surrounded by friends, family, lovers, and coworkers that take us seriously and treat us as the wonderful women we are. Sure, everyone’s experiences vary. But society is changing, people are becoming more accepting, and many of us live happy, healthy, and, occasionally, boring lives. It’s just not true that no one will accept us; there’s so many people out there who do.

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There's still many myths and half-truths floating around about being a transgender woman.

These days, trans women are more visible than ever in mainstream media. But despite all the press coverage we receive on bathroom bills and locker rooms, there's still many myths and half-truths floating around about our gender identity. Here are 10 common myths that seem to have been embeded into our culture, and why they're so patently untrue.

1. It’s all about sexual pleasure

Honey, no. Just, no. Trans women transition because they experience gender dysphoria, a condition where one's gender is not their assigned sex. Without transitioning, trans women can feel anxiety, loneliness, depression, low self-esteem, and so much more. Transitioning isn’t about sexual pleasure, it’s about being true to yourself.

2. The changes of Hormone Replacement Therapy (or HRT) are minor

Estrogen and antiandrogens bring major changes to a trans woman’s body. Estradiol softens skin, makes pupils larger, changes hair texture, alters fat distribution, and causes breast development. It’s called transitioning for a reason!

3. Your sex drive stays the same

When a trans woman starts HRT, estrogen changes a lot about her body, including her sexuality. A lot of us see a huge drop in our sex drive, preceded by a sharp rise, and then a leveling off after awhile. Others see regular highs and lows. Regardless, our sex drive is in constant fluctuation during those few early years, contrasting significantly from before we started HRT.

4. Sexuality is not fluid

Transitioning changes most of our relationships with sexuality. For one, I was exclusively attracted to cisgender women before I transitioned. But as I began my transitioning, my sexuality changed. I became attracted to cisgender men, trans men, gender nonconforming folks, and trans women. Granted, my attraction has largely been towards women even after transitioning, but my sexuality did change and has become much less strict.

5. Genitalia does not change during HRT

One of the major changes that trans women experience is a change to the way their privates work. To be blunt, estrogen feminizes a penis. This can lead to shorter erections, a softer texture, and, depending on the way a given person uses their junk, a decrease in the size of their penis from atrophying. Hence one of the reasons why the whole “trans bathroom panic” is ridiculous. Even those of us that do still have some extra junk below have been exposed to estrogen, so it’s not really the same as a cis man’s hardware. For a bit more information, check out Dr. Michele O’Mara’s look at the effects of feminizing hormones.

6. We only work in tech or art

Trans women are everywhere. From athletics to journalism, teaching to running for office, if there’s a job you can think of, a trans woman has probably worked in it before. Yes, it’s true many of us gravitate towards certain fields, but it’s not as if we only fit into two or three neat categories. Some of us prefer working from home, some of us don’t. We’re all individuals with different tastes and ambitions.

7. Transitioning ends with surgery

Uh, no. Surgery is a highly personal choice, one that a lot of trans women think about throughout their lives. Choosing to or not to go under the knife is dictated by a lot of considerations, largely including the level in which one experiences dysphoria towards their genitals and privates. Many of us choose not to go through reassignment surgeries and cosmetic changes, just as many of us do. Both decisions are valid, but the key here is honoring our privacy.

8. Trans women only date cis men

Trans women are all over the sexuality spectrum. From asexual to poly, straight to gay, we identify as anything and everything under the sun. It’s not uncommon to see a cis woman and a trans woman dating, or two trans women together, or a trans woman bachelorette. Different strokes for different folks. Literally.

9. It’s okay to disclose someone else’s trans status

The concept of “stealth” has always been a controversial one in the trans community, but even if you feel trans women should be loud and open about their gender identity, it’s important to respect every individual’s wishes. There’s a good reason why we might not want to disclose that we’re trans in certain workplaces or public spaces: we need to maintain our own safety first and foremost. Likewise, if someone is beginning their transitioning and still in the closet, don’t attempt to push them out. That can be extremely damaging for their long-term progress.

10. No one will accept us

Many of us are surrounded by friends, family, lovers, and coworkers that take us seriously and treat us as the wonderful women we are. Sure, everyone’s experiences vary. But society is changing, people are becoming more accepting, and many of us live happy, healthy, and, occasionally, boring lives. It’s just not true that no one will accept us; there’s so many people out there who do.

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There's still many myths and half-truths floating around about being a transgender woman.

These days, trans women are more visible than ever in mainstream media. But despite all the press coverage we receive on bathroom bills and locker rooms, there's still many myths and half-truths floating around about our gender identity. Here are 10 common myths that seem to have been embeded into our culture, and why they're so patently untrue.

1. It’s all about sexual pleasure

Honey, no. Just, no. Trans women transition because they experience gender dysphoria, a condition where one's gender is not their assigned sex. Without transitioning, trans women can feel anxiety, loneliness, depression, low self-esteem, and so much more. Transitioning isn’t about sexual pleasure, it’s about being true to yourself.

2. The changes of Hormone Replacement Therapy (or HRT) are minor

Estrogen and antiandrogens bring major changes to a trans woman’s body. Estradiol softens skin, makes pupils larger, changes hair texture, alters fat distribution, and causes breast development. It’s called transitioning for a reason!

3. Your sex drive stays the same

When a trans woman starts HRT, estrogen changes a lot about her body, including her sexuality. A lot of us see a huge drop in our sex drive, preceded by a sharp rise, and then a leveling off after awhile. Others see regular highs and lows. Regardless, our sex drive is in constant fluctuation during those few early years, contrasting significantly from before we started HRT.

4. Sexuality is not fluid

Transitioning changes most of our relationships with sexuality. For one, I was exclusively attracted to cisgender women before I transitioned. But as I began my transitioning, my sexuality changed. I became attracted to cisgender men, trans men, gender nonconforming folks, and trans women. Granted, my attraction has largely been towards women even after transitioning, but my sexuality did change and has become much less strict.

5. Genitalia does not change during HRT

One of the major changes that trans women experience is a change to the way their privates work. To be blunt, estrogen feminizes a penis. This can lead to shorter erections, a softer texture, and, depending on the way a given person uses their junk, a decrease in the size of their penis from atrophying. Hence one of the reasons why the whole “trans bathroom panic” is ridiculous. Even those of us that do still have some extra junk below have been exposed to estrogen, so it’s not really the same as a cis man’s hardware. For a bit more information, check out Dr. Michele O’Mara’s look at the effects of feminizing hormones.

6. We only work in tech or art

Trans women are everywhere. From athletics to journalism, teaching to running for office, if there’s a job you can think of, a trans woman has probably worked in it before. Yes, it’s true many of us gravitate towards certain fields, but it’s not as if we only fit into two or three neat categories. Some of us prefer working from home, some of us don’t. We’re all individuals with different tastes and ambitions.

7. Transitioning ends with surgery

Uh, no. Surgery is a highly personal choice, one that a lot of trans women think about throughout their lives. Choosing to or not to go under the knife is dictated by a lot of considerations, largely including the level in which one experiences dysphoria towards their genitals and privates. Many of us choose not to go through reassignment surgeries and cosmetic changes, just as many of us do. Both decisions are valid, but the key here is honoring our privacy.

8. Trans women only date cis men

Trans women are all over the sexuality spectrum. From asexual to poly, straight to gay, we identify as anything and everything under the sun. It’s not uncommon to see a cis woman and a trans woman dating, or two trans women together, or a trans woman bachelorette. Different strokes for different folks. Literally.

9. It’s okay to disclose someone else’s trans status

The concept of “stealth” has always been a controversial one in the trans community, but even if you feel trans women should be loud and open about their gender identity, it’s important to respect every individual’s wishes. There’s a good reason why we might not want to disclose that we’re trans in certain workplaces or public spaces: we need to maintain our own safety first and foremost. Likewise, if someone is beginning their transitioning and still in the closet, don’t attempt to push them out. That can be extremely damaging for their long-term progress.

10. No one will accept us

Many of us are surrounded by friends, family, lovers, and coworkers that take us seriously and treat us as the wonderful women we are. Sure, everyone’s experiences vary. But society is changing, people are becoming more accepting, and many of us live happy, healthy, and, occasionally, boring lives. It’s just not true that no one will accept us; there’s so many people out there who do.

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In each post I will also add a song that is not related to the photo but is a recommendation 💚.

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Waiting for June to tell my coming out story

❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

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I'm always in the edge

Nowhere in between

From 0 to 100

No middle part to stay

If you can see

I'll always be

This vulnerable chaos

If you can see how I can see

You will see the pain I feel

In each post I will also add a song that is not related to the photo but is a personal recommendation💚.

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In each post I will also add a song that is not related to the photo but is a recommendation 💚.

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International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia.

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I made this drawing because I was excited, but we will have to wait until Saturday. 🚀💫

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Am I the only one who did not know how beautiful the word sunflower is in the Spanish language?

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Yesterday thousands of people showed up in the streets of Minneapolis to peacefully protest the unjust murder of George Floyd at the hands of the Police in Minneapolis. Their peaceful protest was met with teargas and heavily armed police presence.

In the last three weeks, three different stories of police brutality & racism have come to light - with three Black lives taken away. These tragedies continue to happen despite the pandemic.

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This post is different, I just want everyone to appreciate the window of the soul; the eyes.

I love my brown eyes because they are my mom's eye color, the person I admire the most, and the person I love the most in this universe, with every atom in me.

🤎🤎🤎

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Yesterday thousands of people showed up in the streets of Minneapolis to peacefully protest the unjust murder of George Floyd at the hands of the Police in Minneapolis. Their peaceful protest was met with teargas and heavily armed police presence.

In the last three weeks, three different stories of police brutality & racism have come to light - with three Black lives taken away. These tragedies continue to happen despite the pandemic.

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My heart it’s so heartbroken right now.

Black Lives Matter (BLM) is an international activist movement, originating in the African-American community, that campaigns against violence and systemic racism towards black people. BLM regularly holds protests speaking out against police killings of black people, and broader issues such as racial profiling, police brutality, and racial inequality in the United States criminal justice system.

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F = Feminism 🖤

Take A Break From The World With These Feminist Poems

Sometimes you've got to give yourself a moral pep talk to inspire your feminism. And, while there's plenty of conversation about feminism in the age of Trump, sometimes it can be hard to feel personally inspired, no matter how committed to the cause you are. In other words, sometimes, it can be hard to feel like you embody feminism.

And that's despite the fact that today's feminism is more inclusive than ever. Writer and philosopher Katha Pollitt, in the New York Times, writes:

"Feminism has changed ... “Feminism is cool now,” explained one [NYU student], citing the movement against sexual assault on campus as one factor and the influence of pop culture idols like Beyoncé and Emma Watson as another. The goals may be the same as ever, but the movement feels different. It is more interracial, younger, queerer and far more internet savvy than it was a decade or so ago."

There's a sure-fire way to kick your feminism into high gear, though: make it matter to you. And there's no better way to connect on a personal level than through poetry. These eight poems will do the job.

"Respect" by

Melissa Studdard

Because her body is winter inside a cave

because someone built

fire there and forgot to put it out

because bedtime is a castle

she’s building inside herself

with a moat

and portcullis

and buckets full of mist

because when you let go

the reins

horses

tumble over cliffs and turn

into moths before hitting bottom

because their hooves leave streaks of midnight

in the sky

because stuffed rabbits

are better at keeping secrets

than stopping hands

because when the world got

shoved up inside her

she held it tight like a kegel ball

and wondered

at the struggle Atlas had

carrying such a tiny thing

on his back

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F = Feminism 🖤

11 FACTS ABOUT FEMINISM:

Feminism is defined as the belief in the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes.

The goal of feminism is to challenge the systemic inequalities women face on a daily basis.

Contrary to popular belief feminism has nothing to do with belittling men, in fact feminism does not support sexism against either gender. Feminism works towards equality, not female superiority.

Feminists respect individual, informed choices and believe there shouldn't be a double standard in judging a person. Everyone has the right to sexual autonomy and the ability to make decisions about when, how and with whom to conduct their sexual life.

There isn't just one type of feminism, there are a variety of feminist groups including: girlie feminist, third-wave feminist, pro-sex feminist, and so on. All these groups aim to deal with different types of discrimination women, and sometimes men, face.

Women earn 78 cents for every dollar a man makes.

Only 17% of the seats in Congress are held by women.

Although 48% of law school graduates and 45% of law firm associates are female, women make up only 22% of federal-level and 26% of state-level judgeships.

Even in the 10 top paying jobs for women, females earn less than men; only one career, speech pathology, pays the same regardless of gender.

Despite previous attempts to ratify a UN treaty guaranteeing the elimination of all forms of discrimination against women, the U.S. refuses to support an international bill of rights for women signed by nearly every other nation on the planet.

What feminists want the world to know, or at least acknowledge is the different ways men and women are treated, and although there have been great strides towards equality, women and men are far from playing on the same field.

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