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As a male in an FLR This is my pledge...now and always

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Which kind of submissive are you? 1,2,3 or 4?

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FemLIt 0564 - Forty Qualities of the Perfect Domme

1. Keeps her sub on their toes metaphorically, sometimes literally.

2. Knows that you don’t have to be cold, cruel, or bitchy to be dominant, but may decide to play that role sometimes.

3. Doesn’t need to be wearing black leather and high heels to feel powerful, but might wear them occasionally when the mood strikes.

4. Can be strict and controlling but also sweet and loving, all at the same time.

5. Understands the importance of aftercare, and that includes for herself as well.

6. Is trustworthy, and tries to instill a deep level of trust in her sub. Shows them that safety and preservation of reputation are paramount.

7. Adds intimacy to the relationship by creating a culture of ‘doing things for each other’, instead of just looking out for themselves.

8. Teaches her sub that there is no shame in their submission to her.

9. Uses her words to project power, not the volume of her voice.

10. Knows how to be classy, graceful, and elegant to command respect.

11. Makes her sub feel loved and wanted the most when they’re at their weakest.

12. Doesn’t hesitate to enforce discipline when required, and won’t feel the least bit guilty for doing it.

13. Loves herself and is confident and comfortable about who she is.

14. Understands that Dommes are human too, and she won’t be put off or discouraged by the mistakes she will make while leading the relationship.

15. When she inevitably does make a mistake, she will own up to it once, apologize if needed, learn from it, and move on without dwelling on it further.

16. Knows that Female Led Relationships are about her wants an needs first, but for a relationship to work, both need to be happy and a little compromise is required. She sets aside time where they can meet as equals to voice concerns and negotiate solutions to problems as they arise.

17. Believes in safe-words and safe-gestures and ensures her sub knows how to use them properly.

18. Doesn’t believe in equal relationships and tries to avoid them. To be truly happy, she knows that she needs to be in control and will choose a mate that is amenable.

19. Hunts down and kills the male ego for sport and then teaches him to feel pride in his submission to her.

20. Is introspective of her needs and knows what she wants from a relationship, so when she meets her sub, she is ready to guide them from the beginning.

21. Understands that speech control can be a powerful way to control her sub and uses it to her greatest advantage.

22. Knows her subs deepest, darkest, and dirtiest secrets, kinks and fetishes, but believes in their right to privacy and will take that information with her to the grave.

23. Takes the time and effort to learn what words will humiliate her sub in a good way, and what words to avoid because they will be harmful to her subs state of mind.

24. Prefers to do the driving, in the car, and in the bedroom.

25. Teaches her sub that, in her eyes, one of their greatest strengths is their ability to be weak for her.

26. She can be incredibly selfish with regards to sexual pleasure, but very selfless in her love and devotion for her sub.

27. Makes the rules that will guide them through their life together, and enforces them through discipline.

28. Knows the difference between when her sub wants an orgasm, and when they really need one. She practices orgasm control to regulate them to their greatest benefit.

29. Never threatens her sub, but she may make certain promises they won’t like to hear.

30. May make her sub suffer many humiliations and indignities in private, but ferociously defends their honor in public.

31. Her rules and instructions are always clear, concise and unambiguous, and they never conflict with each other.

32. She knows that calm, calculated words whispered into a subs ear will be more effective than shouting at them hysterically.

33. Her sub may feel unworthy of her but she will often remind them that they are what she wants in her life.

34. Maintains a level of inequality in the relationship to make the dominance and submission more genuine, and has overcome any guilt she may feel about it being unfair to her sub.

35. Knows that her subs favorite kinks and fetishes will be much more enjoyable for them if she forces her sub to experience them, instead of just allowing them to happen.

36. Through tease and denial, uses her subs own lust against them to train them to become obsessed with her.

37 She likes to keeps her sub guessing by withholding certain plans or information and then springing surprises on them.

38. Knows how to motivate her sub to do the most mundane of tasks by creating an erotic atmosphere filled with sexual tension surrounding it.

39. She knows that she doesn’t have to imitate a man to be a powerful force to be reckoned with.

40. Understands the intricacies of a consentual non-consent relationship and knows how to apply it to her own relationship.

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