oh shit its 2 am. do i crush the whole thing tonight or go to bed.....

does this annoy anyone else or is it just me

There's the fan favorite

in other news here's miriyam

i'm making a rhythm doctor level knowing full well i'm going to end up wanting to upload it and am going to have to confront my worst fear; social anxiety

yeah this is my life now.

i'm making a rhythm doctor level knowing full well i'm going to end up wanting to upload it and am going to have to confront my worst fear; social anxiety

i love my mutuals

is this overkill

unsung benefit i think a lot of ppl are sleeping on with using the public library is that i think its a great replacement for the dopamine hit some ppl get from online shopping. it kind of fills that niche of reserving something that you then get to anticipate the arrival of and enjoy when it arrives, but without like, the waste and the money.

i'm making a rhythm doctor level knowing full well i'm going to end up wanting to upload it and am going to have to confront my worst fear; social anxiety

Don’t you hate it when you’re trying to design an OC and then it looks exactly like another character?

A surprisingly helpful bit of social maneuvering I've figured out from trial and error: Throughout your life, you are going to need things from people. Often, it's going to be on a deadline. And when that deadline passes, you generally want to know what's going on. So, you need to ask them.

There are two kinds of people, broadly, in this situation. The Shameless will tell you what the holdup is, with absolutely no regard for if the reason is "good enough". This is actually very helpful, because you get the real reason immediately, and can start working on a solution.

The Ashamed is trickier. People who are Ashamed are people who were often told they were giving excuses when they were trying to explain, and they'll often avoid you until they solve the problem on their own. This causes them and you a lot of stress, and often takes a lot longer to solve.

Long term, the strategy for dealing with people who are Ashamed is to provide a supportive environment where they're comfortable sharing any problems they're having with getting things done. But, there's a way to at least partially short-circuit that:

Provide an explanation for them.

One example might be "Hey Susan, I noticed that I don't have your report yet. Are you busy with other projects?" The readymade explanation signals that you're willing to accept an explanation, which is the big anxiety point.

Sometimes, you still won't get an honest answer- especially if the honest answer isn't "good enough" by the standards of the person who traumatized them. But, I've found that it often at least gets you a lie that lets you give them some slack or work around the problem.

Let's say that Susan has actually completely forgotten that she needed to do the report. She's horrified at herself, and completely unwilling to admit the real problem. But, she can now safely reply with "Sorry Jennifer, I've been swamped, and it got lost in the mix. I can have it to you in two days. Does that work?"

From there, so long as Susan gave an estimate for when she can actually do it, she and Jennifer can hash out a solution.

It's not a perfect solution, but it works astonishingly well for how small of a change it is.

if u cant describe ur own stuff on tumblr u can still help ur visually impaired followers with 2 quick things:

look in the notes to see if someone already wrote a description. a lot of the time, someone already has

if theres no description in the notes or u cant write ur own, please tag the post as undescribed, so we can avoid inaccessible posts!

For the last goddamn time...

"Kill your darlings" means "if something is holding you back, get rid of it, even if it sounds pretty."

That's it! That's all it means! It means if you're stuck and stalled out on your story and you could fix the whole block by removing something but you're avoiding removing that thing because it's good, you remove that thing. That's the darling.

It does NOT mean

That you have to get rid of your self-indulgent writing

That you should delete something just because you like it (?wtf?)

That you need to kill off characters (??? what)

That you have to pare your story down to the absolute bare bones

That you have to delete anything whatsoever if you don't want to

The POINT is that you STOP FEELING GUILTY for throwing out good writing that isn't SERVING THE STORY.

The POINT is that you don't get so HUNG UP on the details that you lose sight of the BIG PICTURE.

Good grief....

Keep seeing pronoun positivity posts is about he/they and she/theys. That's cool and all but this one's for the she/hes. If you're a she/he I love you and you can take as much mint as you want from our garden

I cant explain it well but i feel like rhythm doctor is about hope and love in the face of despair. All of these people are suffering confusing and painful heart conditions on top of personal loves that affect their wellbeing AND an overbearing head doctor that wants nothing but results who is willing to risk patients' health to get them. And yet they all found time to love each other

Hailey and Logan are working up the courage to make things official, Cole and Nicole are finding comfort in each other instead of their addictions, Samurai is everyones friend and is there to listen to anyone who feels like talking, the Miner found the guts to ask for help after realizing how bad his health had gotten, Lucky learned to put himself first and find real friends that care for him more than for what he can do on a field, Mr and Mrs Stevenson worrying and fussing over each other this whole time. Ian and Paige tending to everyone even at risk of their own health because if they wont care for them, who will? And the Intern keeping an eye on them anyway. Love is stored in the hospital

the stuff going on at columbia campus rn is genuinely incredible