O my son, establish prayer, enjoin what is right, forbid what is wrong, and be patient over what befalls you. Indeed, [all] that is of the matters [requiring] determination. 
-31:17

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Don't let your grief consume you to such an extent that you forget who’s in control. Try to step away from your broken state, even if just for a moment. You’ll see things clearer and realise that you own nothing. Nothing at all. Everything is on loan from Allah. Trust him!

Update : she want him out of her life

“As we become spiritually mature, we naturally develop more empathy and try to see things from others’ perspectives.”

Love, Arifah

she didn't lose him, she had to let him go. she didn't get over him, she had to move on. she didn't lose feelings for him, she had to walk away. she didn't get bored, she had to do what was best for her. she didn't let him go, she had to push him away. she didn't forget about him, she had to cut him off. she didn't want things to end, she just chose herself instead of him this time. she didn't want to breakup, she just couldn't handle it anymore. she didn't want him out of her life, she just needed time to herself. she attached her entire future with him, now she has bigger dreams. 

Love, Arifah

It’s okay to be a beginner at the things you are interested in. There is no reason to feel intimidated by people more advanced than you are, because they too were in your place at one point. Keep learning and growing and expanding in whatever it is that you love and let nothing and no one stop you. You don’t have to be at the same stage as someone else. You can just be at your stage and that one is okay too.

You either love someone forever or you never really loved them.

“It’s interesting to think about how we make people who used to be everything into nothing again. How we learn to forget. How we force forgetting. What we put in place of them in the interim. The dynamics afterward always tell you more than what the relationship did—grief is a faster teacher than joy—but what does it mean when you cycle out to being strangers again? You never really stop knowing each other in that way. Maybe there’s no choice but to make them someone different in your mind, not the person who knew your daily anxieties and what you looked like naked and what made you cry and how much you loved them. When our lives revolve around someone, they don’t just stop doing so even if all that’s left is some semblance of their memory. There are always those bits that linger. The memories that are impressed on the places you went and the things you said and the songs you listened to remain. We all eventually find ourselves standing in the checkout line, hearing one of those songs come on and realizing that we’re revolving around them again. And maybe we never stopped. Do you ever really forget your lovers’ birthdays, or all your first times, intimate and not? Do your anniversaries ever become normal days of the year again? Are the things you did and promises you made ever really neutralized? Do they become void now that you’re broken up or do you decidedly ignore them because there’s simply no other choice? The mind tells you to go on and forces your heart to follow suit, I guess. I want to believe that you either love someone, in some way, forever, or you never really loved them at all. That once two reactive chemicals cross, both are changed. That the wounds we leave in people are sometimes too raw to risk falling back into them. I don’t want to believe that we write each other off because we simply don’t matter anymore. I know love isn’t expendable. I wonder, and maybe hope, if we ever just force it to be out of necessity.” 

My mind revolves around you and it is so unhealthy. It’s a shame we did not work out, you actually do (did) mean so much to me stinky. 

Love, Arifah

Peace and Headspace

I just wanna be at peace, that’s all. Wish I could delete this big chunk of memories I had with you. Trying to unlove you is probably the hardest thing to do tbh. I wonder if you still remember everything or maybe it’s just me. 

I went out two nights ago and everywhere I went reminds me of you. The memories fleeting around my head and it constantly resurfaced. I made one too many excuses to not talk about this but it feels great to let out of my chest. Not going to lie but moving on hurts and I tried so hard to not shed any tears tonight cos it’s just not worth it. Guess I should really try to enjoy the process and embrace it. 

I’m listening to Kodaline’s Moving On and man did it make me feel some type of way.  

Regardless, everything still, feels ever so confusing, standing on a shaky ground - but it’s okay there is always light at the end of the tunnel. 

Hope love and peace finds me (& you) well. 

Love, Arifah

These might help you..❤

How great would it be if you could get over someone easily, you'd better brace yourself. Ending a relationship is not as easy as you think, at least thats how it was for me. 

Don’t worry when things don’t work out. If you’ve tried your best & it doesn’t work then let it go. Free yourself from worries & pain by relying only on the Almighty. Just be patient, your time is yet to come. The Almighty knows your struggles. He hears your prayers!

Mufti Ismail Menk

“Because I’ve realised that no matter where you are or what you're doing or who you're with; I will always, honestly, truly, completely love you.”

Love, Arifah