Christy and The Cities: How to Nguyen (win) at Life in your 30s - Part 2

03/12/2019 6:32 pm

It’s day one of being 30. I woke up at 5am this morning to get dolled up for work. Finished my make up, curled my hair, and put on my pink and black cheetah print dress. I look in the mirror and say out loud to myself “I look like my mother”. Then go downstairs in my townhome and put cat food in their bowls for the babies (pictures of my babies below). Make my protein shake and head out. I’m driving to work and almost to downtown Minneapolis and my older sister blasts my phone with text after text. I tell myself I’ll look at it when I get to the parking ramp at work. We get to a slow spot and start snailing it so I take a quick glance and see tons of happy birthday gifs from her. Made me giggle, I arrived in the parking ramp and got a call from my mother wishing me a happy birthday! I could hear my soon to be 21 year old brother wish me happy birthday. It was nice to hear from them first thing in the morning. She asks me if I want to do my birthday dinner on Sunday. I told her that my little 18 year old sister told me she won’t be available that day because she’s celebrating her anniversary with her bf and they have made dinner reservations already. I had spoken to my older sister the night before and she suggested we go to Niesen’s and play bingo. So told my mom that and she said “you should go to Mystic casino tonight to get free spin for prizes.” I told her I’d think about it. Usually weeknights I like to relax and not do anything. Finally hung up with my mother and headed into the office.

Got in the office and was ready for the busy day at work on top of birthday festivities planned at work. My co-worker treated me to Starbucks coffee. I had a headband that I bought at a craft event I was at on Sunday. I guess they’re called “fascinators”. The Starbucks people were so kind and loved my headband. We head back upstairs and sure enough the “happy birthday” Facebook posts begin. I felt the need to not only love the post but also to reply to each person saying thank you. It was important to me to say thank you because these people took time out of their day to wish me a great day. The least I can do is reply and tell them I’m grateful for their well wishes. Finally 2:00 pm hits and it’s cake time. My cake was from Queen of cakes and it had rainbow roses with a fat unicorn in a section of the cake. It was super duper cute. Whipped frosting and Oreo filling. It was delicious and everyone loved it. Pictures below. My boss was so kind to get me an expensive cake for my first day in my 30s. After cake time my boss gave my department our reviews for last year. This is when we find out if we get raises. Not only did I get my raise but also received a new title “Senior Litigation Project Coordinater”. I was so happy and excited. I felt all my hard work had been justified. All the days I stayed late wasn’t for nothing. Finally got towards the end of the day and new I wasn’t going to get to leave on time.

Finally my boss and I were getting ready to leave. I still had one more slice of my cake left and I messaged my 57 year old complicated guy asking him if he wanted me to swing by so I could share my birthday cake with him. He replies with “you just keep pushing don’t you lol.” I asked him “pushing what? I just wanted to know if you wanted to eat some of my birthday cake.” He responds “no I ate too much sweets this weekend, I’ll pass.” I got in my car and was getting annoyed because his comment “you just keep pushing don’t you” really bothered me. It bothered me so much that I messaged him “I won’t but you anymore tonight, have a good workout.” I was so upset. Him and I are in a super complicated situation. I know he cares about me, he’s always kind to me, and has helped me when I’ve been in binds. He just doesn’t want to date me because of the age difference because he feels that people especially his family would not understand. So he does everything he can to remind me that we are not serious.

Why do I stay in something complicated? Why don’t I go out and date or find someone else? Well he doesn’t purposefully hurt my feelings. He doesn’t chain me or play mind games. If anything he’s upfront and honest with me. Too honest sometimes. I’m divorced and was in a serious messed up relationship with a guy who had a girlfriend and I was the “other woman”. (Save that story for another day) So my trust in men is non-existent. Another issue I have is, I’ve had herpes (HSV2) since I was 16 years old. Not many guys are interested in dating a girl with a sexually transmitted disease. Only a few men in my life have been able to look past that. Between the ages 16-30 I’ve had more than enough rejections to last me a lifetime. Sad songs start playing on my car ride home. With make up on my face I try so hard to lot cry. Then “I love u/I hate u” comes on and I just start crying. It’s raining and my tears were falling just as fast as the rain hitting my car. We have plans to go to Mystic Lake casino on Saturday for my birthday. I almost contemplated messaging him and saying “you know what, just forget about my birthday. We won’t do anything special. Just come over and we’ll play bunnies and that’s it.” I kept contemplating over and over again and realized if I said that to him, he may think I’m crossing the crazy border or “pushy” in his terms and I don’t want that. Even though he can’t give himself to me completely, having him in my life is better than feeling completely alone. I guess I just have to continue to suck it up. He doesn’t want more with me and I have to come to terms with that.

To have such a great day turn to sadness really sucked. I get home and walk through the door and first thing I see is my little girl Luna greeting me. She was very happy that I was home. I take off my jacket and jewelry and lay on the couch from being emotionally exhausted from the rollercoaster of a day. Both my boy Artemis and my girl Luna snuggle up with me and give me tons of love. Purring, rubbing their faces on my hand for pets, and snuggling under the blanket with me. I’m still a little bummed out because I feel like I will be alone forever and just be a cat mom/crazy cat lady. I don’t know what life in my 30s have in stored for me. I guess we’ll just have to wait and see.

03/03/2019 5:51 pm

So, my birthday is in 9 days.. i may be getting older but I sure am not getting any taller. I’m 4’ 10” and 3/4s. Every time I go to a restaurant and need to the use the bathroom, the first thing I think is “I wonder how high the mirror will be”... if only they’d think of the little people. Smh

Christy and The Cities: How to Nguyen (win) at Life in your 30s - Part 1

02/26/2019 it’s 9:52 pm and 14 days away from my 30th birthday. Hi there! My name is Christy and if you didn’t know, Nguyen is a Vietnamese last name. Sounds like “win” or “n-win”. Either way is right. I’m sitting here on my couch watching the oscars repeat on Hulu. I just realized man, it’s almost my birthday. I’m entering the world of the 30s as divorced for 5 years and still single with no kids and 2 Sphynx cats. Looking back at my 20s, all those years were nothing but learning experiences. I am who I am today because of my life experiences. What happens after 30? What kind of life experiences will I gain in the 30s lifestyle? I want to share my journey with you by starting a blog. In 14 days, I can say I got my 20s under the belt. Hello 30s! Ready or not here I come! I will keep it real and truthful.

Back to the oscars! Why am I watching it on repeat on Hulu? It’s because I didn’t catch it the night it aired. Dang, I remember mid 90s when it was the oscars, MTV music awards, Miss America.. if you missed the show.. you missed it! Lol You hope the channel will replay it again when you’re available. Now a days, you can stream it anywhere. How evolved will technology by during my 30s? Are we gonna end up getting chips in our hands instead of carrying a drivers license?

I feel like I am at the age where I realize time does go by fast. That saying is truth! Being 16 years old you just wish to be older. I know I did! I’m understanding life is precious and living life to the best it can be. Oh man Bradley Cooper and Lady GaGa performing “Shallow”!! Love this song so much. Makes my heart flutter and feel happy. Not gonna lie, kinda wish they were a couple. What’s funny is I haven’t even watched the movie A Star is Born yet. But I love the song! I hope to watch it with my 57 year old.

What? Did I say 57 year old? Yes! Yes I did mention I’m single earlier. Well.. my 57 year old is my long time “good friend” *wink wink nudge nudge* it started as a casual friendship and has become a little more. What do I have in common with this 57 year old? A few things. We both are in a IT field. We both like 80s rock. And we both love chocolate. He’s nice to me and makes me happy. It’s fun to talk about how I wasn’t even a thought in my parents mind when he was graduating high school. It’s fun to hear him talk about what it was like to see the technology world evolve. Quite frankly he doesn’t realize people should be asking me “what does he see in you?” I’m still trying to figure it out. He’s very old school and in his eyes our age difference is taboo. He feels people would judge him negativily to see a younger girl with him. It’s interesting that he can understand change in technology but cannot understand the change in people today. Not all people are quick to judge nowadays. Not saying it doesn’t exist. But not EVERYONE! He says no one in his family would understand because they are much older. Well.. I wish I could confidently say my family wouldn’t shame me but they may judge. Who knows!

Anyway. It’s about my bed time. Just finished my bedroom routine. Peed. Took out my contacts. Put in allergy eye drops. Cloth my cats so they don’t freeze in my home because my heat sucks! Brush my teeth and off to bed to cuddle with the babies. Goodnight from The Twin Cities! Looking forward to sharing more with you!