My name is Nicole and I do pretty much the same thing everyone else does on this godforsaken website. Like my sweet icon? Tinyjerkface made it for me, & I bet if you give him money he'll make you one too
YOU - "Kim. Do you think we're friends in other universes too?"
SHIVERS - Two cats jump from chimney to chimney, one cleans soot off of the other's face. A willow sways gently next to her birch, their roots tangle together deep underground. Two boys chase each other through the woods with sticks held like swords. An elderly couple solves the day's crossword puzzle over cups of coffee.
KIM KITSURAGI - "That is a very far-fetched idea, detective. Let's focus on the here and now."
the idea that restrooms, locker rooms, etc need to be single-sex spaces in order for women to be safe is patriarchy's way of signalling to men & boys that society doesn't expect them to behave themselves around women. it is directly antifeminist. it would be antifeminist even if trans people did not exist. a feminist society would demand that women should be safe in all spaces even when there are men there.
"For all the body positivity of our modern era, we still don’t hear many public conversations about periods. To open up spaces for clear, comprehensive discussions about menstruation and how it impacts our self-esteem often requires wrestling with centuries of stigma. In fact, it’s so off-limits that the English word “taboo” likely comes from a set of Tongan religious practices that addressed periods. In many parts of the world, people are and have long been cut off from resources and education about periods: and the more marginalized the person, the more cut off they’ve usually been. The push for greater access to period information, like using language when we talk about periods that includes everyone who can have them, has also resulted in its own backlash.
So how are you supposed to cope, particularly when you’re a transmasculine person who menstruates, and especially if it’s a major source of dysphoria for you? First; if you’re reading this hoping to get some advice for yourself, take a big breath. I want you to remember that you are not alone.
Let’s have an honest discussion about what periods are, some of the unique challenges that transmasculine people who menstruate can grapple with, and how to address them. What are periods, really, anyway? Do you have to have one? How do you cope with any dysphoria or other tough feelings they can bring up? What about bathrooms? What about some different words and new ways you can think about menstruation to either un-gender or re-gender it all in ways that work better for you?"
This new piece from Ellis Schwamm today talks about all that and more.