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foraged-obscurities · 4 months

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Things I’ve learned in 2023:

1. I would rather adjust my life to their absence than adjust my boundaries to their disrespect.

2. When seeking advice, go to the person with the wisdom of that lived experience, not the one with knowledge of the topic.

3. Always cook the pasta longer than the box says.

4. The angrier a man is, the more he is in need of a good cry. Handle your emotions appropriately, not how society has permitted and excused.

5. In adolescence, we disrespect our mothers more than anyone else because she was the only one that exemplified unconditional love.

6. Most of my childless friends would make better parents than the ones that are choosing to have children.

7. If you were loved by everyone, you wouldn’t like yourself/ what you had become.

8. For a lot of people, there will come a time when they view their parents as vulnerable children in need of guidance and love.

9. If a majority of women like something, society will condemn it.

10. Instead of walking the dog with a purpose, let their nose lead the way, it’s more of an adventure, and their mind will get the stimulation it deserves.

11. A small matcha and a seltzer will give you the same energy as two cups of coffee without the unwanted jitters.

12. Keep in touch with your younger friends, you have more to learn from them than they have to learn from you.

13. Trauma bonding has been given a bad rep, but for a lot of people it helps us heal while seeking community.

14. Everyone is hero, a villain, and a victim in someone’s story.

15. Feminine rage is not portrayed justly in media, it is most often silent and internalized, we are not given the privilege of tantrums the way men are.

16. There is a difference between solitude and loneliness, men should fear this when it comes to dating.

17. Revenge can feel like unrequited love, most do not deserve the satisfaction.

18. Women fall in love with people the more time they spend with that person, men fall in love in their absence.

19. The less you dress for the male gaze, the more you seem to attract it.

20. 50% of the American population has narcissistic tendencies, trust a person on the spectrum to weed them out, they have a knack for it.

21. Emotional consideration is necessary for logic.

22. Douche bag comedian Matt Rife turned out to be a prick *shocker* and he sent a woman a face tuned dick pic.

23. When complaining about the struggles of the women of my grandparents generation, they always forget to highlight that they couldn’t even have their own credit cards/ bank accounts.. makes you wonder what could’ve been worse than not being able to have that kind of security.

24. Unless it’s absolutely necessary for your health, get rid of your scale. Or at least hide it when you have company over, you never know who is struggling. Also, weight fluctuation is NORMAL.

25. People are less likely to take women’s pain seriously when they masturbate to it.

26. “We live in our own reality” is just a kinder way to say that we all have our delusions.

27. Empathy/ emotional intelligence should be the gauge of inferiority/superiority. But we don’t acknowledge it because humans would likely not rank on that scale.

28. A lot of neurodivergent people need to have a safety person that they can vent to about another person’s wrongdoings in order to make sure that person is being held accountable. We often undermine ourselves and an outside opinion can bring about clarity and closure.

29. When someone leaves an abusive situation, don’t apologize, congratulate them.

30. Save the water you rinse your rice in, dunk your hair in it after you’ve showered, you won’t regret it.

31. If you still have butterflies in your stomach after hanging out with someone for 3+ months.. RUN. Your gut is trying to tell you something because your brain is clouded by hormones.

32. Therapy can be just as damaging as the experiences you’re trying to heal from, and talk therapy is only one step, it is not the solution.

33. Men know exactly what weaponized incompetence is when a woman needs something from them, but only then.

34. Radicalized against a capitalist system just means you’re humanized.

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