It’s okay not to decide everything. We can put everything— ourselves, our family, as “subject to change”. When we put something in words, we get bound by it. Just like us not wanting to get bound by the “normal” defined by those around us. The things we hold important and our ways of thinking keep changing continuously. So we can think about the best in that particular moment. If, at that time, our best is completely different, and things don’t work out even after talking… then we don’t need to force ourselves to remain as a family. If that happens. We don’t have to think about that just yet.