FemLit 615 - Level of Happiness

The best a blue balled beta can hope for is to be useful to a Women. If you channel your desperation into serving Her then you’ll find a level of happiness you didn’t know existed

FemLit 614 - The real fun doesn’t begin until you wish it were over

The real fun doesn’t begin until you wish it were over! With a large enough plug, you’ll be afraid to cum.. I intend to repeatedly take you to the edge of blissful denial before locking you back into your chastity device.. beneath me and under the sole of my feet is where you belong and safely locked in that cage!!

FemLit 613 - Roses are red. Your balls are blue

Roses are red. Your balls are blue. Your Dicks in my cage. So I own you! You are for my pleasure and whatever I want you to be!! It is Stroke. Edge. Deny. Repeat. Seeing you all locked up in your cage and frustrated is so much fun and it makes me hot asf.. Do not think of chastity as only a form of punishment, think of it as an opportunity to start a new life by my side in utter pleasure and servitude to my elegance.. now sit back and watch me m@sturbate to my satisfaction with my myriad of toys and equipment, you can hump on my ass later but the cage stays on, ALWAYS!!

FemLit 612 - Everyday domination for your husband

* Your husband must try to help you come up with more effective punishments, more humiliating tasks, and tell you what he enjoys the most vs the least.

* Making him take off his underwear in public places. Order him to go to the restroom and take off underwear and bring it back to you for safekeeping.

* watch porn together and have him satisfy you, by your prefereance.

* Have your husband buttplugged as often you like, without promise of sexual release.

* Obediance. Order your husband to get naked while you remain clothed.

* Obediance pt 2. Order him to kneel, repsonse shall be swift and without question .

* Obediance pt 3. Order him to stand on all fours. Make him wait for further instructions.

* Obediance pt 4. A simple hush shall be enough for your husband. Slave will not speak unless spoken to.

* If your husband gets off on bondage, tie his hands behind his back while you watch your favorite Tv-show. Just as a power-move. With no promise of sexual release.

* Have him bring you to orgasm, while he remanis dressed and gets no orgasm.

* Make him wear panties, for humiliation and a mark of your ownership.

* Make the slave start a tumblr. He must post a porn pic describing his fantasies every day. If he misses one day, he will be punished. Misses sevral = Punished severly.

* Arouse and tease him, make him beg to fuck you. Then deny him. Make him watch you masturbate.

* Make your husband fuck you with sheath or your strapon.

* Suck his cock several times the same day, but never let him cum. Stop right before he is about to cum. This will drive him crazy.

FemLit 611 - Milking

Milking is the act of taking one’s boycock and stimulating him to completion. As always it is important to have a reason for your actions in mind. Is milking a load from your boy a reward for faithfully following your will in staying chaste? Is this a punishment for a chaste boy who did not do his chores for the 3rd week in a row?

Reasons to Milk

- Chastity: Chastity interacts with milking through the obvious denial and later release. If you really want to know a ton about the interaction between chastity and milking you should be following @chirenon. He’s probably the most prolific poster of male chastity on tumblr (he does occasionally post mmf too, so if you’re squeamish be aware). Regardless, some folks believe that a chaste boy needs to be milked for health reasons, others say that’s bullshit. I cannot definitively find an answer (that seems reliable) either way. 

- Reward: Milking is a reward usually for boys who cannot or do not desire long term chastity. It’s a reward that they wait for however long they’re locked away, and when they have waited for quite some time for orgasm. Outside of chastity, some submissives take it as a sign of submission to give up control of pleasure to their dominant. In this way a dominant 

- Punishment: Chaste men often take great pride in the length of time they’ve managed to stay chaste. If one misbehaves, you can threaten to milk him if he does not shape up. Fair warning though, if your chaste boy takes his chastity very seriously, it would be considered a very serious punishment and if the punishment doesn’t fit the crime you could do damage to your relationship. Alternatively for submissives that are not chaste the punishment side of a milking is when you choose not to stop milking when the orgasm occurs.

Ways to Milk

- Masturbation: A hand with or without lube is standard. If you’re lucky enough to own a stroking toy such as a flesh jack or a gel sleeve those are also fine options. It’s worth knowing what region of the boycock is most sensitive. Sometimes rubbing the head will be all that’s necessary for orgasm. Other times the frenulum (look it up) is the most sensitive spot. The last area that can be worth exploration is the Penile Raphe. It’s the urethral tube that can be seen running along the underside of the penis. Rubbing it in circles, lifting it from the penis and rubbing it between two fingers can be ways of stimulating the raphe.

- Tease and Denial: Better known as edging. Simply put you make a big effort to get your boy as close to orgasm as possible and stop. I do not suggest brinkmanship while edging. I have seen and heard of this mistake a lot. Your objective is to get him close and then back off. Do this over the course of an hour and he’ll be begging you for orgasm. Of course whether he’s earned such a reward or punishment is up to you…

- Over-stimulation: He’s panting, his face is red, and he’s so close he’ll blow his load any second now. You ramp up the intensity and he boils over jizz squirting everywhere, only you don’t back off. You maintain that intensity. He begins to writhe, to squeal, it’s too intense. That is over-stimulation. I’ve mentioned it before in other entries, but I often couple this with tease and denial. It also works well when you present a boy a deal with the devil. You’ll stop your over-stimulation in exchange for a particular task or activity that benefits you. Get creative.

FemLit 610 - Suggested Genital Massage Strokes

There are many different massage strokes that feel good on male genitals.

Healing Stroke - With the penis resting on the belly, cup the balls with one hand. The heel of the palm of the other hand glides up and down the underside of the penis all the way to the tip. 

Anvil Stroke - Bring one hand down, letting it stroke the penis from the top all the way to the bottom. When it hits the bottom, release it. Meanwhile bring your other hand to the top of the penis and repeat the stroke, creating an alternating motion. 

Climbing the Mountain - Take the penis in one hand and gently, sensuously caress it for about ten seconds, then give it one quick up-and-down stroke. Repeat the sensuous caressing for about ten seconds (perhaps using slow up-and-down strokes), and then give the penis two quick up-and-down strokes. Repeat the caressing, then give three quick strokes, etc. Continue until ejaculation approaches inevitability. 

Light a fire - One of the interesting ways to do a hand job is to grab the penis with both hands, as if you were holding a stick and wanted to light a fire, like you see Indians do in the movies. Unlike the stick, you naturally do not want to set fire to the penis. So, do not rub the penis as hard as you can because this may cause a burning and unpleasant sensation, but knead it between your hands with feeling.

Pressure to the penis - With one hand, pull the skin of the penis towards the root. Then grab his penis there and push slightly. This way your hand has a similar effect as a penis ring. With your other hand, squeeze the penis on different spots and use about the same rhythm. The squeeze can last as long as you want it to. It it best that it is not too strong or too long.

Massage the head - Grab the penis in one hand so that the head is facing upwards. Pour a lot of oil on the other hand. Make circles with your palm on the head of the penis. Every once in a while change the direction of the circling.

Sliding - Grab his balls with one hand. The balls should rest in a relaxed way in your hands and you should gently squeeze them once in a while, as if you were massaging them. With your other hand, place the penis on his belly and slide with your palm along the lower side of his penis, from the root to the head. The hand should be placed parallel to his penis, in such a way that you slide alongside the penis with your fingers as well. Do not grip it with your whole hand, like with ordinary rubbing.

The Milker - Milk your hands alternately up his penis. Start at the base, and move all the way up past the head.

Corkscrew - Hold the base with one hand, stroke up the shaft to the head with the other hand and corkscrew your hand off the head.

Fire - Rub his penis between both hands as if you’re rubbing sticks to make a fire.

Doorknob - Turn your hand around the head as if turning a doorknob.

Ring - Make a ring with your thumb and forefinger. Pump up the shaft in short strokes, coming closer to the head each time.

Feather light - Stroke gently from the perineum, over the testicles, up the shaft to the head and back, very gently.

Perpetual Penetration - Make loose fists and stroke from the top of the head, to just beneath the head, using hand over hand.

Finger Pleasure - With the tip of your index finger make a circle where the shaft and head meet.

Thumbing - Circle the head with your thumb.

FemLit 609 - No space for BDSM?

Most BDSM couples just don’t have the space to add in a dungeon or they’re living in an apartment without another level. Though this might seem like you are limited in the way that you can enjoy your darker desires, this isn’t completely true. When you are limited in the space you have, you simply need to be more creative with using the area around you. This should begin with looking to the areas of your home which you already have – and then using them for a number of BDSM purposes. Your closet is the best place to start. Cleaning Out the Closet - The first thing you need to do is to find a closet which is going to have just enough space for a slave. Ideally, this closet should be in the bedroom where you can easily access the space and even sleep in the bed while your slave is stuck in their small dungeon. Take everything that you can out of the closet and see what space you can utilize. Many of the larger items in your closet can probably be moved elsewhere in order to devote this space to the slave’s new abode. Try to make enough room for the slave to sit down or stand up without being too cramped, though a little bit of a tight fit will only add to their feelings of being trapped and isolated. Some Additions to the Closet Space: Some Masters and Mistresses can afford to purchase a cage which can then be put into the closet. But if you can not or the space doesn’t seem to be big enough, you might want to look into attaching some strong hooks and eyelets to the wall. These will allow you to run rope and other binding materials through, keeping your slave in place until you are ready to handle them. You might also want to cover the walls with blankets or something soft so the slave doesn’t get too cold or they don’t rub against a rough wall – unless you want them to. In addition, including some other sex toys in the space will allow you to easily reach for the butt plugs, vibrators, and other accoutrements you might need. Having blindfolds, gags, ropes, and other equipment hanging on the wall also keeps things out of sight from others in the house. What to Do with a Slave in the Closet: The most common activity for a slave in the closet is to simply be bound or locked up in the area in some way. For some Masters and Mistresses, this is a good way to train a disobedient slave while other owners might simply choose to keep their slave in there as often as possible – to remind them of their place. A slave can be bound up, gagged, and left in this dungeon for short periods of time (remember, it’s never a good idea to leave a trussed up person alone since bondage can go wrong and gags can become deadly). This will cause them to feel altered and to feel like they’re being forgotten by everyone else in the world but their owner. A small lock on the door can add to this excitement and isolation as well. A slave changes when they know there is a small dungeon waiting for them. They begin to rely more heavily on their Master or Mistress as they know what they might face if they are not behaving well. This small dungeon also allows a BDSM couple to see whether a larger dungeon might be a good investment in the future. Always remember never leave a bound person unattended.

FemLit 608 - Nipple Orgasm

No, we’re not pulling your tit; it is possible to have an orgasm from stimulating the nipple alone!

Playing with the nipples stimulates the genital sensory cortex, the same part of the brain that is stimulated when we play with our downstairs department. Although, shorter and sharper than a genital orgasm, nipple orgasms offer greater intensity and supreme sexual sensations. So, we assure you, it won’t take long to get to grips with the idea.

Of course, preferences vary from person to person; what does it for one won’t necessarily do it for another. Some love to have the nipples twisted and bitten, while others find it far too painful.

FemLit 607 - She made me watch

It was one of the most difficult tasks to complete, but one of the most beautiful things I had ever seen... Stripped naked and filled with a plug and a gag. Tied to a chair, I sat at the foot of her bed.

She took off her clothes for him, then dropped to her knees and worshipped his cock. He picked her up, carried her to the bed, laid her face down and looked me square in the eyes as he straddled her thighs and slowly entered her.

The look of esctasy on her face did more for my throbbing cock than the plug wedged firmly in my ass. He wasted no time as he thrust deep inside her and claimed her as his own. All the while, I sat watching from just a few feet away, and wanting nothing more than to be him the moment they both cried out and came.

FemLit 606 - Require Him To Wear Things For You

By requiring him to wear certain things and letting him know that he is doing it for you, to please you or to obey you, it creates that feeling of submission and obedience in his mind when he is putting the item on and wearing it.

Cock rings - These are great visual and physical reminders that he is submissive to you. The fun part of cock rings is that they enhance his erection and make it harder and more sensitive.  If he starts to get aroused during the day because of a random sexual thought, the cock ring has a multiplying effect on that arousal which leads to an erection that is hard to prevent.  Without a cock ring he may be able to suppress his arousal and prevent a full erection.  With a cock ring, this is harder to do.  Additionally, once he is erect with the cock ring, it takes longer for his erection to go away.  The result is that he may end up with several erections and longer lasting erections during the day that he normally would not have. It becomes a self-tease for him.  I also get a laugh knowing that when he is at work or in public, there may times that he can’t get up from his seat because he has an erection.

Ribbon - Have him tie a pretty silk pink ribbon around the base of his cock as a reminder of his submission to you. This does not have the sane physical results as the ring, but it can have a big emotional effect.  For the first time, tie it on him yourself and make sure he understands it is a symbol of your ownership of him and his obedience to you you.  These words and the act of you tying it on him are the little things that have a big mental effect on him. He will remember what you say each time he sees the ribbon and it will excite him.  Emphasize how pretty and cute it looks on him.  The act of putting on the ribbon is an act of submission and obedience and will most likely cause him to be aroused and will probably have a lasting effect on him throughout the rest of the day.  He may also be thinking about it throughout the morning, knowing that he has to do it.  This simple requirement can put your husband in submissive mode all day, all while you are doing your normal daily activities.

Butt Plug - For most men, this one is going to really put him in submissive mode.  He will becomes very submissive, compliant, and a little quieter. You simply can not ignore or forget about a plug in your ass. It is a form of bondage because his body naturally wants to force it out but once it settles in, it goes nowhere and it is not a normal feeling.  Every time he moves, stands up, or sits down, he feels the plug. Sitting can often become uncomfortable, requiring him to shift around a bit.  Anytime there is movement, there is potential for it to stir up his arousal again. The constant feeling of being filled and shifting around, keeps most men in a heightened submissive state-of-mind  The plug can be a challenge to wear all day but it can be done.  However, if your partner has never done it, it may be something to try for shorter periods. You could require him to wear it when he gets home from work and he can remove it when all his chores are done or wear it while you go shopping together, out to dinner, or as part of your nightly routine.

Panties - There is something magical about panties and men. When you order a man to wear them it puts him into submissive mode and makes him docile and obedient. The soft clingy fabric has a much different feel than men’s underwear so it is sure to keep his attention all day.  The embarrassing stigma associated with a man wearing panties can be very exciting and arousing for submissive men. It is a strange dynamic that’s hard to explain. Not all men have the same reaction, but I bet there are more men then we think that get excited by thought of being forced into a pretty pair of panties.  Even men who don’t think this is for them may be surprised at their own reaction if they really were coerced into a nice frilly pair so I say go for it and give it a try.  For the newer panty wearer, having him wear panties under his clothes to work will surely keep him guessing if others know his little secret and can tell if he is wearing panties. It can turn any normal day into quite an adventure for him.  If he already wears panties, this may be a good time to change things up a bit and try something new. Pantyhose, stockings, or a feminine undershirt can all be worn discretely under his clothes.  

FemLit 0605 - Welcoming Her

Have you ever tried to welcome her when she comes home in a way that reflects how much you admire her, and how powerful she is over you? here are a few suggestions for those of you who like doing that, or might be considering the idea:

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learn her schedule, and do your best to adapt to it. she’s your priority, remember that.

show her how happy you are to have her back home - don't’ spare words, and if you missed her, tell her that: say it out loud before her, on your knees. she’ll probably like to know you’ve been missing her badly. 

don’t only greet her, but instead, worship her from the moment she steps inside the house: you can throw yourself at her feet, bow for her, kiss her hands, her feet, beg for her, say how much you missed her and how much you want her. whatever you choose, whatever she likes, whatever you do, remember: make her feel adored and special, from the moment she walks in. 

show her with both words and actions that you’re more than happy to be at her service and obey her every whim if she’d be so kind as to use you; in other words, show her you’re more than happy to be her slave as soon as she gets home, if she’s in the mood for that. explain to her that if she chose to do so, you’d be very happy and that she’d be somewhat doing you a favour, really!

take initiative when greeting her: offer to pick up her bags, purses, etc and put things away; serve her something to drink if she’s thirsty; if she allows you, remove her shoes, and give her a foot massage, etc.

tidy up the house. make sure things are clean and organised when she gets home. (click here for some info & tips on domestic servitude)

surprise her with something nice upon her arrival. for instance, you can buy her flowers to give her when she’s back home. or chocolates, perhaps. alternatively, you could write her a special “welcome” card. maybe you could do all these three things combined, surely she won’t mind, would she? these small gestures can be quite powerful and romantic (to some, even hot!). they are ideal for occasions when you haven’t seen each other for a little while, like a couple of days, due to one of you being too busy with work, or a trip, etc. 

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build up his anticipation for you. tease him, or whisper things to his ears before you leave the house. alternatively, you can text him when you’re out to tell him when he should be expecting you back. if you’re feeling cruel and playful enough you can even send him a photo of your legs and feet followed by a provocative message like “this is where I expect you to be when I get back home” or give him exact instructions of what he should be wearing (or not) and what pose he should be at, when he greets you back home. in other words, build up his anticipation and make him feel excited to be waiting eagerly for you. 

tell him you like it when he greets you like that, or tell him that you’ve been thinking about it. I know, that doesn’t sound like a real tip at all, but trust me sometimes we forget how powerful and hot it can be for a sub to hear these things. so don’t spare words to explain how you’d like to be greeted by your sub upon your arrival at home: let your words become a form of control in itself, making him go over and over them in his mind during your absence, to the point of driving him crazy and make him count down the seconds until you’re back. 

don’t tell him just “how” you’d like to be greeted, by also “why” you want that - make sure he understands how powerful, how pleasant, how nice it is for you to have such a view when you come home. don’t be afraid to tell him whenever you want him as your slave - he’ll love you forever for doing so. 

enjoy the moment and don’t worry about protocols. for instance, if you come home and you find your man, on his knees, telling you he missed you badly, and you end up melting down a little bit to the sight of that and all you want to do is to kiss him all over, then, by all means, allow yourself to do so. don’t limit yourself, after all this is all about you! plus it won’t ruin the moment. you can have a few minutes of intimacy for the two of you, to kiss each other, exchange caresses, etc. you can do these things before you go back to a more playful mood. all you’d have to do is to mark the transition: for instance, you can push him away, and say something like “now, save it for later, darling, when we’re in bed and cuddling; right now, I want you under my control. get back to your knees, and tell me how much you want to be my slave and how much you missed me, starting now.” alternatively, you can also just go straight into a playful mode as soon as you walk in, catching him almost off-guard. it’s all up to you, and your mood on the occasion. 

challenge your sub, push his limits. is he already on his knees, worshipping you, kissing you, telling you how much he missed you? well, take advantage of that to push him harder if you want. you can tell him that’s not enough, that you want more, that you’re not just happy with being wanted and missed but that you want him to be desperately in need of you, that you want him to crave you so badly that he’d be willing to do anything for you (in a safe and consensual way). you could even be a bit cruel to him - chances are, he’ll probably love you even more for that. and it might end up being quite a turn on to do some cruel things to him, and ask him if he still wants you, or if he regrets it, just to find out that he not only doesn’t regret anything but that he wants you even more than before, if that’s even possible. greeting you like that can be a perfect tool then to put him on the right mindset for you, from the beginning. 

FemLit 0604 - Gynarchist future for male slaves

Contraception in Gynarchy.

In spite of all of the progress of modern science, male castration remains the most effective means of contraception and the cheapest. It is indisputable. However, this contraceptive method, because undoubtedly of its final nature and some other minor disadvantages, remains rather little used currently.

Gynarchy will take care to rehabilitate and give to bring back in style this healthy and effective practice of routinely castrating all males in service to Womyn. There is little doubt amongst Womyn of Gynarchy, that the ritual and painful castration of males in public venues where males are publicly and rountinely castrated in front of Gynarchist Womyn as a mere routine event, serves a real lesson to the male and how easy and simply the male is rendered sterile and subservient to the superior Womyn with very little effort using a little cut  here and there to the males scrotum.

As Gynarchy progress, and the natural order of Lesbianism becomes the norm, ,ales will have no need for the ugly egg containing bag between its legs that serves only to poison its brain and defy the true rule of Gynarchy.

FemLit 0603 - Male Genitals and its use

The most important object related to this male slave or creature’s service in slavery is its genitals!

Their extreme sensitivity coupled with what a male thinks his cock and balls are for, forms the very heart of why a male creature in 24/7 slavery must be kept naked!

Slavery forces the creature to live 24/7 with a major two fold reality change:

Its genitals are no longer for its pleasure, but for its pain and service to others!

Their sensitivity, through pain, provides the control tool for its service in slavery!

Being readily exposed they are easily castrated and as slaves are not bred from have no use for functioning balls except for torture.

FemLit 0603 - Castration - Future of all males

Castration undoubtedly fell in disuse because of all the chauvinist taboos surrounding the Female’s pleasure Thus, by giving again a rise to this extraordinarily effective contraceptive method, Womyn of Gynarchy will strive to establish male castration clinics in every major town across the world where Mothers and Owners can bring the young male for a painful and public castration with galleries where Ladies of Gynarchy may have afternoon tea with their Female Lovers and watch the satisfying castration of the young males. Every young Superior Female will be brought to watch their brother or young male be presented and secured open legged in front of them to have the testicles cruelly cut off and displayed before them.

FemLit 0602 - Phases of the male sexual response cycle

The typical male will go through a predictable series of phases after each orgasm. If orgasm is achieved, or permitted, before all the phases complete, the cycle starts again without entering the later phases. The key to effective tease and denial is to recognize each phase and know how to provide the appropriately physical, visual and physiological stimulation in order to motivate the male to maximum productivity or frustration (or both!) depending on the dominant’s goal. It should be noted that age, physical condition and emotional factors can all accelerate or delay the timing of this cycle. Additionally, extenuating factors that are presented later may influence the natural progression through these phases. (Your mileage my vary)

Recovery (0-2 days since orgasm)

The recovery phase starts almost immediately after the male orgasms. In this phase, the male’s natural response to stimulation is minimal; meaning that it takes significant physical and mental encouragement to induce the desire for orgasm again. In this phase, it is only through restraint, significant training or emotional attachment that the dominant can control the male. Ms Rika presents techniques which can help in restoring the male’s service during this period, but how to effectively begin another session of tease and denial so shortly after orgasm? The key is to avoid physical stimulation to begin with.

Remember that sex begins in the mind and there is no more powerful aphrodisiac than the creative use of mental, visual and aromatic stimulations to arouse the male. Use any knowledge of the male’s particular fantasies or fetishes to slowly direct his focus back to sex. Slowly and seductively describe a scene or activity that you know will bring him to his knees. This might take a while, but persistence pays off.

Eventually, if you create the sufficiently exciting mental image, the male will have no choice but to respond. Note that it may be useful to elicit several of his fantasies or fetishes prior to orgasm in order to “use these against him” at this stage. Once the male starts to respond to the verbal incentive, a visual component will enhance the effect. This can be particularly successful if the desired visual was withheld during the tease that led to the previous orgasm. For example, a “breast man” that was denied the direct view of his Mistress’ prominent features will be quite responsive when shown the object of his desire. Only when the male has surrendered to the one-two punch of verbal and visual stimulation by becoming erect, should the physical tease (and or course denial) processes begin again.

Opportunity (1-3 days since orgasm)

A male in this phase is not actively seeking sexual gratification but will not pass up the opportunity if it presents itself. Visual stimulation works best to induce the opportunistic male into a state suitable for tease and denial. A brief glimpse (or more!) of the anatomy the male is most susceptible to will usually cause the desired response. Repeated but random exposure to these visuals, perhaps enhanced with aromatic inducements, will make a quite effective tease. Once the visuals have worked their charms, the application of soft physical teasing will usually provoke the male to the point where denial is practical and appropriate.

Prowl (2-5 days since orgasm)

In this phase, the male will actively seek gratification. An untrained/uncontrolled male will be on the prowl for sexual partners to achieve orgasm. If those attempts are unsuccessful, the male will typically resort to masturbation for relief. Thus, most uncontrolled males never achieve the later phases of the cycle. Only when restrained, either physically or mentally, will the male pass through this barrier into the next phase. Not surprisingly, this is this time period where most males will “cheat” on any sort of chastity regiment. However, it is also much easier to tease and deny a male at this point in the cycle taking almost no effort on the part of the dominant.

Just a few well chosen words will cause the desired reaction. When those words include hints of pleasures that are “just around the corner”, the male will effectively tease and deny himself mentally. Longing for what he imagines was promised and unwilling to forgo those imaginary pleasures for the sake of immediate gratification. Repeating this technique, either verbally or though electronic media, sets a pattern of arousal that will quickly drive a male to the next phase, Frenzy!

Frenzy (4-7 days since orgasm)

As the name implies, a male in the frenzy state can think of little else but satisfying his all consuming need. He will be extremely susceptible to suggestion thus easy to torment. Just the mere presence of the dominant, unaccompanied by any verbal taunting, is sufficient to effectively tease the male. Denial, however, becomes more challenging since even minimal amounts of physical stimulation can lead to a messy conclusion. Also, unless the male has been well trained, physical restraint, psychological barriers or visual monitoring are required to prevent masturbation. Physical restraint can include chastity devices or appropriate forms of bondage. Psychological barriers such as threat of punishment, guilt, disapproval or banishment may also be effective to control the male and enforce self denial.

Ache (7+ days since orgasm)

A male kept in the Frenzy phase without release will eventually pass into the Ache phase. Here, the desire to orgasm reduces to a constant, irrepressible throbbing. Like an itch which cannot be scratched, it is always present with the male wherever he goes. Denial in this phase is much like that of Frenzy, but the risk of masturbation is reduced slightly so the cautions can be relaxed just a bit for a longer term denial. Be warned however; never underestimate the resourcefulness of an aching cock or its owner. It is easy to force the male back to the Frenzy phase by the proper application of teasing.

The length and frequency of this teasing will determine how long the Frenzy phase is maintained before slumping back into the Ache phase once again. A short tease of 5 minutes or so can result in an hour or two of Frenzy. A longer tease, or frequent applications of short teases, can achieve Frenzy lasting a whole day or more!

FemLit 0601 - Queening and it's historical perspective

Queening is, in the sado-masochistic pantheon of arts, the use of the male face, mouth, and nose and tongue, as a substitute for sexual intercourse and masturbation, by the dominant woman.

It places the man in the most slavish, subservient position, under the woman’s buttocks and crotch. She sits on his face, or has his head trapped between her thighs. The whole event is devoted to her pleasure, her orgasms, and her time schedule. The man’s pleasure or pain, satisfaction or frustration, desires or fears are of little importance, if any. The woman’s clitoris, vulva, labia and vagina demand service.

This thrilling, delicious sexual practice has an ancient and traditional history. Ladies of medieval households often had pages provide them with mouth, lip and tongue service under their skirts while their husband were absent, thus remaining, technically faithful. Many a young boy had his first lessons in. sex with his head under Madame’s backside, with her quim vigorously riding his face. Many young girls still virgins, enjoyed orgasms on a male servant’s mouths as the earliest sexual experiences. In ancient Chinese courts one long tongued, trained male slave was used by female royalty and court ladies as casually as if they were going to the lavatory. The slave would be summoned, face-fucked then dismissed casually and serenely. In old Japan, brothels would provide male victims for such use by visiting, paying women and girls.

Mouth and tongue sexual service to the female genitals is ‘cunnilingus’ or ‘cunnilinctus’ literally cunt licking/ sucking. Queening properly places the woman on top of the male face, using it ruthlessly and selfishly. The lady commands, the man obeys. Having the male slave erect, frustrated and unsatisfied adds to the sadistic pleasures enjoyed by the woman. In ancient Persia, cleverly constructed chairs were known as man face stools with the male face replacing the seat centre. Ladies could lift their skirts, sit down, cover the scenario with those skirts, and with gentle rhythmic, firm hip and buttock movements enjoy private little orgasms even when others were present. Old Indian pornographic graffiti depicts scenes like that, with gowned girls, obviously in ecstasy, riding a male face while gazing at an enormous male erection.

In more recent, Western times governesses and nannies have been recorded as teaching their young male charges just how to please their crotches with their tongues. Many a frightened, cowed Georgian or Victorian boy knew intimately the underside of Madame’s skirts and felt the vice-like grip of her gartered thighs round his head. Masquerading as a punishment and usually followed or preceded by a whipping, the queening would take place in conditions of discipline and severity. The curt command, the superior, unsmiling demand would be followed by a rustling lifting of black, voluminous skirts, the stripping off of Madame’s panties and the heavy, fleshy hot damp descent of her buttocks and crotch onto the boy’s face. Heaven help him if Madame did not orgasm satisfactorily. A savage whipping would follow.

Even down in the servant’s quarters, the youngest male servant would find his head trapped under housemaids’ skirts. Cruelty seems to have been part and parcel of queening procedures in olden times.

‘Queening’ by definition, requires a dominant, demanding woman and a subservient, obedient man. The woman must be concerned only with her personal pleasure and satisfaction. His mouth, lips, tongue and nose are merely live tools there to pleasure her labia, clitoris, vulva and vaginal passage. He must be trained, if necessary by painful punishment, in the proper use of his facial features. She must gain the maximum delight and orgasmic satisfaction without concerning herself with her victim’s possible distress, humiliation and discomfort. He is nothing more than a sexual toy or playing, as of no more importance than her lavatory pan, her sanitary towels, her dildo, her handkerchief, her lavatory paper, her condoms or contraception pills, or her vaginal douche - all quite necessary to her private sexual and private well being, but all useable and disposable.

The choice of type of slave is up to her. She may wish to have a wimpish male twit under her backside and quim. She may find more delight in subduing a macho strong male. She may have a cuckolded husband to humiliate, taunt and sit on. She may have developed her talents as a schoolgirl, together with her girlfriends, taking the school wimp into the girls’ lavatory and taking turns in squatting on his face. She may have gained experience by dominating a younger brother, riding his face selfishly while their parents were asleep or away from home.

Some women like to have a mouth-dildo attached to their slave’s head, sticking up from his open mouth as a rideable accessory. This provides pleasant, full, vaginal passage orgasms, but prevents sucking and licking by the male victim. Other women blindfold their prone slaves, thus deleting any possible visual pleasure they might obtain. A few cruel ladies inevitably urinate on to his face after having orgasmed. Others enjoy demanding mouth service right after enjoying satisfactory adultery with a lover, thus making the victim more humiliated. Most talented queening ladies humiliate, taunt, torment, degrade and tease their victims before and after this enforced cunnilingus.

It is essential that the male slave is more than intimate with those parts of a woman’s body which require servicing by his tongue, lips and nose. Kneeling astride his face, with his eyes very close to her cunt, is a pleasant torment. He is able to see and fear each part of her sexual equipment, staring right up into her vaginal passage and memorising her clitoris, labia and vulva. Using her fingers to stretch her labia she is able to insist that he looks and learns. He must also examine her anus ;with respect, in case she decides to have his nose inserted into it.

She must teach him the way to kiss, lick and suck her sexually, with particular attention to her clitoris. He must suck and swallow her sex juices. To add a special thrill to her pleasure, she must make him afraid of her. He must be in awe of her. He must adore her. He must give her respect, and recognise her superiority. He must worship her genitals. They are his goddess, his fate, his destiny. His life is less important than a single orgasm enjoyed by her.

Riding the male face requires careful, skilful experience, as much as is required in learning to ride a horse. The hip and buttocks movements are the key to success. The careful placing of the cunt on the mouth or nose is, of course, essential, and might require some wriggling adjustment until the male’s service parts are properly positioned. It may be that the lady wishes to have his nose against her anal rose while his mouth serves her quim. She will, of course, be as rough and savage as she wishes at the moment she comes. At that moment she must not care in the least if he suffocates, or chokes. After satisfaction she can relax, still sitting on his face and enjoy a cigarette or a glass of wine. When she dismounts she will casually ignore the fool, dismissing him abruptly, sending him off to continue his housework, followed by taunts and insults. Perhaps she will lend him to the girlfriends!

The complete, perfect, mature woman always has two men in her life, one to fuck her normally the other to be queened by her, as her slave.