anyone else think it is fucked up that ppl who accumulate health problems from gaining believe they no longer are a part of this community….. like the ‘oh you’re not gaining anymore? You’re worthless to me’ sentiment has to fucking go.

I understand taking breaks, of course and always, but you still belong here. You deserve to be here as much as that other gainer who is 500+ and eating four large pizzas for a snack or whatever.

I am so filled with pride and love every time I see people in this community (and others who pass by it) engaging with their internal biases surrounding weight, fat, health, nutrition, etc. It is very encouraging to me to see people looking into the racial implications of fatphobia, the sexist, patriarchal, puritanical, and frankly p*edophilic nature of the size 0, never indulging, weak and waiflike beauty standards and the power struggles they reflect. I am so proud of men who allow themselves to be soft. Women who take up space. Queer people growing into their wildest dreams. Poc living for themselves and prioritizing pleasure. Disabled people indulging without stigma. The large population of feedists recovering from EDs who are learning to love food, to love life, and to be happy to be heavy.

I love u feedists 🫶

Clothes for big and growing bodies?

Hi all!

I am hoping to make a list of clothing brands that accommodate big and growing bodies.

Please comment/reblog with your favorites.

I love the sweet and fluffy parts of feedism/wg kinks

Stuffing aftercare - belly rubs, cuddling, etc.

Being spooned with a warm soft belly on your back

Seeing their excited / appreciative face when you bring them their favorite foods

So. Many. Soft. Parts.

Being able to help them with tasks they cannot do due to their size

The sleepy cuddles that comes after eating

Bringing them surprise treats

Showing them you love the body that the majority of society does not

SFW Positive Feedism Questions:

I made these for a more soft feedism approach! Reblog and see what asks you get in your inbox.

Are you a gainer, admirer, or both?

Sweet or savory foods as a preference?

What weird food combinations do you really enjoy?

Favorite nonsexual thing about feedism?

Burping is cute: yay or nay?

Describe your perfect date.

Stuffing/feeding at home or in public?

Something you think all big people should hear is ___.

If you had an endless supply of any food, what would you choose?

Best piece of advice for new gainers would be___.

The scale: important to you or just a number?

Where would you rather the fat to go, to the belly or the butt?

When cuddling, do you like being the big spoon or little spoon?

Favorite piece of clothing to outgrow/watch someone outgrow?

If you owned a restaurant, what kind of food would it serve?

Favorite type of food?

How would you deal with family and friend's comments about you or your partner's weight?

Country you'd most like to take a food tour of?

What do you typically have for a midnight snack?

What was the best meal you have ever had?

I like kink. Love it, actually. But I'm still more than that. We all are. Treat people like people, not like their kinks.

Like. The idea that, I’m gonna eat food I enjoy, and get fat, and enjoy getting fat, should not be a controversial thing.

The fact that it is tells me that it is essential to get fat, exist, be happy, and make people feel uncomfortable. Only by working through that discomfort will people begin to see what body autonomy and fat acceptance actually looks like.

hot take: the feedism community would be improved SO MUCH if everyone just read a LITTLE bit of writing about the politics of fat. just a bit. a few articles. understand how fat people are treated and harmed by society,  p l e a s e

it literally HAS to be okay to choose to be fat in order for fat liberation to mean anything at all tbh

Normalize being a feedee/gainer and deciding to take a break, pull back, or step away altogether for your own needs and health.

This isn't like other kinks. Most of us don't get to put the toys away and go about our daily life. We carry the results with us. It affects our appearance, our mobility, our finances, the way people treat us, and if you're not 100% down with any part of it, even for a moment, it's okay to take a break and re-evaluate. And don't let anyone - fellow feedees, feeders, FA's, or random anons - try to push on you their ideals as though they know what's best for the entire community or tell you how you should live your life as though a blanket statement could even hope to define us as a whole. 'Cause at the end of the day, this is just a kink. Unless you CHOOSE to make it your lifestyle, it is perfectly okay to separate this kink from your every day life and prioritize the things that matter to you, and you don't owe a single person a reason why.

This goes for everyone who doesn't fit the boxes some members of this community would try to place you in. No matter your story, where you are and where you decide to go, you're valid as fuck and this weirdo loves you.

The beautiful thing as you get older is that you realize so many “rules” are made up and you can just do whatever. Posters can go anywhere in the house not just my room. I can sit down while cooking a meal or taking a shower. I can make the same thing for breakfast lunch dinner for a week straight. I can roam around the house shirtless. I can wear a dress with jeans. The world is my oyster key word my and I can live as I please embracing little things such as this

When a belly gets to a certain size, I feel like it gets to be it's own thing, yes it is attached to your body and it is part of you, but my feeder/fa instinct has the need to take care of it, pamper it, (over)feed it and kiss it, yes it is your belly, but now it is my duty to love it and cherish it as much as I love you.

And yes, your belly is just gonna grow bigger from now on with all my attention on it, but don't worry, so the rest of you. The more to love, the better 💖

i don't actually give a fuck whether fatness is an indicator of health because health shouldn't indicate a moral high ground. being healthy isn't some pinnacle of human achievement, it's not morally superior. and being unhealthy isn't a moral failing and shouldn't mean you're less worthy of kindness, justice, and a good life. signed, a chronically ill person who will never be "healthy" at any weight.

It’s not ‘extra’ weight; it’s the weight that was always meant to be there. A presence instead of an absence. Wanting has settled into satisfaction. None of this is excess – this is how it’s supposed to be. Getting to enjoy the space occupied by a body that reflects the mind has finally brought a long-awaited contentment and peace. ‘Fat and happy’ has never felt truer than right now.

i would honestly be a feedist in any life bc my love of weight gain is specifically primarily motivated by the inherent beauty of fatness, yanno what i mean?

One of the biggest traps in feedism is that stuffing to your limit still feels good once you’ve reached your target weight.

It’s SO much easier to say “just 10 more pounds” than to stop.

But, let’s be honest, we all love that part, don’t we?

Please, please be considerate of your fat friends' needs and limitations. Fat bodies are heavy to carry around. I move about the world slower than my thin peers, and I've often had to choose between pushing myself to keep a pace that takes absolutely all my energy, or being left behind, when walking in a group. I don't always feel safe to ask that everyone walk slower, because there's a prevalent idea in society that fat people need to exert themselves as much as possible at all times in the service of weight loss, and that we never "really" need rest, therefore it's a good thing whenever we're exhausted. Fat people and thin people alike are taught that fatness is a flaw, one that fat people ourselves are to blame for, so we're not entitled to any accommodation or consideration. A friend of mine who is fat recently told me about a dinner party she went to where the chairs were far too small for her and she was sitting very uncomfortably. After the meal she politely suggested moving the party to the couch, but the others didn't want to. She spent another couple of hours in unnecessary pain, and didn't dare tell them about it. I love my thin friends, but some of them just don't realize that I weigh probably twice as much as them, and yet I balance it all on the same size feet and carry it on about the same size bones. I'm like if they had a whole other them to carry around at all times. Why would that not have an impact on how I function? Please - take us into consideration when we're part of activities. Ask us which activities work and which don't. Adjust the pace so no one has to be dry heaving and sweating barrels on what's supposed to be a casual walk. Make sure venues have seating that fits us. Make it safe for us to speak up if we need something. When we do, don't treat us like we're the problem. Finally: yes, we have heard of losing weight. Even those of us who might (and many never will, whether you like it or not), won't do it on a moment's notice. If your response to "fat people deserve accommodations" is "what if they weren't fat though", you're playing a fantasy game. It's pointless. We are fat and we are here and we do partake in society. Work with that.