I think it's hilariously morbid when doctors recommend exercise to me because I'll sit there and ask them how do I do exercise when I'm too busy trying to live independently (keep house) and disabled

Like I'm not wasting my spoons on empty energy sucking waste that doesn't do anything. I need my energy for things like chores, eating, showering, socializing (the little I fucking manage).

And on my bad days a lot of that goes and hits the wayside anyway. Like? I'm not wasting spoons on exercise when I have more important things I need those spoons for, okay.

Shout-out this stranger met for while recent, who saw we were AAC user and for whole time:

• made sure we not talked over in conversation

• stopped others from skip over us, and didn’t let them rush us either

• said any words AAC was say wrong verbally for us after we express frustration with that

• didn’t touch our device once or look at screen while using AAC (they were only person who didn’t)

• made sure we comfortable and accommodated whole time was with them

And don’t think any this was even big deal to them. This was first time they even saw AAC, but they still made sure were accommodated for it. Don’t think they realize how much meant to us, and it meant everything to us. To be include and supported so much by total stranger who we would never see again.

Gave us lot hope. Fact that there people like that out there. And wanted put all thoughts that couldn’t put into words when with person here.

Want other AAC users know that there people like that out there, and that there hope.

Your feelings matter.

My book, Quiet Girl in a Noisy World, is out now: http://debbietung.com/books

Hey that person w NPD isn't showing symptoms and npd behavioral patterns for fun by the way. Just in case like, for some reason you didn't know that.

A woman came into my work a little while ago loudly complaining about her (perfectly well-behaved) son, saying how he was ten years old and didn't know how to listen, and I nodded along like "yeah I totally remember being that age", and she looks at me and goes, "no, seriously, he's Autistic," and I spread my arms and go, "Hey, same! Twinsies!"

And this woman's eyes. My God, it was beautiful. She goes, "Really? And they let you WORK here?"

And then she turns back to her kid to nag at him and over her shoulder little dude and and I make what I can only describe as the purest form of eye contact I have ever experienced in my life

Narcissism and NPD may not be the same thing, but the terms and their histories are so similar and intertwined that they are inseparable. With that respect, you cannot in good faith separate the term narcissist from NPD and use terminology like "narcissistic abuse".

Additionally, anyone acting in good faith to the NPD community will not use the term "narcissistic abuse" BECAUSE of the horrific ableist history of the term and the ableist ways it is being used now.

I, as someone who has NPD and ASPD, will never trust someone who claims to support people with NPD while using the term "narcissistic abuse" because I can guarantee that as soon as we show symptoms they don't like they'll call us abusers.

in case anyone needs to hear this tonight, your physical or mental suffering is not because god is punishing you, it’s not because you are a bad person or have done bad things, it’s not a test. health is not tied to the divine, morals are not even tied to the divine. if you need further proof of this, look at all the truly evil people in this world who are healthy and doing wonderfully. look at the genuinely good people in life who are afflicted by poor health, children who get terminal diseases.

being taught otherwise is religious abuse and predation. what unhealthy people need are resources, medicine, care—not a sermon.

If your view of the future is that people who are disabled, addicts, or poor should be punished or eradicated for being such, you're not allowed to call yourself "punk" or "anarchist". You're pretty much a centrist borrowing both left and right talking points when it benefits you.

Not sure who needs to see this, but if a Service Dog starts backing into you, pushing you away from their handler, or they sit down at a leash distance from their handler

You Should Move Away.

They are performing a task known as "spacing" or "blocking" that helps reduce or prevent anxiety in their handler.

They are NOT "asking for pets" or being disobedient or asking to be spoken to. All you have to do is stay back from the dog and handler.

This is not a capslock PSA because I'm not sure how many people that don't have a SD actually know this is a trained task.

you can always give your blorbos mobility aids btw . you can always make them disabled its always morally correct

me when the disorder that I have that is literally a disability makes me unable to do certain things

how the world feels about cluster b

bpd: need me a bpd girl ahah mood swings hahaha crazy girls with daddy issues

npd: a narcissist is anyone who is mean to me ever and i sense them with my Empath Eyes

aspd: exclusively serial killers and psychopaths, they are so evil and terrible

hpd: what the fuck is that

when i say “life is such a pain,” i don’t mean it in a nondisabled ‘something unfortunate’ happened way but in i am disabled and i am in so much pain.

Once my boyfriend told me: "You're not a burden. A burden is something you're forced to carry against your will. I freely choose to be a part of your life and that means you aren't a burden to me." I'm passing it on in case some of you need to be reminded of that.

i’m thinking about sick4sick friendships i’m thinking about keeping spare meds in my bag to share with my buddies. my partner offering me their cane when i can’t smuggle my own out the house.

im thinking about sick4sick with strangers. sharing advice. the grin when you have the same canes. complimenting cool mobility aids.

i’m thinking about hand me down knee braces and joint straps my dad gives to me. passing them on like heirlooms.

im thinking about the solidarity in pain and how beautiful it can be

shoutout to people who don't have a "before" the trauma.

shoutout to people who don't have any sweet or nostalgic childhood memories. to people who don't remember enough of their childhood to know what the before was like. to people who lost their innocence before they ever learned the word for it. to people whose pasts were too painful to keep around in any form. to people who only knew trauma, and don't have an idea of what life would be like without it. to people who can't long for "the better days" because there weren't any.

you deserve a good future. i hope it's there for you soon.