All three of our boyfriends are systems. I win. I'm so good at polyamory I'm going to get a good grade in it

Systems do you prefer dating singlets or having partner systems? Why?

Bonus question:

Do you prefer polygamy or monogamy? Why?

plural culture is being a little tired of being called our body's name, because it isn't my name...

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appreciation post for the systems who

don't care ab being in system communities and don't interact with other systems.

need validation from system communities and interact lots with other systems.

systems who are neutral about the system community

systems who are actively trying to make the system community better

systems who switch between these points

The DID/OSDD and RAMCOA communities desperately need to re-acquaint themselves with Internet safety protocol. Hell, most young people on the Internet these days need to do better at keeping themselves and their personal information safe.

No one on the Internet is entitled to know anything about you. No one. Please be safe out there.

one of my least favourite cdd moments is when everything feels Wrong. you're acting Wrong. your emotions are Wrong. even your own thoughts feel Wrong. Wrong Wrong Wrong.

“Don’t let your disorder define you”

Okay but do you support the people whose disorders do define them?

Do you support people with the chronic illnesses who have had to develop whole lives around their conditions? Do you support the intellectually disabled people whose whole way of thinking is defined by their disorder? Do you support the people with personality disorders who literally have a disorder as a personality? Do you support the autism/ADHD people whose disorder you can’t separate from who they are? Do you support the DIDOSDD people who have multiple definitions of themselves because of their disorder?

Or are you just saying that because a disorder defining someone means you can’t ignore it.

4 Types of subsystems

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Type 1: The typical representation and most agreed definition of a subsystem, where there are more alters inside one of them.

Type 2: A group of alters that can come and go to specific places that the majority could not, this can also apply to clarity in communication too.

Type 3: A group of splitted alters that came from the same one, because they have the same origin thus can have similarities or sense of connection.

Type 4: A group of alters that does not come from the same origin, but formed as a subsystem due to similarities, or connection, or any other classification such as roles, or source, or literally anything else.

EDIT: detailed post on explaining these four types right here. Updated on 19 feb

- j

Why the fuck do people on r/syscringe think the brain just,,,stops making alters at 150. Like babes the brain doesn't give a shit about your lil websites the brain needs a coping mechanism

I hate when DID is horrible and awful but also funny but you cant talk about it being awful because then you're attention seeking and you cant talk about the good times because then you're romanticizing a disorder and if you talk about it at all you're faking and AHHHHHHHHH

ARE WE ALLOWED TO JUST BE A PERSON ON THE INTERNET COPING FOR FUCKS SAKE

plural culture is "..is that who i think it is?? was that just me or did anybody else feel someone there just now"

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just system things…

when your family is looking through old photos together and you dissociate *so* heavily bc that wasn’t *you*, that was a previous version of you, and they are locked away deep inside, and you have no or only vague memory of ever existing in that state

anyways. hazy now

-big dipper

Stoner pDID plural culture is getting way too fucking high and going through a process we call "alter roulette", where we start rapid switching like we're a roulette wheel. Pretty disorienting.

We do this every other night and it sucks but it's also validating honestly

Just so we're clear.

Fictives are not a sign of faking.

Quiet/Loud switches are not a sign of faking.

Large systems are not a sign of faking.

Switching a lot is not a sign of faking.

Not switching much is not a sign of faking.

Emotional amnesia is still amnesia.

Don't force people to address trauma they may not even remember.

Don't force people to remember trauma.

Childhood traumas don't have to be what an adult would consider extreme. Kids are a lot more sensitive to stimuli and cruelty.

And some systems have done fucked up shit in their childhoods, it's not their fault they had to survive.

Be kind, people need it.

Sometimes blurry means there's too many near front to figure out who is in control

Somtimes blurry means we don't feel like anyone at all

Sometimes blurry means we're someone, but they're new or unknown so we can't tell

Sometimes blurry means there's a mix of a few of us and it's easier to just say we're blurry

Sometimes blurry means we're so dissociated we can't process who we are at all

i feel like we don’t always talk about the smaller ways that having a dissociative disorder (and not being “out” about it) can really disable a person— i’m in a choir, and idk how to explain to the musical director that SOMETIMES i am a soprano and have no trouble hitting high notes while other times i feel like i physically cannot sing that high. or how sometimes my guitar feels like an extension of my body but sometimes i don’t even remember how i’m supposed to hold it properly. or in art therapy when i only sometimes have access to my adult level of artistic skill while sometimes i have the skill level of a five year old. my dissociative disorder very much disables me, and this is something i don’t see people talking about outside of the ways that PTSD disables those with dissociative disorders. what i mean is that sometimes i do not have the ability to do very basic tasks. dissociative disorders are developmental disorders, and i am very much developmentally disabled much of the time.

i don’t plan on ever being publicly out about my dissociative disorder in a non anonymous setting. i have a hard time even talking about my parts in therapy even to the clinician that diagnosed me with DID. it feels unbearably vulnerable and not safe to tell people about my parts. i feel like we’re seeing more and more people on tik tok start talking publicly about their DID, and while that may be very helpful for them, i honestly can’t imagine ever being fully out with it like that. keeping it secret is what has kept me safe, it is how i survived the last twenty years of my life. my experience with DID also does not line up with most of the DID content i’ve seen online— and i don’t mean this to invalidate those whose experiences are different than mine, it’s just that it can feel really lonely and isolating to have a dissociative disorder that doesn’t fit with the worlds preconceived image of what a dissociative disorder looks like. this is part of why i typically just say that i have dissociative disorder instead of DID.

tldr: dissociative disorders can really impair basic functioning and i feel like people forget that when they focus so much on the parts of DID that are more sensationalized in the media.

[Text: This C-DID system uses the terms alters, fragments, and parts]

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