no offense but have you even been working out

…3 to 4 times a week

Fitness journey update: it is not going well

I was ordering some bra strap extenders and the product description really said “great for pregnancy, maternity…and weight gain :D” like Amazon please get out of my business

Got a haircut! Hope you all are having a beautiful Sunday 🩶

it literally HAS to be okay to choose to be fat in order for fat liberation to mean anything at all tbh

In Defense of Feedism

I was absolutely struck when I read  @fatliberation‘s beautiful, vulnerable post the other day. They always have brilliant ideas and they show unfailing grace and kindness to everyone, despite a ton of rude, ill-informed backlash (I would 100% recommend following them). 

I can’t stop thinking about the reactions to that post and how incredibly strange it is to have to tiptoe around feedism (to use an umbrella term) in a movement that is supposed to be centered around ending the oppression of fat people. 

I can understand why fat people who are not feedists would be weary or even repulsed by this kink. From the outside it may seem degrading and manipulative that the language and insults used against fat people are replicated in the bedroom. It is also harmful to be fetishized when you do not want to be fetishized, both in real life and online. 

But these are the only points I’ve heard against feedism that I consider to be a legitimate argument in the discourse of fat liberation, as these are the only claims against feedism I’ve come across that are not based in fatphobia. If you are in favor of fat liberation, then you must see fatness as morally neutral. Therefore, the choice to gain weight is not inherently “good” or “bad,” but is instead a matter of autonomy– a right that should be granted to everyone, regardless of size. 

The major issue with feedism is the same issue that permeates all kink and, by extension, all sexuality: consent. There are feedists, particularly feeders, who fetishize all fat people, regardless of their wishes; feedists who try to force fat people to participate in kink with or without their knowledge or permission. This is abhorrent behavior; there are no excuses for it. But the problem here is a violation of consent and not the kink itself. The unethical practice of kink does not make the kink unethical. And while feedees are often disregarded in discussions of feedism and fat liberation (which I have already talked about in depth here), there are most assuredly fat feedees, like myself, who are fully consenting to fat fetish play. 

While I can only speak for myself, I know that I am not the only person who developed this kink because of weight-related trauma. When you grow up fat, when you are forced to go to Weight Watchers at seven years old, your brain comes to associate fat as taboo and taboo as sexy–but it goes beyond an attraction to something risky or frowned upon. 

I live my life as a fat woman; I am fat at the doctor’s office and fat in tiny airplane seats and I am especially fat as a feedee. No matter if I’m engaging with my kink or not, I am fat and I don’t get to stop being fat outside of my bedroom. Out of all of the scenarios where I am existing in my fat body, engaging in kink play is the only one where I am experiencing pleasure because of my body, not despite it. It’s arousing to be praised for the thing that once made you hate yourself. It’s arousing to engage with something you fear or that has harmed you in a safe, controlled context where you have all the power to make it stop. 

What anti-feedist fat liberationists need to understand is that feedism is, at its core, a resistance to fatphobia. When you see things that are typically fatphobic in feedist play– terms like “pig,” “cow,” “tubby,” etc. and comments about being “out of shape” or “ruined” by fat– it is not a replication of weight stigma, but a subversion of it. Feedism takes the harmful stereotypes of fatness and robs them of their power by putting them in a new context; a context where fatness is so desirable that feedists want more of it. By using the language and misconceptions of fatness to give and receive pleasure instead of to oppress, feedism not only creates a safe space to heal from fatphobic trauma, but it empowers fatness– it empowers fat people, which is supposed to be the goal of fat liberation.

your belly has never been so round, I’m in awe

it's bc that's where the love is stored (and the doordash)

delly dearest u didnf lose weight bcs it’s been 8 days 😭 cut urself some slack

...okay SO true

Update: I have not lost weight but I did start eating more vegetables

So if we’re being honest here, I am starting a new exercise and dietary routine and trying to lose a lil weight

So if we’re being honest here, I am starting a new exercise and dietary routine and trying to lose a lil weight

Long time no gifs

Can we get a little commotion for me hittin 200

My chik fil a dinner finally pushed me over the edge

My chik fil a dinner finally pushed me over the edge

282 lbs already? You’re so pathetically greedy that you’ve more doubled your size in practically no time at all. There is absolutely no chance you’ll ever be thin again. Someone that gluttonous whose willpower is broken that easily basically seals your fate as a fat pig.

And to think that just a year and a half ago you had the facade of someone with a modicum of self-control. You know, a normal person can’t even fathom being hedonistic enough to gain 167 fucking pounds in such a short amount of time. There is no doubt that people see you in public and think of you as a slovenly hog. Congratulations, you ate yourself so fucking fat everyone expects you to be gluttonous, slobby, and lazy. Might as well get comfortable.

August 2023 - January 2024 - March 2024

How much longer until the buttons pop off? 👀

For polling reasons. How did you meet your feeder, and is an explosion of your waistline expected for 2024?

I'll assume you mean my partner - we met through feabie a while ago and coincidentally crossed paths irl at some point, which led to us falling in love, dating and exploring this kink together 🥰

Also I hope so, can't wait to officially become the obese girl and outgrow my current wardrobe 🐷❤️

I really need a larger mirror to take fat pictures in soon too..