Remember folks the solution to amatonormativity isn't to replace one type of expectation (romantic love) with another, slightly less restrictive but still restrictive expectation (every other form of love) but to erase the expectation altogether and let people be

It is true that (some) aros can still love but not all of them, and aros shouldn't have to make up for their lack of romantic attraction/love by feeling other types of attraction/love stronger. Love should not be a requirement to be treated as people

welp I just saw one of those "love is the whole point and if you think that phrase only refers to romantic love that's a you problem" posts on my dash so

Loveless people, you're rad as fuck and I have so much respect for you.

People have different priorities and even people who do feel love might not experience it as "the whole point."

Usually, people do mean "romantic love" by "love" because of amatonormativity. Aros getting defensive about that is not an attack on you but a reflection of the cultural implications surrounding the word "love."

"Love" is a social construct (based in an amatonormative and ableist society) that means different things to different people.

"Love" is not inherently a force of good and can be used to hurt people, just like anything else.

Love is not "the whole point" to me or many other people.

Love is not required to be human. Love is not a requirement. Love is not inherent to relationships or orientation. Love is not the epitome of all human interaction. Love does not determine your worth.

Love is neutral. Love is not universal. Love can be rejected. You don't have to have love if you don't want to.

loveless people. You agree. Reblog

“It was something adults said all the time. “You'll change your mind when you're older. You never know what might happen. You'll feel differently one day.” As if we teenagers knew so little about ourselves that we could wake up one day a completely different person. As if the person we are right now doesn't matter at all.”

- Loveless, Alice Oseman (2020)

enough stories about how someone learns to truely be happy through love. i want a story where someone is desperately seeking out love thinking it's the only way to be happy only for them to learn by the end that happiness is what they make of it and they don't need love at all to make it.

reblog if you support loveless people and aplatonics

Sorry to all the A's I couldn't fit on here!

i want a best friend. someone who's also aroace, and we could live together in a two bedroom apartment and adopt a cat. and life would be easier because i'd have someone to split the bills and the chores with.

we could do stuff together like go to the movies or try new restaurants, but i wouldnt feel overwhelmed because they'd also let me have my personal space.

is it really too much to ask?

Submitted February 18, 2023

im such a slut for friendship

Don't you just love it when it's the middle of the night and that aromantic loneliness hits you in the face because once again you're thinking about the fact that society values romantic relationships way more than platonic ones and that you'll never be as important to your friends as they are to you because romantic relationships are the most valuable thing in the world and platonic ones will almost always be overlooked, left in second place, sometimes even forgotten?

Another day another slay reminder that platonic friendships are as good as romantic relationships. At the end of the day, you just need someone who loves you and sticks with you. It can be a friend, or a lover. <33

Shout out to the non-partnering people out there who want to spend their lives with a friend and live with them without it being a QPR or partnership of any kind.

I've always loved my friends immensely, I've always put so much effort into my friendships that I've never felt the need for a romantic partner. I've always wanted to have a special bond tho, I want to be someone's first choice "I would look for you in a room full of people".

Now I'm so jealous of those friends who are in a relationship two in particular, because, if you find all this time for them, why can't you find it for me? I'm aware of my delusion, I know they don't consider me as important as their partner, but I swear I would drop anything for you, as you are the love of my life, even if we just sit in silence and you don't think of me as often as I think of you, I would peel thousands of oranges for you, even though I'm allergic.

It’s always “I want a partner” this “I wanna f*ck” that. Bro I just wanna have picnic with my friends 😭

Friends with benefits? Yes. The benefit is I have a friend.