i have svsss squick about modern au fics where sqh for whatever reason calls modern mobei jun 'my king' it makes me shiver in embarassment, especially when sqh is consciously writing a character based on him and it 'slips out' JSHJSJS I HATE THAT. I BONK THAT. it's a real turn off, and sometimes it doesnt happen the whole fic but it ends nsfw and it happens there. i legit nope out. i cant. im sorry. i think that's what the young kids call 'cringe'

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I want Shen Qingqiu to impregnate Luo Binghe, I think pregnant Luo Binghe would be so hot.

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what taxian-jun did to chu wanning in the 0.5 timeline was nonconsensual for him as well. he would've never done that if he hadn't been controlled and turned into the worst possible version of himself. it's like being under the influence of drugs or alcohol yet even worse. the fact that he was the aggressor doesn't change this

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Sometimes I wake up and think to myself ''am I gay because I like danmei or do I like danmei because I'm gay?'' and to this day I still don't know which one it is

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i like shen jiu because i think he's a great depiction of how sometimes trauma doesn't result into people piecing themselves up and learning to be kind, and how sometimes you're just left with sharp glass fragile shards that cut everything, and you use that razor edge to keep everyone away.

shen jiu was traumatised, and it made him angry and mean and abusive and hurtful, not kind, which is genuinely one of the only such depictions i've ever seen. the other one was snape, which was just straight up ruined by jkr's bigot ass' need to shove romance in everything.

and also yue qingyuan is one of my dearest blorbo where i take an angst hammer to his head whenever something i don't like happens to me. like, look at him. that baby can fit so much anxiety and keep fake-smiling, just like me

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Not a confession, but maybe a suggestion for the mods to improve quality of life on this blog: it seems like a lot of people are using your inbox as a proxy so that they can argue with each other anonymously. A lot of recent posts aren’t really confessions but instead seem to be attempts at debate. It might be a good idea to make a policy of not publishing responses to confessions, that way the entire blog isn’t filled with people using the anon posting to argue with each other and wank about an individual confession is forced to stay in that post’s notes instead of blowing up like this. That way the posts are actual confessions, and discussions can be carried out in the notes, and if people still want anonymity they can always just make a throwaway sideblog and reblog or reply on that since sideblogs can reply now. I’m just suggesting this because tbh it seems like this sort of thing is probably way too stressful for you mods who just wanted to do a confession blog and probably didn’t sign up for moderating debates.

I've spoken with Mod Huanggua about this idea, and we agree that it's a good policy.

In the future, we will not be posting asks that are responses to other confessions from this blog. If you want to fight with each other, do so in the notes of a post. While it's inevitable that there will be wank on a blog like this, that's not all we mods want this blog to be about.

-Mod Feiji

Some of you think that being a slaver and a child abuser is better than being a child abuser I can't with you all 🤡

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https://www.tumblr.com/danmei-confessions/740722313670033408/i-honestly-havent-been-in-the-svsss-fandom-for?source=share

"I haven't read SV but"

Then that makes your opinion invalid

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I honestly haven't been in the SVSSS fandom for very long but the way that some SJ fans talk about the character disturbs me, especially when they try to downplay his abusive actions or deny them. I've had disgruntled fans come onto posts I've made regarding the character's (canonical) abusive traits, claiming that I'm attacking them or just hate the character (which is not true, SJ as both victim and abuser is just an important part of his character, and it makes me really uncomfortable when vocal sections of the fandom say that SJ actually didn't abuse LBH, or that it wasn't that bad, because any abuse is "that bad" and the "it wasn't that bad compared to other things" argument gets used to discount survivors irl).

From my experience in fandom, I hadn't seen anything to the contrary so far-- SJ fans I've argued with on my posts like to demonize LBH and even characters like YQY and SY to extreme degrees, or to claim that I'm a LBH/LBG apologist because I point out that he was abused by SJ so his desire for revenge is justified... even though I never claimed that LBG was right for what he did and yes-- LBG's actions were worse than SJ's! Just as SJ's were worse than QJL's-- if we are looking at sheer scale of the actions and their affects, nothing to do with quality or morality of a person or whatever. Even writing off everything SJ did before coming to CQM because of being under duress, he still viciously abused LBH for around 5-7 years, while QJL only abused SJ for 3 years, so like it or not, there was more abuse for a longer period of time in that situation. The dilemmas of the legal and/or moral 'rightness' of either situation could be argued over forever, but the scale of SJ's abuses was larger than the scale of QJL's abuses. And of course, LBG's abuses was honestly much larger than either of theirs-- but that's laid out in his character anyway, he goes to exponential extremes.

Honestly, I haven't seen anyone say that LBG was justified in what he did and that was never what I tried to argue, because tbh I thought it was common knowledge that he was a terrible person. But people seem to misinterpret me and think that's what I'm saying anyway-- that because SJ was an abuser, he deserved what LBG did to him, and anyone who likes him is terrible as well. Which is never what I said, but what always seemed to be what people thought I was saying...

And now that I've seen things like that discord message, you know what, I get it. I understand why SJ fans have such a knee-jerk reaction to people pointing out his abusive actions, because honestly if this is the kind of shit that people give you guys for daring to like a character that just happens to be problematic, or heavens forbid liking that character and relating to him because you know what? So do I, there's a reason he's popular, he has a compelling story and he's very understandable in the way that he is!

Like on one hand, it makes me personally very uncomfortable to see people say that SJ wasn't abusive, or that he wasn't that bad, and blaming LBH for being abused. Just like it would make me uncomfortable to say any of that about SJ irt QJL/WYZ. But on the other hand, if the only way you were allowed to like a character without being harassed and attacked and having accusations thrown at you was if the character wasn't actually problematic, no wonder you don't want to hear that kind of analysis and it feels like a personal attack!

Anyway, what I want to say to the fandom as a whole is, please don't make assumptions about people and attack them for liking or relating to a character-- any character. You have no idea why they like or relate to a character, and honestly it's absolutely disgusting to make accusations and attacks on people for something like this. And for SJ fans, I'm genuinely sorry if what was meant to be character analysis posts on canonical traits of the character, as well as a reminder that victim-blaming and abuse apologism and denial are pretty not cool, was read as an attack and calling the fans bad people for it. I get you guys have had it rough and the fandom hasn't treated you well-- but also, please try to curb knee-jerk reactions, not everyone is out to get you. If you just don't like thinking about SJ's abusive traits, or prefer to write the character OOC or with different motives, then just say that. Pointing out canon is not the same as an attack. From looking at the debates on this blog, it seems like a lot of people are reading attacks into statements where there aren't meant to be any.

Not everyone who points of SJ's abuse hates the character or his fans-- some people just like to analyze the text, or find it uncomfortable when it seems like people are victim-blaming because of their own life experiences. But also, not everyone who doesn't want to focus on SJ's abusive traits and prefers to focus on other aspects of the character is excusing abuse or anything like that-- sometimes it's just not relevant to the story being told.

The answer isn't to claim your fav was never abusive when he was. the answer is for people to not pass judgment on other fans because of what they want to write about or what characters they like, and not to read attacks into statements where they're not meant. It's no one's place to pass judgement on someone else whose life you know nothing about from behind a screen-- and it's also not good to lash out at others because you've been hurt in the past.

Fandom, please stop forgetting that other fans are actual real people with real lives, real stories, and real trauma that you don't know about. There is never a reason to send hate, abuse, and death threats to anyone, no matter how much you disagree with them.

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People say svsss has the chillest fandom. As someone who hasn't read it but follows the danmei confessions blogs, I strongly disagree 😂

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I think some people just have to admit they don’t actually like SVSSS and that’s okay. If you keep talking about how you don’t like SY, LBH, or BingQiu and only like one thing you should probably just move on. Honestly it kind of reminds me of SY who liked parts of PIDW but held on to it like a dog with a bone.

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Okay I might seem annoying, but BABY WANG YIIIIIIIII!!!! 😍😍😍 I rly can't get over baby Wang Yi, in long hair, cultivators robes, looking like a soft pretty bottom. Just I love baby Wang Yi in cultivators arc!

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If I had a SJ plushie I would throw it against a wall, NOT because it's a SJ plushie specifically but because it's a plushie and it's cute

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I just wanted to let you know that things might still be glitching, because there are still many submissions with hidden comments in them. So you might want to look into it

Hmm, I checked some posts and I didn't see that? Would you mind linking one of those posts so I can check if there's the same problem?

-Mod Feiji

no anon, if I die then I die-- but all this arguing about Shen Jiu is silly

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https://www.tumblr.com/danmei-confessions/740666806863265792/i-think-we-should-uwuify-sj-more-if-god?source=share

So true. Heck sj is very simmilar to binghe that I am quite suprised that there is people who likes lbh (fanon especially) while hating on sj's uwufication. My brother, please, just let us have this like how you had your blorbo uwufication.

Also imo we should uwuify all danmei characters- regardless of if they did something bad or not.

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I think we should ''uwuify'' SJ more, if god airplane shooting the sky AND MXTX wanted us not ''uwuifying'' him, then they simply wouldn't have created SJ. Cos for ffs sake, airplane gave an advice to SJ on how to save LQG, ONLY. And MXTX wouldn't have gave him a whole extra and call him Jiumei herself.

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