the trans community as a whole need to be more educated on the way you talk to intersex people

this isnt an individual call out for anyone as much as it is a learning oppertunity because this has happened to me at least 4 times in the last year so  i thought if its that much of a problem maybe i should make a post about it but for the love of god if youre non binary, dont ever say to intersex people that you wish you had their body, please never, ever do that. a lot of intersex conditions have a huge impact on overall health, for me being intersex is painful and difficult, i didnt develope correctly and having an extreme hormone imbalance has actually deformed my skeleton and its painful, i didnt get to understand how my body works in the same way everyone else does growing up because i didnt even know what parts i have or what even works, this isnt something you should wish for and its a competely different to wanting to achieve a gender neutral body because thats how you identify. you can do it safely through medical intervention, you dont want a disorder, and i think non binary people are 100% valid and i support you all the way but what youre wanting isnt to have an intersex condition. there is huge overlap in the experience of intersex and trans people and you can identify as intersex and trans, but with this overlap people need to be respectful and educated about intersex people, and some people are proud and open about their experiences but its insensetive to say you want to be intersex without fully understanding the amount of complications it can come with depending on the condition.

What to do if you are facing eviction

Eviction protections are expiring across the United States and Canada right now, and millions of people are suddenly finding themselves facing eviction with a pandemic still raging and the start of winter just around the corner. 

Not knowing where you’re going to live next month is an unbelievably scary position to be in, and there are a lot of people out there who are facing this for the first time in their lives. It’s okay to be scared. But it’s also important to start taking steps to deal with this as soon as you realize that might be at risk of eviction. 

As someone who has worked in homelessness and housing advocacy my whole career, here’s what I recommend you do:

Do not leave your home. Many landlords count on their tenants not knowing or understanding their rights, and take advantage of that to try to illegally evict them without following proper procedure. I have seen landlords attempt some flagrantly illegal things during my time working with vulnerable people. Many landlords have been ignoring and violating eviction moratoriums during this pandemic. Don’t fall for it. There is a legal process that has to be followed to evict you, even if your name isn’t on the lease - your landlord cannot simply slip a note under your door ordering you out by the end of the week, no matter what they tell you. Do not leave your home until a judge orders you to do so. You may have a better shot in court than you think you do, and seeing the court process to the very end buys you valuable time to figure out your next move. 

Get a lawyer. Many legal aid societies and law school legal clinics offer free legal assistance for people facing eviction. Having a lawyer can make an enormous difference - one study found that people without lawyers were evicted 65% of the time, compared to just 15% of people who had legal representation. Start calling and contacting legal aid services as soon as your landlord threatens or files eviction - these services often only do intake for new clients on certain days, so it’s a good idea to research these services ahead of time. 

Understand your rights. The protections you have under the law depend on where you live - it’s critical that you take the time to educate yourself about what those protections are. Your area will likely have a Residential Tenancies Act, a Tenant Act, or something along those lines. Look online for information specific to your area. There may also be special protections and procedures in place because of the pandemic. If you live in NYC, for instance, you have a right to free legal counsel if you are facing eviction. Find out what protections you have in your area.

Contact resources in your area. Again, depending on where you live, there are different resources available. There may be a tenant support agency that can connect you to free legal resources directly. You might be eligible for unemployment benefits or emergency income. Your state or city might also have emergency funding or eviction prevention programs in place. NYC, for instance, offers “one shot deal” emergency grants that cover rental arrears for people who are facing eviction due to unexpected crises. You should also look at emergency housing options, community food banks, or other resources that can help you survive this situation. In many cities you can call 211 or 311 to learn more or about resources, or you can go online. 

Attend your eviction hearing. Once you are given a date and time for your eviction hearing, it is critical that you attend. Even if you have not paid rent in several months and you think your case is hopeless, you absolutely must show up for this hearing. If you don’t attend, you will lose by default - if you attend, you may be successful in winning leniency, the opportunity to pay back rent with a payment plan and avoid eviction, or even just a few weeks’ extension on the eviction date so you have more time to come up with a plan. Attend your hearing. 

Have a back-up plan. Even with legal aid resources on your side, you have to prepare for the possibility that you might not be able to fight your eviction. Buy yourself as much time as you can, and use that time to start researching possible options. Is there a cheaper room for rent that you can afford with your unemployment benefits? Do you know anyone you can stay with? Are there any housing non-profits in your area that can help? Do you have any leads on employment in the future? Explore your options, and remember that it’s okay to ask for help right now - people in your life can’t help you unless you tell them that you’re struggling. 

Call your representatives. You are not the only person suffering as a result of expiring COVID protections - your elected officials need to know that letting these programs expire is having serious, dire consequences for real people that they represent. Call everyone. Call the office of your congressman, call your MP, call your state senator, your MLA, your local city counsellors. Tell your story, and make as much noise as you can. It doesn’t guarantee that anything will be done, of course, but it makes the problem harder for your elected officials to ignore.

Important Resources for Americans: LawHelp.org - website for learning more about local laws and finding free legal aid in your area  JustShelter - a database of community resources available to people facing eviction (might not include all emergency pandemic programs) Eviction Moratorium Database - a database showing where evictions have been legally paused or restricted because of the pandemic National Evictions Database - a database where you can look up what the legal eviction process is supposed to look like in your state  Tenant’s Union Resources - a website where you can find information for the tenant’s union or pro-tenant organizations in your area  Legal Services - a federal non-profit that helps connect low-income households to legal resources for fighting eviction 

Fannie Mae Renters Resource Finder - a database that will tell you if your rental unit is federally financed, and show you resources to fight eviction accordingly  Freddie Mac Renters Resource Finder - another website to show you if your rental property is federally backed and connect you to resources

Eviction Lab - a website that outlines information about pandemic eviction moratoriums and restrictions currently in place in your state The National Housing Law Project - a comprehensive database of resources for people facing eviction or foreclosure  Important Resources for Canadians: The Canada Mortgage and Housing Corporation - up-to-date information about eviction moratoriums in each province and territory  Affordable Housing Programs Across Canada - information on affordable housing programs in each province and territory Western Law Eviction Information - a website outlining the eviction process in Ontario and what you need to do to fight it Community Legal Education Ontario - a website that shows the proper procedure for eviction in detail and outlines steps that can be taken to fight it  Nova Scotia Legal Residential Tenancy Law Resources - detailed information about the eviction process in Nova Scotia and how to fight it Centre for Public Legal Education Alberta - resources and information for renters facing eviction in Alberta  BC Housing - information and resources for tenants facing difficulties in British Columbia  Saskatchewan Office of Residential Tenancies - information for tenants facing difficulties in Saskatchewan  Tribunal Administratif du Logement - resources and information for tenants living in Quebec. Available in both English and French. 

also im gonna add onto the whole “stop being perfomative to transfem people” thing ive been talking about. also please dont take me as like.. the only post because this is how i see it and im not the best at wording.

your support toward transfem people shouldnt be an afterthought, what do i mean by that? dont derail transfem positivity, dont post transfem positivity with comments like “rb to make a terf mad” or smth like that. if your focus on rbing a post meant to uplift transfem people is to “make a terf mad” youre not focused on actually supporting them.

also, stop talking about terfs all the time, stop posting them in transfem spaces, stop reminding transfem people that they exist all the time, its a dick move. stop giving them platforms as well. just ignore them dude, 99% of the time they just want a rise out of you to be annoying, you’re not gonna convince anyone.

tldr? stop pretending to uplift transfem people to be a good “ally” when youre just using them to look better. if you want to uplift people, uplift them, theres no need to add a comment (unless its positive toward transfem people) and especially no need to remind transfem people about terfs all the time. 

Lesbians with eczema are beautiful and their eczema doesn’t make them any less ethereal!

Bisexual women with eczema are so pretty and their eczema doesn’t make them any less divine!

Pansexual women with eczema are absolutely lovely and their eczema doesn’t make them any less stunning!

Omnisexual women with eczema are so glamorous and their eczema doesn’t make them any less attractive!

Polysexual women with eczema are so cute and their eczema doesn’t make them any less gorgeous!

Sapphics with eczema deserve to not feel bad about their skin because of the unrealistic standards that society places around beauty!

If someone else living their life makes you dysphoric, then I really am sorry to say that’s something that you personally need to work on, not something to be taken out on the other person.

(Transmeds, TERFs, and exclusionists won’t be listened to on this post so don’t even touch)

You can still identify as ace or aro if there’s a reason or cause for it. You’re always allowed to choose labels that are true for you and resonate with you now.

If your ADHD is causing you to fuck up more, it doesn’t necessarily mean that the ADHD is getting worse.. you could just be doing more things which gives you more opportunity to fuck up.

This is one of the reasons, ADHD can get ‘worse’ as an adult. A child has very few responsibilities. An adult on the other hand, has all kinds of opportunities to fuck up on. 

not to be an Sjw™ but uh…. trigger jokes are essentially jokes about actual ptsd and the real, terrifying, and often humiliating symptoms that come with it. maybe it’s because im not hip w/ the kids, but i don’t really understand the humor in making fun of literal trauma. idk just stay away from me with all that

By invalidating certain aromantic peoples aromanticism you are invalidating all aromantic people

shoutout to my aros who spent years trying to convince yourself that your intense platonic feelings were actually romantic. you don’t have to try to be something you’re not, and you don’t have to pretend to want something you don’t.

and an especial shoutout to my aros who did that with people of the same gender as them. your identity is not just internalized homophobia, and your experiences are real and valid.

this is doubly true of aros who are attracted to their same gender in ways other than romantic! your attraction doesn’t need to be romantic and realizing it isn’t isn’t make you bad at being gay/bi/pan.

and if you’re still struggling to figure out where your feelings lie, it’s okay. you don’t have to know all at once. you don’t have to know at all. you can claim the label aro without being certain, the whole aro spectrum is there for you if you want it.

your struggles to come to terms with yourself and your relationships are yours, and i am so so proud of you for embarking on the road to accepting yourself <3

roller-blade dancing lesbians 🌈 💖

and they are available as prints on my inprnt store (link in bio!)

Tacky flags for anon

I’ve found myself wondering “Where are the trans people of color?” a million times.

In my life, I’m often the only person of color in a room of trans people. I’ve noticed it is harder to find pictures and reviews of products (like packers) in the non-white skin tones. I see fewer pictures of POC post-surgery, and fewer people of color documenting their changes on HRT. Selfies of trans people, binary or non-binary, tend to skew towards the white and AFAB side. Hopefully, this blog can provide a sense of community and inclusion for all trans people of color.

This blog is a place where we can answer that question. Where are the trans people of color? We’re right here! We’re talking about how our day went, about our families, about coming out, about our pets, about our transitions, about our ups and downs. We are here. We exist.

This is a new blog for TPOC (trans people of color) to submit selfies of themselves! Anyone and everyone is allowed to follow us, all support is welcome, but only TPOC can send selfies.

Please reblog and spread the word!

We see you (x)

queer chevron combos (¾)

genderfluid | bigender agender | demigirl | demiboy neutrois | maverique | genderqueer

I made queer butch and queer femme flags using @disasterbisexual’s butch and femme flags!

Credit me if using :)

Radfems/truscum DNI

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