Normalize seeing someone's lack of effort as their lack of interest in you regardless of what they tell you. Giving you all of the right words, but none of the right actions is called manipulation. When a person wants to be with you, they prove it.

“Until you get comfortable with being alone, you’ll never know if you are choosing someone out of love or loneliness.”

— Mandy Hale

makes sense , and don’t worry i’m not taking this as hate or anything like that! just wanted to add my two cents for anyone struggling with discernment as i know my old self definitely would’ve! but you’re absolutely right, love is not supposed to be traumatizing.

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You know what I realized…How conditioned this generation has been into staying in relationships that aren’t serving us or aren’t working. All the time I heard during my teen years from others or on social media about relationships, “I want to be in a relationship where we don’t just break up we sit and “work it out”” or “nobody leaves, we stay”.

Normalize leaving when you witness disrespect. You or not obligated to stay in relationships that are unhealthy or that are creating issues within yourself and within others. Contrary to popular belief relationships and love are supposed to be easy, marriage is not “hard”, love is not supposed to be traumatizing or difficult to nurture or upkeep.

i wish this advice wasn’t black and white. relationships are hard, especially long term ones. please use your discernment on advice like this.

difficult ≠ toxic.

You know what I realized…How conditioned this generation has been into staying in relationships that aren’t serving us or aren’t working. All the time I heard during my teen years from others or on social media about relationships, “I want to be in a relationship where we don’t just break up we sit and “work it out”” or “nobody leaves, we stay”.

Normalize leaving when you witness disrespect. You or not obligated to stay in relationships that are unhealthy or that are creating issues within yourself and within others. Contrary to popular belief relationships and love are supposed to be easy, marriage is not “hard”, love is not supposed to be traumatizing or difficult to nurture or upkeep.

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normalize not forcing people to choose you. If someone thinks they can get better elsewhere – let them try. Respectfully.

Reasons someone may not have replied that aren’t the bad reasons your brain suggests to you (they’re mad, stopped caring, you aren’t important, etc).

They’re asleep/resting.

They have no service.

They want to take time to form their reply.

They don’t have the energy to reply right now.

They’re working / don’t have access to their phone.

They accidentally opened the notification and meant to reply and got distracted (this doesn’t mean they don’t care either! I do this a lot and I love my loved ones dearly. My brain is just chaotic sometimes.)

They’re in a really bad place.

They’re in a situation where it’s rude to use their phone.

They really just want a break from talking to people.

They are enjoying a movie, game, activity, etc.

Something came up they had to deal with asap.

A lot of the time, to challenge irrational thoughts we need alternative explanations to combat them. Here are some for a situation when a loved one hasn’t replied to you. I encourage you to plan for other situations that come up for you as well.

{୨ꕤ୧} Love Advice from the Universe

ʚ ═══･୨ꕤ୧･═══ ɞ Pick a Pile ʚ ═══･୨ꕤ୧･═══ ɞ 

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。°⚠︎°。follow your intuition when choosing a pile. if you're drawn to more than one pile, that's okay! you may have messages in more than one.

。°⚠︎°。tarot readings are not 100% accurate, and do not dictate your future. please keep in mind that you have free will. these readings are also general and aren't specific to one person, so please take what resonates and leave what doesn't! 

Pile 1

Pile 1, you might find yourself in a connection that isn't serving your highest good. You could have a tendency to diminish your own needs and struggle to assert yourself when you're not being treated as you deserve. Feeling stuck in this situation might stem from uncertainty about how to address it. It's not that you're unaware of your worth, but rather, you may struggle with expressing your needs and desires. Perhaps you're recognizing patterns in your life where you've prioritized others' needs over your own. You might harbor deep feelings for someone who tends to approach emotions more logically, which can trigger you at times. The universe urges you to find peace within this connection by taking the right actions. If someone is treating you unfairly, it's essential to speak up and not remain silent to avoid conflict. Old childhood wounds may resurface in this dynamic, offering an opportunity for healing and release. However, approaching conflicts in the same way as before may only exacerbate tensions. While disagreements are natural in relationships, it's crucial to address any controlling or unjust behavior. Commitment takes time, and navigating obstacles together is part of the journey. It's essential to understand that your partner may also carry their own childhood wounds and struggle to express care in ways that you're used to. However, this doesn't mean tolerating abuse, manipulation, or outright hurt. Your partner's display of care may differ from your own, but someone genuinely invested in the relationship will be willing to compromise and work through challenges with you. It's vital to communicate your needs and desires openly, even if it feels daunting. Releasing old patterns and behaviors may be intimidating, but it's ultimately for your growth and well-being, Pile 1. Trust that advocating for yourself and your happiness will lead to healthier connections and greater fulfillment.

Pile 2

Pile 2, it seems that many of you are currently single and grappling with feelings of self-doubt and a fear of rejection in your love life. There may be a pervasive belief within you that you are unworthy of love unless you go to great lengths to prove your worth, whether through overdressing, wearing makeup excessively, or overly emphasizing your independence. This struggle may be rooted in a mother wound that affects your perception of self. Despite being guided by the universe to look within and release these worries about your worth, you find it challenging to trust the signs and synchronicities around you. There's a fear of failure if you follow your intuition, which leaves you hesitant to take risks and open your heart. It's crucial to shift your focus from your head to your heart and body, allowing yourself to heal from past hurts without internal criticism. Recognize your inherent beauty and worthiness of love, protecting your heart without isolating yourself. Your intuition is a powerful guide, urging you not to ignore the feelings directing you towards growth and self-care. Consider the impact of your community on your self-perception and love life. Whether it's online groups, friends, or acquaintances, if their beliefs do not resonate with your truth, it may be time to distance yourself. Remember, any mistreatment from others does not diminish your self-worth; it reflects their character, not yours. Understand that your value is not contingent on how others treat you. Lastly, address any codependency issues that may be surfacing. Embrace self-love and nurture your inner worth, paving the way for healthier relationships in the future, Pile 2.

Pile 3

It seems like many of you in Pile 3 are navigating through the aftermath of heartbreak or challenging times in your love life. You're focusing on self-care, nurturing your emotions, and trying to uplift yourselves. Yet, despite your efforts, you might feel lost and isolated, uncertain of where to turn for help or guidance. There's a fear lingering among you, a fear of opening up again in love. You possess a deeply nurturing energy, making it difficult to detach, even when others don't reciprocate. People-pleasing tendencies might be holding you back, making it hard to assert your own wants and needs. The universe is urging you to keep moving forward, not allowing others' opinions to overshadow your desires. Seeking therapy or exploring ways to assert your boundaries could be immensely beneficial. There's a maternal energy present, suggesting that some of you may have experienced mother wounds or aspire to be a mother in the future. Despite your struggles, you hold wisdom within you, knowing what you deserve and what will bring you happiness. Seek guidance from those who embody the life you envision, rooted in healthy relationships and emotional maturity. Avoid getting trapped in overthinking and self-criticism; instead, focus on understanding your attachment styles and fostering healthier connections with those around you. Remember, you're not alone on this journey. Trust in your inner wisdom and seek support from sources that align with your values and goals.

“source?” divine intuition, gut instinct, and cryptic symbolism from my dreams

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{𖨆♡ 𖨆} Who will be your next partner?

ʚ ═══･୨ꕤ୧･═══ ɞ Pick a Pile ʚ ═══･୨ꕤ୧･═══ ɞ 

. ༄ . paid readings . ༄.

。°⚠︎°。follow your intuition when choosing a pile. if you're drawn to more than one pile, that's okay! you may have messages in more than one.

。°⚠︎°。tarot readings are not 100% accurate, and do not dictate your future. please keep in mind that you have free will. these readings are also general and aren't specific to one person, so please take what resonates and leave what doesn't! 

Pile 1

Pile 1, your future partner seems like a bit of a mystery wrapped in a dream. They're the creative type, always eager to lend a hand but not so great at asking for help themselves. It seems they've been through the wringer in love before, maybe coming out of a tough situation when you meet them. This person feels things deeply, maybe even gets lost in their emotions sometimes. They might seem distant to others, but that's just because they struggle to express what's going on inside. Misunderstood as aloof, they're actually just wrestling with a jumble of feelings. Despite this, they're not ones to shy away from adventure. They've got a spark for exploration, a childlike wonder that's both bold and brave. When it comes to decisions, they're all about following their heart, even if it leads them into uncharted territory. So, get ready for a partner who's a bit of an enigma, but with a heart full of courage and a spirit yearning for new experiences.

Pile 2

Pile 2, your potential match is a real go-getter, always aiming to steer their own ship. They might seem a tad controlling, but really, they just value their independence and don't like being told what to do. Rebels at heart, they're not big on following the crowd or taking advice from others – they trust their gut above all else. They're come off as confident and may have a bit of an ego. They might prefer short-term flings over long-term commitments, relishing their freedom and not feeling the need to settle down. They could be a bit of a catch, with plenty of admirers vying for their attention. Living life on the edge is their style, always chasing the next thrill. Yet, beneath that daredevil exterior lies some emotional baggage from past hurts. They might not have fully dealt with it, which sometimes leads them to push the limits. Despite this, they handle it with grace, giving off an air of composure. They're more laid-back than they let on, though, trusting their intuition and going with the flow. Life's too short to sweat the small stuff, and they're all about making the most of every moment. Your next partner is someone who has equal parts spontaneous and soulful, ready to dive into life headfirst and enjoy the ride.

Pile 3

Pile 3, your next partner might not be so new after all – you might already know them. It could be someone you've had a bit of a break from. Work seems to have been a big priority for them, maybe even causing some strain in your relationship. You both decided to take some time apart, but it was always with the understanding that it wasn't goodbye forever. This isn't a case of ghosting; it's more like a mutual agreement to hit pause for a while. Deep down, you both know there are things that need to be hashed out, conversations waiting to happen. They've been sending mixed signals, leaving you feeling a bit confused and maybe even rejected. But hey, you've moved past that – your gut tells you there's more to this story. It's time to have that heart-to-heart you've been putting off. Who knows? There could be some big revelations waiting for both of you. Despite the ups and downs, you trust your intuition when it comes to this person. So, get ready to dive back in and see where this journey takes you.

“If you care about somebody, you should want them to be happy. Even if you wind up being left out.”

— Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of being a Wallflower

“I learned the hard way that I cannot always count on others to respect my feelings - even if I respect theirs. Being a good person doesn’t guarantee that others will be good people. You only have control over yourself and how you choose to be as a person. As for others, you can only choose to accept them or walk away.”

— Unknown

““dear self, for the times i didn’t show you enough love, for the times i didn’t love you at all, i forgive you.” - sabina laura”

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