BDSM gets a bad rep as like a violent (male) dom pushing the boundaries of a reluctant (female) sub but in my experience it's a lot of subs with wildly elaborate fantasies screaming shit like "PUT MY ASS IN THE CHILI" while a new dom is like "Okay I think, we are reaching yellow for me,"
Yeah, you support people who want to be rape-I mean, roughly fucked and abused until they're broken. But are you normal about people who want to roughly fuck and abuse them until they're broken?
Yeah, you support people who want to be fucked while they age regre-I mean, while they're cute little, innocent babbling toys. But are you normal about people who want to fuck them when they're cute little, innocent babbling toys?
Yeah, you support people who want to be fucked while they're drunk or unconsc-I mean, while they're asleep and high. But are you normal about people who want to fuck them while they're asleep and high?
Yeah, you support people who want to be beat up and cut-I mean, bruised and marked. But are you normal about people who want to bruise and mark them?
Yeah, you support people who want to be fucked while they're dogs and anim-I mean, while they're puppyboys and kittygirls. But are you normal about people who want to fuck puppyboys and kittygirls?
Yeah, you support people who want to be fucked by their parents and sib-I mean, by their pretend siblings, step bros, step sisters, mommies and daddies. But are you normal about people who want to be their pretend siblings and parents?
Yeah, you might support people having fucked up, dark, disgusting kinks, but are you actually ok with the people who will do fucked up, dark, disgusting things to them?
Or is it only wrong when those people are transfems?
Snuff but in a “I want to be a phoenix who keeps coming back” sorta way. In a “I want to be stuck in a time loop that you control” kinda way. In a “I want you to enjoy the feeling of ripping me apart so much you bring me back to life” way.
You know how a pretty obvious majority of kinksters are submissives? You want to know a big part of the reason why it's hard to find a dom that's into the same hard kink you are?
Ask a hardcore masochist what they think of being whipped.
Then ask a hard sadist what they think of whipping someone.
Do you notice that the sadist/dom will often either dance around an answer or try to use soothing language/euphemism not unlike the way how in many places people are still expected to discuss sex if at all. Gentle, calculated language.
The issue is, especially with a new surge of purity culture overtaking so-called "leftist" online circles, is that fantasy becomes a moral judgement.
Sub with a noncon kink: "I want to be raped" (cnc but like. People can talk ab it how they want don't cancel me fr.)
Response from Normies: "well that's weird and kinda dark but ok"
Dom with a noncon kink: "I want to rape"
Response from Normies: "I'm calling the police and you should kys and you're also a sexual abuser and even though you haven't said anything about kids you're also also a pedophile :)"
Not only does the attitude of murderous hatred against doms/tops with hard kinks/fetishes/paraphilias make it difficult for them to practice those kinks (safely and ethically) out of fear of social backlash if it's ever found out even if both they and their partner[s] had a great time and are fine-- but, it actively puts innocent people in danger by equating thoughts and attractions of ANY KIND to the act of hurting others against their will. It equates fantasy, which can oftentimes be played out safely if in a modified way with real harmful actions.
Also, kink is still illegal in many places, so don't "its illegal" me about harder kinks. Law is not morality, none of us are free until all of us are free, etc. You get the gist.
You want to see more doms? Meet someone who can indulge your "scary badwrong" sexy feelings? Then maybe don't actively promote a culture where you put ANY kind of attraction or kink under fire. It doesn't matter if it'd be unethical to act out in real life. Some of the most common kinks worldwide are unethical as fuck to act out irl, including rape. That's why we have cnc, come on, guys.
You know what? In fact, you SHOULD actively shun people who shame others for their sexual feelings. EVEN if you think it's gross. EVEN if it wouldn't be ethical to act on irl. Let these types know that their puritan ideals are NOT accepted here. Let them know that if they want to go to church they can do that but not in your space, not forcing other (non consenting!) people to listen to their hateful and repressive ideology.
Like, hey, I'm not into ABDL, for example. But I will defend to the death other people's right to be into that. To think and feel whatever they think and feel. You think diapers are sexy? Great! I don't personally see the appeal, but you do you boo. There is no Correct Way to be sex/kink negative. Either you believe in thought crime or you don't.
And yes, this post includes "harmful" paraphilias (I put it in quotes because they're only harmful if acted on), sadomasochism, mutilation fetishism, etc etc. Every "gross" or "evil" kink, fetish, para you can possibly imagine. The stuff that makes you horny is just stuff that makes you horny, and being horny is normal. Being "weird horny" is also normal. No one deserves to experience shame, let alone public harassment or hate over feelings they most of the time don't Choose to have. Be mindful of puritan rhetoric and strike it down when you see it.
your blog really led me down the pipeline of "okay as long as your fantasy isnt illegal its fine" to "i need some miquella and mohg shit to happen to me rn"
always happy to introduce miquella and mohg shit to people who can appreciate it :)