Hal(wyr) | he/him | gender is just. Confusion like idk either man | adult | the blog formerly known as shiny-boi-zane and ai-liker | weird about homestuck | classpect: fuck if i know. either prince of mind or something (sylph?) of heart. or blood. or space. or hope. | @autoResponder on cohost.org | any additional information must be pieced together from tags
people lots lots lots say " can not control situation but can control reaction " … so want shout out for people who can not , actually .
people who have meltdown because " small " thing go wrong - always bigger than people believe .
people who get angry and defensive when someone try bully and hurt - can not " just " ignore like everyone say .
people who feel actually violent when something upset - who need time and place to go hit things , so that not hurt people .
people who can not understand how stay calm and walk away - who instead get frustrate and say shut up go away .
and anyone else who relate to this - that can not control how react , not so easy like that .
is not bad person to not be able control reactions how people expect .
there is benefits in have skill , but , not deserve to beat self up for not have skill . people should support if or when try learn , but also , should support even before learn , give outlets and patience .
some people will forever have less skill , because brain physically can not adapt and learn right . some people have episodes and crises where control impossible . still do not make bad person . still deserve support .
i wanna say fuck you to anyone who shame disabled, chronically ill & neurodivergent people, especially homebound folks, for "spending too much time on their phone/on the internet/etc." when it's the only (Somewhat) accessible way for them to experience the world. many people don't get to get out much even if they want to because of their disabilities. shaming someone for trying to connect with the world, make friends and engage with hobbies in ways that are accessible to them is beyond cruel and unnecessary