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[ID: the four-panel meme of Gru from despicable me in front of a presentation board where he gets increasingly excited in the first three panels and then disappointed in the last one. In order, the panels read "I'm aroace", "I finally have a crush", and "My crush is also aroace", which is repeated on the fourth slide, where he is disappointed. /End ID]
#unfortunately relatable.#it's also especially stupid bc other people being aspec allows me to unlock certain elements of attraction that are normally off limits#bc the other person doesnt “get it” or whatever. but they do get it. but then theyre literally aspec.#j tag
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is anyone other than me talking about how bad bunny keeps making songs that are about aromanticism
#TITI ME PREGUNTÓ?? YO QUISIERA ENAMORARME PERO NO PUEDO????#HAZLE CASO A TU AMIGA ELLA TIENE RAZON YO VOY ROMPERTE EL CORAZON SORRY YO SO ASI NO SE PORQUE SOY ASI??#YO NO ME QUIERO CASAR??#aromantic#arromantico
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Everyone better have a crush on me because Im cool and awesome but also nobody better have a crush on me because that would be weird and gross
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i have this thing i call "attraction dysphoria" bc i realized that a lot of times when i'm attracted to people as an aro person it leaves me with the same type of icky feeling as gender dysphoria and rsd do. not sure how much other people resonate with this but maybe it's useful !!
having a crush as a mostly aro person transforms me into a disgusting half crazy beast of a man. I feel like I'm war torn, I feel devastated and sick to my guts.
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enough with the uncritical power of friendship in the aromantic tag
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ok actually this is real as fuck the opposite end of the relationship anarchy spectrum of experiences is being like wait why have we created such a divide my experiences aren't THAT abnormal
being a relationship anarchist is really like oh ok i experience the world in a fundamentally different way from literally everyone else i talk to. lol
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i'm over her (i still think about her any time i see a picture of two cats cuddling)
#in my defense it the cat thing was sort of foundational to our relationship#j tag#this also. i'm learning. applies for a lot of anthro art i've seen lately.#sort of interesting that i distinguish anthro from furry bc the style doesn't feel like Furry it's just Humans As Animals#it's like. night in the woods is not Furry. to me#it's kind of interesting that that distinction has emerged right#(probably i would react similar to furry art i just don't come across it often)
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#it used to be yes + aro-spec but i feel In Theory more normal about it now#however. um. never once has anyone who has had a crush on me that i knew about. been normal about it#so i get scared D:
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#said it's complicated BUT#well. hm#the more i think about it the more confused i get#i feel “aromantic” as an identity the most strongly#BUT! my aromantic experience is inherently flavored by experiencing attraction sometimes#and my allo identity is *exclusively* based on the fact that i am aromantic.#and also isnt much of an identity on it's own. it's kind of just “broadly queer”#but like. when i write songs about the person i am in love with. it goes in the note file of me writing about my aromanticism#i am realizing that i have become less attached to the idea of being aromantic specifically in the past year#i still feel very strongly the no normative relationships but my own description of internal experiences is more. eb#*eh#which is probably a combination of becoming much more relationship anarchist and also having experienced. idk. romance-mimicking attraction#honestly musing if i were familiar with RA before aromanticism probably i would view my aromanticism more as like#“i guess this is applicable to some of my experiences”#maybe. idk
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Canon Aros(Lithromantic) 279/?: Shiho from Rei Taki's Last Gender: When We Are Nameless volume 2 (2021/2023)
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shout-out to this post for teaching me about this movie bc i just saw someone in my new work cohort recommend it and say they cried watching bc they related to it and. 🫵🏻 i know what you are
Just watched "I am what I am", which is a Japanese movie about a 30 years old aroace woman. It's so good and the portrayal of her experiences is very realistic. I like the way this movie is structured and how it's telling her story. I highly recommend it, as it's not only excellent representation but also just a very good movie.
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everything can be an aromantic allegory if you try hard enough
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i think a lot of people would be happier if they viewed labels like homosexual and transgender as social technologies rather than identities
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Explicitly Aspec Characters in Japanese Dramas
Japanese shows have been coming through recently with that aro and ace rep! Thought I would put together a list for anyone interested in seeing more aro, ace and aroace characters. Feel free to add on if I've missed any!
Koisenu Futari (TV series) - Takahashi Satoru and Kodama Sakuko
You've probably heard of this show. It has not one but two explicitly aroace characters with very different personalities. The entire show revolves around them figuring out life after identifying as aroace. Takahashi is also canonically touch-averse.
Kimi no Hana ni Naru (TV series) - Onodera Takara
I have not watched the show personally and so am not sure whether he's aro or aroace. Every time I see the translations, they are different, so will update as and when I watch the show for myself. But he does explicitly say he does not experience romantic attraction. This show is also written by the screenwriter of Koisenu Futari.
Cherry Magic (TV series and Movie) - Fujisaki Nozomi
Another gem from the creator of Koisenu Futari. Fujisaki is canonically aroace.
Konya Sukiyaki Dayo (TV Series) - Asano Tomoko
Again, I'm not sure whether Tomoko is aro or aroace but she explicitly says she is aromantic in the show and that she doesn't understand romantic attraction.
Raise de wa Chanto Shimasu (TV Series) - Takasugi Ume
The main character's best friend is explicitly aroace. She says she "isn't capable" of experiencing romantic attraction, admits to never having had sex, and is uncomfortable with people being attracted to her.
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Just watched "I am what I am", which is a Japanese movie about a 30 years old aroace woman. It's so good and the portrayal of her experiences is very realistic. I like the way this movie is structured and how it's telling her story. I highly recommend it, as it's not only excellent representation but also just a very good movie.
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