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Hey i hope you're having a nice day just want to ask something related to your answer here about her having monumental setbacks in her plans what do you think those monumental setbacks could be? Or what are the factors that make them happen? Thanks😁

hope you’re having a nice day too! here is some of what what i was referring to:

kissgate 2014 — being filmed by a complete stranger and having it go viral on the internet (and on daytime tv), forcing her hand with karlie before she was ready.

the 2016 election upset — she had been rebuilding her public relationship with karlie and was clearly taking steps to incorporate their circles, performing songs at mikey’s birthday and even had austin walking around the block with josh for pictures. the election upset, where trump won when the world thought clinton would win, forced her hand with karlie from a political angle that she wasn’t prepared for

the masters being bought by scooter in 2019 — she had been slowly rebuilding her public relationship with karlie as lover era arrived. karlie had gone to rep tour, had started liking posts by taylor on instagram again, there was the pretty clear inclusion of karlie’s hand in the yntcd promo video, taylor patched things up with katy which felt like a resolution to the swish swish feuding narrative, taylor was poised to do something at new york pride, and then scooter bought her masters and she pivoted away from all of what she was doing so as to (some of us theorize) block scooter from profiting off of what her next moves were going to be, and any extra profit he would stand to make from karlie as well.

i can think of a few others (another quick example might be the pandemic) but these are the big three i often think of and refer to in shorthand.

as for the factors that make them happen, it’s a bit like force majeur. in evermore and ttpd taylor has mentioned this idea of being cursed, and i think this is a big theme for her personally. if what you’re angling for is to suggest that it’s bearding that is the main factor in these problems, i would have to disagree. i think it’s something closer to an inability from taylor to do, say, or risk something in the heat of the moment when it’s uncharted territory with uncalculated risk to what she has built. i don’t mean to say that as an insult or slight. it is a legit form of tough decision making and the problems she’s faced are very wicked. i just think that sometimes ill see people throw out the sentiment “why doesn’t she just take the nuclear option” or “she should just say fuck it and come out” etc etc and while i understand what people mean, i think it might be a fundamental misreading of her nature. like it’s… probably not that simple for her.

What do you think is making her miserable if not the bearding? That's a huge part of the lie. I'd assume she feels terrible having to do that.

to me, the bearding is what would make the kind of life i assume she has possible. i think what’s instead miserable is the continued cycle of getting close to fulfilling her best laid plans in the way that she wants to, only to encounter one monumental setback after another, leading to her basically start all over again. i feel like if you’re a serial master planner and if every two or three years all your hardest work had to be scrapped, you’d become miserable too.

bearding is in a way another reflection of the state of affairs, but i don’t see bearding as the root cause of the misery. i feel like it is possible that it could be what affords her some level of peace of mind from her own perspective, from which she can then give herself permission to experience a sort of happiness that is around her. like it’s not ideal conceptually but i don’t think it’s my place to say what taylor personally needs or doesn’t need.

If you could have Taylor explain one of her songs to you, which one would you pick? She has to honestly answer all your questions about it and go through it line by line, telling you her references/inspiration and exactly what everything means.

happiness

this was the best 😆

those closed eye *vibes*

its not long form stuff it’s mostly stuff like this, posts from arkham asylum as i affectionately call call them to myself, and it’s so funny because despite them being worded so convolutedly, i could tell you the color of the shirt on my back and the flavor of tea in my cup while i was writing these 😆

some of the stuff i have in my drafts 😆

I was starting to change my mindset too and not get bothered by the bearding either. But she told us she's basically miserable behind all this and now I can't even laugh at it cause what the hell? But then also if she's miserable why is she bearding so in your face when it's not necessary? And hanging out with Brittany M should make you miserable.

i think maybe you’re assuming that it’s the bearding that is making her miserable!

taylor shoulda done a second version of labyrinth. wouldn’t have to have been fancy. she coulda just sent labyrinth to radio, labyrinth (shorter version)

anon i think you may have got the wrong impression of me but thanks just the same i appreciate it and ill look into it!

some of the stuff i have in my drafts 😆

↓ this from my drafts 🤣 love an esp moment

instead of the post mortem swifties wanted, tay was like f*ck all ya’ll fans (you know you you are) and f*ck all y’all men for closeting me all these years (you also know who you are) 😆

she really went there at an unprecedented level!

she really… she really crafted a framework for singing about her fans bemoaning a love that they don’t approve of. it’s right there people!! like, helloooooooo

TAYLOR NATION

eye theory edition come thruuu!

eye don’t think eye properly processed this 🙈🙈

eye theory edition come thruuu!

Hi 9. I hope you are well. Your blog has been a balm for my soul in dark times, read your comments full of confidence it's like fresh air.

I would like to ask if recently or in the past, you have received unpleasant comments saying that we are wrong in what we believe in addition to adding insults, etc. How have you learned to deal with it and if at any point have they hurt you emotionally?

aw heyy thanks for saying that!

oh yeah over the years i’ve had my share of flack and insults in my inbox or maybe i’ve had an altercation here or there, and sometimes you can put a bandaid on and go about your day but usually it’s still a cut you can feel. i guess the tl;dr: would be, i think that over the years ive learned to find the right blend of environment and outlook that sets me up to have it hurt less. also i think being able to contextualize hate dismantles its power greatly.

the big thing that youve got to have the ability to laugh at yourself. this is such a wild situation to be in! embrace it. a little self deprecation goes a long way. if you let go of the need to be understood by everyone and you recognize how wild of a situation it is that we are in, and if you can laugh about it, it cures most things imo.

next you have to keep the context of the hate in mind. a lot of things i’ve had said to me just dont hurt because i know the people saying them just don’t understand what they’re talking about 😆 maybe this comes with time.. like maybe if you hang around long enough it will click, but people from different parts of the fandom are speaking from completely different languages of meaning and beliefs and so i’ll see a comment and just be like wow that’s so fascinating how this person got compelled to compose that and say it with their whole chest. couldn’t be me!

another thing is just, it has a lot to do with where we are at and what i believe or what other like minded people do. to us, we have kiiinda already reached a kaylor win condition. i know people would disagree and i get why, but to me, in the grand scheme of things, i don’t feel the need to argue or defend because we’re already there. we’ve already made it! all the rest is a bonus to me. and so what this outlook does is it makes any hate seem really really quaint. like don’t care if rude people don’t understand. why would they deserved to? 😆 they should stay right where they are.

i think hate can hurt more when you at a point where you are less confident of what you think or if you want to listen to everyone and make sense of everyone as a way to uphold ‘fairness’ or a sense of a greater community but, when you are around long enough and get a better sense of each groups’ different motivations, you come to realize that your good intentions to involve and convince everyone is a bit of a fool’s errand because at the tops of each group is a core that will never move from their position. in the end it’s just more about a personal journey, i think. and i think usually you pick a lane or a group and just stick to it and most of the drama feels different because when you stop feeling the need to litigate, hate becomes confrontation for confrontation’s sake, and then the hate stops being about you, and you can see it as a part of a bigger thing.

also one key thing… i think it’s eons easier to avoid everyday conflict on places like tumblr than on twitter. it’s easier to curate what you have on your blog and its not a very public facing platform so things are more quiet and don’t spread to the general public. this filters out a ton. and there’s less eyes on your stuff and like people can screenshot and bitch on their own space but it’s not a quote tweet so you don’t really have this sense if you’re being talked about. you can block and even block individual IP’s, or on the flip side you can monitor activity on statcounter and see patterns of where messages come from and it kind of dismantles the mystique of them. tumblr makes it a lot easier to just do your thing. it’s not always in your face. and i would have a different persona and talk differently if i was on a different platform.

and i think people in general are better at staying in their lane here than on other platforms. over the years we have all sort of found our pockets and in general we stay in them, i think! so the stuff i do get is just always worded and delivered in the same way so i know its from the same people so it’s a little bit like kramer popping in on any given episode of seinfeld. it’s just part of the routine at this point 😆

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eye am gonna pass out

taylor

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AJR’s 100 Bad Days pretty much sums it up huh… okay… hey! look they have a music video! cool cool. well then, let’s take a looksee

the three horsewomen of the eyepocalipse