This is probably like my favourite comic ever made in the world i think

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So it's pride month and I am the only one of three queer and disabled roommates able to work steadily. I just got fired without pay from one of my two jobs, and almost my entire check from the other job is going to cover an important appointment tomorrow.

Meanwhile, we owe $550 in bills, which are now getting late fees. Our internet will be turned off if we can't pay within a few days, which is major because I work remotely.

I will do art for anyone who helps with this, just contact me at @theartistrans where I do commissions and sell paintings I've done. I am working on getting legal help for this and a new job. Dm me for proof or more details.

$25/$550

$C--V--PP--kofi

Milkshaked on the first day of his election campaign. We love to see it.

happy birthday omar!! 🥳

also:

What possessed me to read a fic where one half of my ship died of cancer. Why did I give those weapons to my depressed brain. "Ya know what I need? For my heart to be filleted like a mignon". Normal people with poor impulse control just do drugs

I see the Twitter quote about how straight people will never have to worry about their marriage being nullified so I must once again remind white gays that interracial couples exist and conservatives don’t like us, either.

Once again randomly remembered this story about a couple who had a small parrot - pretty sure it was a budgie - who didn't talk but learned to communicate with people in its own way. Once it figured out that people always turn to check their phones when the notification sound comes on, it started making the text message notification sound to request human attention. The parrot also liked to follow people to the door whenever guests were leaving, and would use its wings to pantomime the motions of a person putting their coat on. A very clever, charming bird.

And every once in a while it just randomly hated some people. Not for any real reason, or even reason to suspect bad vibes, but by deciding "fuck this person in particular" for shits and giggles alone. And one time when the owners had invited a new friend to their home, the bird decided that it Did Not Like Her.

So in the middle of polite conversation, the bird - who was free to roam around the apartment at the time - hopped onto the living room coffee table, right in front of the unwanted guest. And in that moment, the owners put two and two together and understood that whatever mischief the bird had decided to do, it was now too late to stop it.

But instead of unleashing the absolute hell that even the tiniest displeased parrot could be capable of, the little budgie made its little "may I have your attention please" cell phone notification sound, and once the guest was focused on the bird, looked at her dead in the eye while doing the putting-my-coat-on wing motion.

The guest did not recognise the pantomime for what it was, but she was nonetheless delighted that the parrot would do a little wing-roll dance for her. And the host couple were at first too stunned and then too polite to tell her how impressive that gesture truly was. Their bird had shown both remarkable restraint and cleverness by using its entire vocabulary of human communication just to say

"I have an important announcement: I think you should leave."

One more thing re: badly written women - when it comes to female characters that ARE written poorly I wanna shout out the people who still make fan content for them. The people who love the objectively badly written characters, the ones ignored or ruined by the writers. The people who write fanfic to fix their arc or flesh them out, who ship them despite not being given much to work with. The people who decide that female villains can be given a redemption arc too. The writers and artists who give background women the same treatment fandom commonly gives to background men. Everyone who ships f/f rarepairs and brings that AO3 fic count up to double digits. To everyone who sees potential in underwritten women, I love you and you deserve kisses and ten million dollars in cash.

People do not take ableism seriously at all as an oppressive force, most times ableism gets brought up on here its to make fun of people calling it out. Its actually so bad that I recently learned that someone who was defending me for calling out ableism lost tons of followers for it, you cant even defend someone against ableist harassment without getting attacked for it

does violence have to be the last resort. cant it be like third

Dick: If you have to resort to violence it means you've already failed. Damian: *furiously* Grayson, there's nothing wrong with necessary violence— Dick: Of course not. I meant it means you've failed manipulation. Damian:... Dick: *wags finger* Alfred and I raised you better than that.

What would it be like to be hyperfixate on a piece of media whose fandom isn't horribly triggering I wonder.

why won’t SOMEONE ELSE create media with all the highly specific extremely esoteric themes motifs imagery and allusions i personally wish were in things

In which I throw myself a pity party.

Once in a while I remember that my anger issues are part of my Complex PTSD and wonder whether that's still a personal failing if it's a mental illness symptom. Like, one of my cardinal beliefs is that your actions due to mental illness may not be your fault but they are your responsibility, and no one owes you more patience and forbearance than they can afford to give. But it's not easy to separate that from "fault". Especially when I'm so goddamn ashamed of it.

I feel like part of taking responsibility would be to go to therapy and work on fixing myself (word choice intentional— I feel like I'm broken and dangerous to other people) except I'm to overwhelmed and depressed and traumatised to figure out how. My last therapist made me so suicidal I had to be hospitalised.

Also like. I'm wondering whether it's worth trying because I never stay fixed. I think I'm stable and then I lose everything I've gained and destroy even more relationships become worse than ever. It's like Sisyphus except if he thought the boulder wouldn't go down all the way this time except it would roll down even further and crush every hope he'd painstakingly built on the way. Attempting to get better just seems like an invitation to go through all that loss and shame afresh. I don't think I've really mourned everything and everyone I've lost already.

My particular neurodivergence works as "out of sight out of mind" and I'm used to going long periods without human interaction anyway because I was isolated and very ill for years, so the missing just sort of fades into the background unless I really think about how much I miss them, which hurts like a motherfucker, so I just don't. So far I've lost all my dreams of a career, most of my closest friends, my marriage, my in-laws I was close to and their children I loved, my dogs (my boy died four years ago and my agoraphobia stops me visiting them at my ex's for months), most of my relatives (long story but I begged them for help and they vanished) and my two cats. Of all those it's the animals I hurt over most tbh. The only two people I knew for certain loved me, my Dad and my mother-in-law, both died, and they feel like old wounds that feel fresh only occasionally. I'm back to having a relationship with my sister since Mum's stroke last year but some days I wonder whether the four years I had gone no contact wasn't better.

I don't know. Caring about things just means losing them to me. Not them dying but losing their love, or them moving out of reach. I think that's why I have an easier time caring for animals. I don't lose their love before they die. They also seem to be the only things I don't destroy myself in some way. For all my self-pity it's me who drove most of my friends away because I didn't know how to handle being loved.

This is pretty maudlin and wallow-y but that's just one more thing I can't seem to help. I think it's just worse rn because I turn thirty-seven in three days. It feels like sliding down a deep, dark well a little more every day, and I don't know how to get out.

As Biden tries to distract the world with yet another “possible ceasefire plan,” this is a reminder that Israel is still full force bombarding Rafah, allowing no aid to enter southern and northern Gaza, and routinely raiding cities in the West Bank. Today a 15 year old Palestinian was shot due to a raid near Jericho, while an Israeli attack in central Gaza killed 7 people—including a woman and her infant. Eastern Rafah is being heavily shelled as we speak. There is only one functioning hospital in all of Rafah, and it’s on the verge of collapse. Hundreds of people die every single day

it really is mind-boggling to me that the only reason i know about the Congolese and Sudanese genocides is because of the tireless work of grassroots activists and advocates posting on social media. I can honestly say that if I didn't have social media and didn't happen to be following Black authors and activists, I never would have known what was happening in Sudan and Congo because it is simply not being reported in the great majority of mainstream media. We're talking millions upon millions of PEOPLE enduring unimaginable pain and devastation with next to no official reporting. And yes that is in huge part due to the level of violence and displacement occurring that is preventing a lot of news from getting out of these countries, but it's also so blatantly due to anti-Black racism and the perception of African Nations as inherently savage and violent. But genocide is not and never should be normal for anyone anywhere. With that in mind, please keep Congo and Sudan in your thoughts. Check out Focus Congo for resources to help the Congolese people on the ground. Focus Congo's MO is a local organisation whose goal is to rebuild homes, rehabilitate land, and provide medical aid, education, and resources to Congo's most affected people. Also, Check out Keep Eyes On Sudan for how to help out and raise awareness of Sudanese people displaced by civil war. According to Sudanese TikToker bsonblast, donations to local food kitchens in Sudan are desperately needed to fight famine. If anyone has other resources specifically for helping Congo and Sudan, please add them and link them <3