may i be kind to myself even on days when it is easier to do the opposite.

it’s the kind of day where you sleep 15 hours straight & still rot in bed because freeze response is always reliable to humble your ambition

sometimes you really do have to let go what you want to do at least for the moment, not because you don’t deserve it or you are not allowed to have it, but because you have too much on your plate & your peace is more worth keeping than the overwhelm of achieving everything now.

& it can look different to everyone !!! maybe making yourself a healthy meal is yours, maybe it’s giving yourself grace on a bad day, maybe it’s speaking up when someone hurts you. the idea of asserting your livelihood looks different in everyone’s journey so i hope you celebrate all the ways you reclaim your life today <3

actually, to have the audacity to live, to take up space, is the scariest and most rewarding gift you can give yourself.

actually, to have the audacity to live, to take up space, is the scariest and most rewarding gift you can give yourself.

*guides will include also how to maintain the burst of momentum after getting out of freeze (like: supporting yourself when you have no support system, modelling compassion for yourself, moving away from self-sabotage, how to wade through the lows of recovery period)

ps. if anyone is interested, i might start a taglist? lmk!

My bf sent me this and it's so relatable

hi sorry i havent properly taken care of this blog the way i want to. i hope you're doing well and have a warm blanket to snuggle in <3 this post has no new content you're probably looking for. just some updates & thoughts abt this blog in the tags; tw dissociation, messy recoveries, etc.

When cats hold each other >>>>>>>>

cruelty is so easy. youre not special for choosing it

Genuinely fucked that cultural perception of aging is getting warped to the point where people in their twenties are considered old at the same time that all the constructed milestones of independence and self sufficiency that have become expected of adulthood are getting further out of reach for the majority of people. Like, no, you haven't missed out on anything, no one has "wasted" their 20s, or 30s, or any stretch of time, it's just that a lot of things really fucking suck right now. There isn't anything important you can do at, say, age 21 that you can't also do every other age after that.

baby tripod fish (bathypterois grallator) | source

You don't have to feel bad for not wanting to be around the people who hurt you.

No, "but they're your family."

No, "but you used to be friends."

No, "but you have to put up with it because they're your partner."

No.

If someone hurts you repeatedly and there is no indication of them trying to do better, you are allowed to dislike contact with them.

So many people feel guilt over not wanting to be around people that intentionally hurt them.

It's not wrong of you to want distance.

It's not wrong of you to want to be treated well.

My counselor once told me to make sure I wasn’t doing things to distract myself from the boredom rather than try to sate it. I feel its one of the most important things he ever said to me.

When I’m distracting myself from the boredom, I read or game excessively so I don’t feel the emptiness of boredom. It’s a short term thing, and it only staves the boredom as long as I’m doing the thing.

When I’m sating myself from the boredom, I pursue things I am genuinely interested in and so find myself feeling fulfilled and happier for a longer period of time. Even if I stop doing it temporarily, I don’t immediately fall apart as I would with the distraction.

does anyone know that post where it says hope is not this warm, soft thing but rather something gritty, and picking oneself back up again and again wiping blood from the mouth? i know i read it before on tumblr

edit: found!!