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5 Things to Remember When You Want to Give Up on Life

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Put your happiness and wellness first. Make yourself a priority and leave those that bring you down. It’s okay.

This is what boundaries sound like... this should be a daily affirmation post for anyone who is currently in a situation where they are not respected, or for those fortunate enough to be coming out of a similar situation to remind them that they are doing OK, that they made the right choice and that “it’s OK to remove yourself from people & situations that are no good for you”.

And to the very few lucky people who have had to endure a life with toxic people, be thankful for this - and remember that you cannot judge a situation that you know very little about, information is not knowledge... you can read up on things, you can listen to someone’s story but you must always remember the number 1 rule.... they are not you, and what they are explaining is a moment of the pain & suffering they are enduring. All they really want is for you to listen, without judgment. They don’t even really want advice because chances are they all ready know what they SHIULD do, but believe them when they say they can’t, not yet. Remind them that they are enough, that they matter and that you’ll be there to help when they are ready to put boundaries in place.

Not one single person on this planet has the right to make you feel like shit. Period.

Don’t let the words of others define who you are, don’t lower yourself to their standards & no matter how hard it is, just say nothing at all... the truth will speak louder than words, people will remember how they only had you or others to talk about, but when they spoke to you... you talked about YOU, about normal stuff, about your hopes and dreams, about how your day has been and you listened when they talked too - you asked questions and waited for their reply & you actually cared about the answer to “so, how was your day?”.... People will become tired of talking to people who talk about people, they will never have anything new to say, they don’t have a conversation in the true sense of the word - they are either talking, or waiting to talk... that’s what toxic people do, they are shallow, empty creatures who sadly sometimes come disguised as “family” or “friends”.

Please, please don’t let their lies inside your mind... You know the truth and in time, you will know your worth, I promise.

Please. 🤍

Sometimes we all need daily reminders that WE ARE ENOUGH regardless of how others make us feel 🧸💕

Please be a kind human and be the reason someone smiles today 🤍

Toxic people don’t recognise or like boundaries as this threatens their control & how much they can ‘feed’ off you. You are only useful to a toxic person when you “worship” them, agree with everything they do/say and when you never hold them accountable for their actions. As soon as you stand up for yourself or heaven forbid, tell anyone (including them) that their behaviour is not acceptable, then they will see this as you being ‘difficult’ and they will immediately begin the smear campaign against you.

BE STRONG AND STAND YOUR GROUND. Don’t give into their demands and don’t let them past your boundary - the second they know they’ve upset you, or that you’re let your guard down, they ‘win’, they see this as justification for their behaviour.

Be warned, they will play the victim and tell anyone who will listen that YOU are the problem, that YOU are unfair, that YOU are being unkind... Let them, let them tell everyone - if their words can change the way someone else treats you, then they weren’t ‘your people’ to begin with. It’s hard, it makes you feel alone and it’s uncomfortable but in the long run, it’s far better & easier than your life will be in the future with the toxic people controlling you & making you feel worthless.

If you are starting to put boundaries in place - even if it’s just one small boundary and even if you only started today. I am proud of you and can assure you that you are doing the right thing... keep going, no matter what and always remember why you started. Remember how shit they made you feel and every time you hear something that they’ve said, treat it as a reminder that you’re doing the right thing - their smear campaign is happening because they feel threatened and they only feel like this because they know you are right! Fuck anyone who takes their side - not everyone you lose is a loss, no matter how much it hurts at the time... think of it as a blessing that your eyes have been opened to people who were never really ‘your people’ and who never had your back. They could be life long ‘friends’ or even family, but it what it is - you might have to see them every day but now you know that they’re under the “toxics” spell (probably because they don’t have the courage to stand up to the toxic or they like living in a world where they are surrounded by bullshit) then you can be more careful about what you say/do. Think of it like you have learnt a few lessons; you’ve learnt not to expect anything more of that person, you’ve learnt not to trust them and you have learnt that they didn’t care for you as much as you did for them... Now you need to accept this and take your kindness, your love, your support elsewhere. Someone, somewhere will appreciate you for you, they will stand up for you in any situation, they will love you for you... and if you can’t believe there is anyone in your life like this right now, then look in the mirror! Do it for yourself, be your own supporter, be proud of you and love yourself... You matter, you’re doing the right thing and I promise that even though it might hurt again in the future, losing these people will never hurt more than it does right now... it WILL get easier, it WILL NOT always be this painful and you WILL feel & be better 🤍

And for anyone who knows someone going through this, someone who has started to put some boundaries in place, someone who is actually standing up for themselves then please reach out to them and be kind. You might hear some awful things about this person, but the chances are what you’ve heard has come from the mouth of the toxic person - it’s part of their smear campaign. And you know what, even if it’s partly true, then remember that this person was once under the control of the toxic and people in those situations do some strange things but there will be a reason. If you absolutely have to, then why not ask them - don’t ever assume that the small part of the story you have heard is the whole picture!! This person has started to care for themselves better, this person is starting to make themselves a priority, they want to make their life better, they don’t want to be used/lied to/undervalued any more. They want be better, they want & deserve more... But they are likely to be feeling alone, they’ve probably been hurt and/or lost people who they loved and who they never thought would do that to them. They will be fighting a battle that you’ll never see, their heart and mind are at war constantly, they are hurting, they are worried that they will lose more and if life will always be like this... PLEASE reach out and be kind, you don’t have to know what to say or even mention what you’ve heard or that you’ve noticed a change in them. All you need to do is say hello, even the smallest gesture will go a long way right now.

Be that person!!!

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Quotes of Sarcasm

“I owe myself the biggest apology for putting up with what I didn’t deserve.”

— Unknown

Daily reminders 🤍