How To Douse Out The Flames Of Burnout

How To Douse Out The Flames Of Burnout We live in a world that allows demands to be placed on us 24/7, which means we're all at risk of burnout. So how can we avoid it and thrive #Stress #Work #Workplace #Blog #MentalHealth #BreakDown #LifeSkills #Read

As someone who has had issues with both people-pleasing and imposter syndrome, burnout is something you have to worry about. The times I’ve burned out have happened because I hadn’t been paying attention to my own wellbeing, and before I knew it, it was too late. Now I had to recover from burning out, which can take a very long time.     What Is Burnout?   When the term burnout was first coined,…

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The Harm Of Perfectionism And How To Overcome It

The Harm Of Perfectionism And How To Overcome It There are two types of perfectionism, the one that guides us to try to be better, and the one that compels us to be perfect at all cost #MentalHealth #Work #Life #Advice #Wellbeing #Health #Wellness #Blog

Picking up on what I touched upon in my self-acceptance article last week, today we’ll be talking about the harm of perfectionism. Perfectionism is something I’ve suffered from, and it really had a negative effect on my life and how I developed as a person. But with my health and mental health issues, I just don’t have the spoons (energy) for it anymore. And quite frankly, neither should you.…

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Self-acceptance: Why It's Important To Our Wellbeing

Self-acceptance: Why It's Important To Our Wellbeing It's surprising just how strenuous life can be if we're unable to practise self-acceptance, but it's an important part of our wellbeing #MentalHealth #Advice #LifeHack #Wellness #Blogging #Blogger

Recently, I started a therapy called CBT-E (enhanced cognitive behaviour therapy) which is used to help people with eating disorders like me to return to regular eating (Frostad et al., 2018). I’ve had a complicated history when it comes to eating, which you might be familiar with if you read some of my earliest articles. But that also comes packaged with my issues around body image,…

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The Spotlight Effect And Social Anxiety: All Eyes On Me?

The Spotlight Effect And Social Anxiety: All Eyes On Me? I can tell you from personal experience the damage the spotlight effect can do to someone's wellbeing, but it's all in our heads. Here's why #MentalHealth #Blog #Anxiety #Panic #Advice #Blogger

When it comes to social anxiety disorder, the spotlight effect is often a factor, a very powerful factor. It can ruin your life if you let it. I know it did for me. But what if I said that the spotlight has never been on you and that you’re just holding a torch under your face like you’re about to tell a ghost story at a sleepover? Keep reading to find out more. What Is The Spotlight…

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Creating A Safe Space So People Can Open Up

Creating A Safe Space So People Can Open Up Too often people nowadays know a lot of people, but don't have people they can open up to. But it doesn't take much to be that safe space #MentalHealth #Wellbeing #MentalIllness #Support #Advice #Network

In therapy, creating a safe space is pretty straightforward. The therapist will discuss the rules and policies they have in place if they hadn’t already made them available to you prior to the first session. You should be informed about how confidentiality will work at the very least, and what situations they’ll be legally required to break confidentiality. Those legal requirements where…

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Introducing February 2023s Unwanted Life Sponsors

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It’s 2023, and it’s already February. Time certainly seems to be going fast so far. It’s the season of love with Valentine’s Day not far off. So let’s start by spreading the love for this month’s sponsors, so without further ado, here’s a warm welcome to February 2023s Unwanted Life Sponsors. February 2023s Unwanted Life Sponsors Andrea Hunt – Living Deliberately If you’re like many people,…

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How To Kick Agoraphobia And Panic To The Curb

How To Kick Agoraphobia And Panic To The Curb Living with agoraphobia and panic attacks sucks. But there are ways to manage these issues. So check out this guide on how to do that #Anxiety #MentalHealth #Treatment #Life #MentalIllness #SelfHelp #Blog

Quite a while ago now, I wrote an article about the Fear Of Going Somewhere New, making this article a very long overdue follow-up. It also works as a follow-up to my other article, Out Of My Comfort Zone: Christmas Edition, as well. I you’ve read either of those, then you’ll know about my agoraphobia. Thus, I hope you find this article on how to overcome agoraphobia useful.     What Is…

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How To Use The Empty Chair Technique For Self-Help

How To Use The Empty Chair Technique For Self-Help Learn how to use Gestalt therapy's empty chair technique on your own to help work through your issues and get closure #Theory #Psychology #LifeHack #SelfCare #MentalHealth #Therapy #Wellbeing #Wellness

I decided to write about Gestalt Therapy’s empty chair technique because I wanted to learn more about it myself, as I’m a multimodal therapist. Rather than being someone who specialises in a single type of therapy style, such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). I’m all for picking what works from other therapy domains so I can provide people with support tailored to their needs. So I hope you…

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Teaching Children About Bullying For Better Mental Health

Teaching Children About Bullying For Better Mental Health Teaching children about bullying is important not just for our own children, but for all children, producing lifelong benefits #ReachOut #UnitedAgainstBullying #MentalHealth #StopBullying #Advice

I personally experienced childhood bullying solely based on the colour of my skin, so I know first-hand how detrimental it can be. To this day, I’m still paying the price for the bullying I had to endure, because I got no support from anyone, and that included my mother. This is why I wrote the article, ‘How To Teach Children About Mental Health‘, which is why my follow-up to this article is…

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Commemorating My Forth Straight Year Of Blogging

Commemorating My Forth Straight Year Of Blogging It's that time of year where Unwanted Life will be commemorating its birthday, for the forth time in a row. Come join the celebration #Milestone #Birthday #Anniversary #Achievement #Success #Blog #Blogger

Let’s start by commemorating the fact that I started Unwanted Life on 7th January 2019, with the first article (Date Night: The Difficulties Of Meeting My Partner) going live on 14th January 2019.   Since then, I think I’ve only missed one, maybe two, deadlines for publishing a new article, because of health issues. I was also overestimating my ability to publish articles as frequently as my…

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Introducing January 2023s Unwanted Life Sponsors

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Happy 2023, a new year, a new start, and welcome to the January 2023s Unwanted Life Sponsors article. I hope you had a glorious New Year’s Eve and didn’t have too much of a hangover the following day. I had a fairly simple New Year’s Eve celebration. My partner hosted me and some friends for drinks, nibbles, and party games. It was a good night.     January 2023s Unwanted Life Sponsors   Andrea…

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Identity Crisis: What Happens When Our Identity Is Unstable?

Identity Crisis: What Happens When Our Identity Is Unstable? Having a strong sense of identity will positively affect our wellbeing, but that also means an identity crisis is harmful to our wellbeing #MentalHealth #Blog #Blogging #Wellness #Health

If we have an unstable identity, such as someone not coming to terms with their gender identity, sexuality, or in my case, their ethnicity, then that can be a breeding ground for mental health issues. My issues with my ethnicity, because of relentless racial abuse as a child, left me struggling with an identity crisis right into my twenties. I still have some lingering issues with it from time to…

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Finding Meaning: What Makes Having A Purpose So Important?

Finding Meaning: What Makes Having A Purpose So Important? It's been argued that one of the fundamental factors in our wellbeing is finding meaning and purpose in life. To find out why, keep reading #MentalHealth #Life #Wellness #Philosophy #Blog #Read

Much like how beauty and art is in the eye of the beholder, so is meaning and purpose. That’s why we often can’t find the same sense of fulfilment in the things that give other people that feeling. Finding meaning in life is as personal as it gets.     Terror Management Theory’s Take On Finding Meaning   The idea of finding meaning and purpose in ones life has given me the opportunity to talk…

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How To Glow Up Your Mental Health This New Year

How To Glow Up Your Mental Health This New Year With the New Year upon us, now is an excellent time to work on ourselves and learn how to glow up for a great new us for the New Year #2023 #Festive #SelfHelp #LifeHack #MentalHealth #Wellness #Health

It’s that time of year again, where we say goodbye to the old year and hello to the new year, a year full of possibilities. To celebrate the start of a new year full of possibilities, let’s see how we can all glow up our mental health.     Disclosure: This article contains a referral link. If you click through and sign up, I’ll earn a referral bonus and you’ll earn a sign up bonus at no…

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The Useful Wellbeing Life Lessons We Can Learn From Immigrants

The Useful Wellbeing Life Lessons We Can Learn From Immigrants There are many sources of life advice in the world. An often overlooked source comes from immigrants. So what can we learn from them? #Refugees #Migrants #Expat #MentalHealth #Wellness #Blog

With the war raging in Ukraine, not to mention other parts of the world, now seemed like a good time to talk about immigrants. The word we use instead of expats for people we don’t identify with. With Christmas upon us, and with most religions teaching us to be kind, why is it we still treat immigrants so badly? A question for another time, maybe. I’m an invisible disabilities blogger that mainly…

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Applying The Swedish Lagom Approach For A Better Christmas

Applying The Swedish Lagom Approach For A Better Christmas Christmas can be a stressful time of year, but it doesn't have to be, not if we take a leaf out of the Swedes' book and give the Lagom a try #MentalHealth #Xmas #Wellbeing #Wellness #Gifts

Is it just me, or do the Swedes seem to have a word for everything that could benefit our mental wellbeing? Not long ago, I wrote about Fika, which is another great Swedish tradition. Now here I am writing about Lagom and how to apply it to Christmas so you can get through the season with your mental wellbeing intact.     What Is Lagom?   As evidenced by our consumer-based society, we’ve been…

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Journaling To Better Mental Wellbeing This Christmas

Journaling To Better Mental Wellbeing This Christmas Chances are you're going to forget to look after your wellbeing this Christmas, like every Christmas. But Journaling can help you avoid that #MentalHealth #Christmas #Xmas #Festive #Holiday #Santa

It’s that time of year again, where routines and schedules go out the window as we prepare and endure the festive season. What often gets overlooked during the festive period is our wellbeing. So what can we do for our wellbeing this Christmas? Journaling, of course. Keep reading to find out more.     Why Should You Journal For Your Wellbeing This Christmas?   If you’re not already journaling,…

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